To think life isn't all it is cracked up to be?

[Awayfayday]

I mean I have many blessings but at the same time I over worry when things go wrong and today it made me stop and think that no one asked to be here as in living iyswim. And was thinking we are here for such a long time but such a short time too if that makes sense and then I think why am I even worrying as my life will be over at not too long in the future.

Like are we all meant to be happy? Enjoy life?
I even started to feel I little bit guilty about bringing my children into the world when they didn't ask to be. They are inevitably going to be hurt, sad etc at some point in life and I have been feeling guilty about that really

Sorry, I hope that makes sense. Something happened today that really hurt but wasn't my fault and I am just hoping it doesn't affect my children down the line. I then also thought life will be over for us all at some point and then will it really matter?

Is it? You wouldn't know any difference. It would be blissful, no bills, and no stress!

I think life is a terrible curse. So much pain and suffering.Tell me what pleasure can possibly make up for any of the unbearable pain? You can't. We're just gaslit into having to say it's beautiful because people think any realism about life is toxic negativity. And because people want to keep having babies guilt-free. I NEVER would've agreed to be born and the fact parents get to play god with other peoples' lives is pretty crazy to me.

How would you know? We're never allowed to talk about wishing we hadn't been born, it's taboo. We're only allowed to talk about life being a gift.

Yes life is full of ups and downs - and I've had plenty of downs - but as a pp said, life is what you make it.
Instead of chasing happiness for myself , I spend a lot of time helping less fortunate people and abandoned animals. For me that is the point of life. Perhaps selfishly it also makes me happy.
May not work for everyone, but does for me.
I am also a Christian and believe we are here to aspire to become the best version of ourselves.

@WallaceinAnderland just so. OP I agree with pp's- you do sound depressed. I've felt this in the past when I've been in a particularly lonely place, pre-kids. As I've got older, especially post-50, there's so much joy in the small stuff.

Gin 😅

Life is meaningless and everything dies.

Makes me cry every time.

Oh yes I have these thoughts all the time. Weirdly, I have started watching people talking about their NDE experiences on YouTube and it really helped me! I've watched so many I don't know if what they say truth or not but it creates a really soothing effect for me.

YABU. The planet is definitely a better place with you on it @Awayfayday. For a start you have created this interesting thread. Thank you - it is interesting to think about. But yes life can be gruelling and definitely at those harder times, I'm sure it is natural to have such thoughts. The darkness and light helps to add meaning and perspective.

From a biological perspective, I assume we are all here simply to preserve the species. From a more philosophical perspective, we are here to find meaning in relationships, hobbies, work, goals, learning.

Ignore the PP who has made the trite comment about "life is what you make it". Everyone has tough times.

I remember when DC1 was a few days old, realising he was actually going to die one day 😲😭 so sad.

We’re not meant to be happy, not meant to be sad, not meant to do anything really other than reproduce. We’re the most developed species, so we worry about our kids’ futures. It’s the human condition, we’re afflicted by our own ability to perceive so much. But, really, you’ve achieved what humans are sposed to. We’re only here to multiply, like every other organism. It’s all an accident.

So just make the most of it and have a good time! May as well.

It's not, and I've had a harsh life with plenty of woes, but sometimes I'm just grateful to feel the sun on my face, or the wind on my skin and I think 'well if I wasn't alive I wouldn't be experiencing this'. Just a gratitude for being alive for the sake of it, if that makes any sense? I don't know how else to explain it.

Not depressed and I don't see the point of human existence at all. I don't think we are meant to chase happiness, it's just a state that is the opposite of sadness. I even am cynical on concepts like passion or achievements. I wish someone could persuade me to be less nihilistic.

I love my children more than my own life though. I do hope they find more joy than me, and i hope to have health to be around to support them as long as i can. Every little pleasure i enjoy, like a ray of sunshine, i think of my kids and wonder if they see the same at school etc. Apart from my kids i don't really care for my own identity, career, meaning/purpose etc.

They say life is what you make of it but I’m in a negative slump at the moment. I’m turning 35 and my hormones have taken a nose dive recently.

There's no real point but it's all there is. The alternative wouldn't be easier, it just wouldn't Be.

And even though there's no point don't you have, just every now and again, those moments of great luminescent clarity? Those days where everything falls into place? It's shifting and tenuous but it's there alright. And it's there because you are.

That, is worth holding onto. I think.

Life is hard for the most part for most people. But we have ad rye meaning to find the joy.

Thank you all. This has been really helpful and thank you to PP who recommend the book. This thread has helped me put things in perspective.

Like are we all meant to be happy?

Unless you are religious, there is no 'meant'. If you are religious, then presumably you have ready-made answers to the whole 'What's the point?' question.

I'm not scared or depressed by the idea of non-existence (before or after my death). The only thing about death that scares me is the prospect of a painful death or a protracted illness. But I'm pretty content being alive tbh. And I actively like the fact that I am an insignificant speck in the cosmos with no fixed purpose to my existence. It's quite freeing, and a lot less pressure than having a destiny to fulfil!

are you sure you're not? I similarly don't valorise these things (i.e. apart from children) but i still want fun! or, at least i do now on taking medical advice/prescription)...

extremely well said..

This. Through life, I’ve had many up and downs like most people. Some serious negatives, which have floored me for a while. . But, if I died tonight, I would say that I’ve had a blast - overall, it’s been light, laughter and joy. 👍👍👍🥂