To think life isn't all it is cracked up to be?

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I mean I have many blessings but at the same time I over worry when things go wrong and today it made me stop and think that no one asked to be here as in living iyswim. And was thinking we are here for such a long time but such a short time too if that makes sense and then I think why am I even worrying as my life will be over at not too long in the future.

Like are we all meant to be happy? Enjoy life?
I even started to feel I little bit guilty about bringing my children into the world when they didn't ask to be. They are inevitably going to be hurt, sad etc at some point in life and I have been feeling guilty about that really

Sorry, I hope that makes sense. Something happened today that really hurt but wasn't my fault and I am just hoping it doesn't affect my children down the line. I then also thought life will be over for us all at some point and then will it really matter?

I think sometimes I think life would be easier if I was never even born, meaning that I wouldn't have to go through hurt, hard times atc.
Does anyone feel that way or is it just me?

Not just you 🙁 This life is so hard, and I constantly ask myself what's the f'ing point of it all

Wouldn't bother me if I knew I was going to die tomorrow. I'm not depressed, I'm semi retired, have very good health, and have plenty of money.

This might help:

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It wouldn't be easier and you wouldn't have to go through hurt because you just wouldn't. There would not be any you. You would have felt nothing, seen nothing, know nothing. Never see sky or the sea or your children's faces.

There probably is no point, certainly if you're an atheist (I'm not) I don't see how you can be justified in saying there is any ultimate "point." The point can only be what you make it.

Either way the only "point" we can be certain of is to experience the world. Just to be and to exist. That doesn't mean always being happy.
Believe me as a person who suffers from lifelong GAD and existential terrors, I get it. I like to think there's maybe more to the universe than we see and more than just this brief iteration but I know that's just speculation, or hope, and therefore not useful to many people.
Honestly, your thoughts, though they are true, sound a bit like my despair spirals/ ruminative thoughts and I wonder if you have thought about counselling etc.

You might find the book "Happiness" by Mattieu Ricard interesting.

You sound depressed. Obviously there are good days and bad days for everyone but if you are questioning your existence on regular basis, then no that is not what everyone thinks. The good news is though, that that means it can be changed. You deserve to be happy on a regular basis. Firstly, get some help. Go to your GP and discuss how you are feeling and get referred to an IAPT or similar. Are there any support groups in your area? Are you spending enough time on your interests - are you developing interests? Look at some self help books, start journaling, practice gratitude, you will have some things to be grateful for. When I split with my EXh when he left me for someone else, I started gratitude journaling and it really helped me. Most of all though, go and see your GP asap - start getting some help and one day you will have the odd bad day and most days will be ok, good and great, not the other way round xx

I think about these things all the time. I don’t think that happiness is a realistic goal for many, what we really wish for is to avoid suffering. But some philosophers say that life is suffering.

I have thoughts like this and sometimes wonder if I’m supposed to be enjoying it more than I actually am. Don’t get me wrong there’s a lot of joy in my life but there’s a lot more hard work and stress.

But I do think about humans throughout history and I’m no expert but it seems like it’s always just been a hard slog for the average person. Serfs working the land, the Victorians in the factories and so on. Maybe it’s a modern idea that we have to survive AND be having a great time doing so. Or maybe we just have too much time to think and self reflect these days.

I don’t know OP but if you’re really struggling with it all please do speak to someone.

@Kbroughton I am usually happy and I was thinking just recently how great life is going but something happend today that brought on all those thought.
Mainly became I don't want it to effect my children in anywhere. And the thought of that got me thinking about LIFE and alllll it involves.

It’s better than the alternative

Life is what you make it. I've made mine pretty great. That's not to say that it's always been great, or that it will always be great, but I'm not going to waste it stewing on the negatives.

None of us chose to be born. It's about finding your own meaning in an increasingly unjust world. I'm more shocked that I still recall my childhood memories like it was yesterday and the group I grew up with are heading towards 60 now. It's more where has all that life gone than what was the point.

Life isn't about happiness - and chasing continual happiness is a mugs game

Been a bit in the press lately that expecting and aiming for continual happiness leads to greater discontent

Look to have joy at times , look to feel contented at times , expect to be sad, angry, hurt , tired , lonely and confused at other times because that makes you a whole person

Shielding childen from all hurt only makes them less able to cope with the inevitable hurt of life

Well if its a one off thought then that's better, do take care of yourself though, and I hope what happened today is just a bump in the road. Everything passes xxx

@Velmy Any tips?😂

I think there are very few people who wish they hadn't been born OP. And if they do, it's usually due to depressive illness or extreme misery and trauma. So don't worry about your DC. The odds are massively stacked that they will experience some disappointment, heartache, even abject misery at times, but also times of tremendous joy, excitement, fun and pleasure. Such is the human experience for most of us. As parents we can only hope they have more joy than pain and that the highs of life are worth the lows. Giving life to someone is to give a gift that most people are glad they recieved, even if it's imperfect.

We're just animals like all the other animals on this beautiful planet.
Unfortunately we also have the gift or curse of overthinking the present, the past and the future.
Watch how a fox or cat or bird lives each day in all the risk and wonder of the world. You and your children have as much right to be alive as they do. It's not easy but it's an adventure and it's all we have. And love and friendship help.

Life wouldn't be "easier" if you hadn't been born. Life simply wouldn't be anything at all in that scenario.

It would ne foolish to deny that there are challenges in life. Disappointments, failures, obstacles, hurts and anxieties about the future. But there is also joy, triumph, love, friendship, laughter, adventure, anticipation etc.

There is no light without the dark. Ultimately, I think it all comes down to how you choose to look at it. Personally, I'm grateful for my life, because although there is some shit that I have to endure, there is still stuff that I want to do and there are people that I want to jang out with.

There is no more point to human life than there is the life of sheep in the field. When you think about it, there is no point to any life. Not that we are aware of anyway.

Still, as we are here, we might as well make the most of it. No point overthinking it.

The point of life is not to be happy. It is to live it and to learn from the hardships you face and complete the lessons hidden in them. For example if you always attract the wrong kind of partner, you do so from a place of feeling unworthy of anything better. Until you realise that and start putting more value into your own self, you repeat and repeat the same pattern.

Life is messy and hard, but it can be joyful and rich too. Turning hardships into learning. And your children didn't come here because of you. They came here through you. And they will have their own lessons to learn.

There is no real.point to life....

Absolutely.
At the age of 12, I firmly told my parents I never chose to be born. It was 1992, former Communist country. They seemed very surprised and asked if I have read Buddhism (?).
Was a well read kid.
Now 46, I feel exactly the same. No point in chasing your tail, no point in anything, really.
This is light hearted, because I'm not depressed and extremely fortunate.
It's just the way it is, although I WOULD be bothered if I died tomorrow, as per PP.
Still waiting for a complete solitude in life, without seeing an actual human face at home.
Maybe then it won't be pointless, maybe it will be even more.😆 🤨

I don’t wish I’d never been born, but the thought that I might never have been born does not particularly keep me awake at night. There are many reasons that could have happened, my parents or the particular egg and sperm that made memight never have met,my mother might have decided she was one and done or had secondary infertility.

People need to be happy with average.

meds actually DO work (at least for me, a long term sceptic, and recent adoptee) if doctor so prescribes... If this will work for you... you have one life, dont be unnecessarily sad