Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To wish Starmer would make a unilateral decision to rejoin the EU?

308 replies

Wildflowers99 · 27/02/2025 18:59

That’s all, really. Yes it would be ‘undemocratic’ but should we sacrifice national interest on the altar of a vote from 10 years ago that everyone seems to regret?

We feel adrift during a scary time, and the US has all but ghosted us.

OP posts:
PoliteTaupeLeader · 27/02/2025 22:11

ARealitycheck · 27/02/2025 22:04

What an appalingly small minded self centered opinion. What is right for you or your family is quite ok. But if that isn't what is right for the majority of the population, then they have every right to expect what they voted for to be enacted.

The majority of the population didn't vote for it though.

ARealitycheck · 27/02/2025 22:12

PoliteTaupeLeader · 27/02/2025 21:56

Well, that's the obvious answer but you can't help some people.

As a EU citizen I actually don't think I could take the raging about Europeans for another year. I've never quite recovered from the understanding that I was surrounded by xenophobic arseholes.

I'd have liked to have left but unfortunately I'd made a home here with my British husband and children like a good little foreign type and it's not that easy to up root yourself.

So they can keep their Brexit. It hasn't actually affected me as an EU citizen, I'm still here. It's only as a resident of the UK I've been shafted like my British husband who now can't travel freely and has had his employment affected.

I've still got my fancy passport that gets me everywhere I need to go. I don't know what they think they've got from it

Also why not call wherever your Country of origin racist or xenophobic if they are unwilling to accept entry of the partner of a citizen to work?

Hugsbunny · 27/02/2025 22:16

PoliteTaupeLeader · 27/02/2025 22:00

We've already had "sore loser" and "remoaner".

Is that OK? Just so I understand.

I do think they were stupid though. Sorry. I am sure they think the same about those that voted remain. I wasn't one. I wasn't allowed. because democracy

Those are by no way equivalent to calling people "stupid" or "numpties" because of the way they voted (see above posts) - that is saying they lacked the ability to make a rational decision and is an attack on intrinsic characteristics. Saying someone is a "sort loser" or "remoaner" is arguably factual based on their behaviour - unwilling to accept the outcome of a democratic referendum.

bombastix · 27/02/2025 22:18

Yes don't EU passports carry the right for dependents, ie husbands to accompany you to another EU MS? Employment rules might vary I suppose, but if you were economically better off in another EU MS then this would make sense

PoliteTaupeLeader · 27/02/2025 22:19

As I said, it's not easy to be uproot ourselves. We live here and our children were raised here. You see how that works? It's almost like it was real people that were affected by Brexit.

It's fine though, you're the bitter one, still angry that people haven't seen the light on the amazingness of Brexit.

I'm still here. The UK I moved to is just shitter than it once was. You know that. Nothing has improved for you, and nothing will. Your EU neighbours still live here they just like you less.

Gongpostal · 27/02/2025 22:21

blackpear · 27/02/2025 21:58

Absolutely laughable that you frame the last referendum as being ‘designed’ as a once-in-a-generation event. A more slapdash, careless process is hard to imagine. The only reason it couldn’t be challenged under the Vienna convention is that it was not ‘designed’ to be binding. Even David Liddington, when he was leader of the house, said that there was no need for safeguards as nobody intended to act upon the outcome. Who said it was once in a generation? Farage and his ilk were all gearing up to challenge when they thought it wasn’t going to go their way.

It was George Osborne who was chancellor at the time who said it was a once in a lifetime vote that was highly unlikely to be repeated.

GasPanic · 27/02/2025 22:21

The EU seems useless at the moment. Always paralysed by indecision.

It's OK when the world is going well, but doesn't exactly turn on a sixpence and spends more time talking than actually doing.

I think the UK is in a good position to build a relationship as a go between between the EU and the US, and it appears to be going well at the moment.

We're actually just starting to get to the point where we can take real advantages of being out of the EU, so it would be ridiculous to go back in. I don't think even Starmer wants that.

Gongpostal · 27/02/2025 22:24

MrsSkylerWhite · 27/02/2025 22:08

Hugsbunny · Today 21:50
Oh, and as soon as you call people who voted leave stupid you have lost the argument

Not really. 49% of the population is by definition below average intelligence.

We can tell! Our PM is definitely unadulterated proof of that!

PoliteTaupeLeader · 27/02/2025 22:24

Saying someone is a "sort loser" or "remoaner" is arguably factual based on their behaviour - unwilling to accept the outcome of a democratic referendum.

It's factual that those who voted to leave were less well educated than remain too. So.

BatchCookBabe · 27/02/2025 22:24

ARealitycheck · 27/02/2025 22:04

What an appalingly small minded self centered opinion. What is right for you or your family is quite ok. But if that isn't what is right for the majority of the population, then they have every right to expect what they voted for to be enacted.

Exactly this. And this is why I don't engage with the 'sore losers.' Wink The utter nonsense they come out with is farcical. 😂

Don't rise to the bait! They're just bitter and angry that they lost. Grin

PoliteTaupeLeader · 27/02/2025 22:26

And of all the time to be starting a significant relationship with the US it's hilarious that we're starting now with Trump's "America First" campaign and the First Twat Musk offering to liberate the UK.

blackpear · 27/02/2025 22:26

Gongpostal · 27/02/2025 22:21

It was George Osborne who was chancellor at the time who said it was a once in a lifetime vote that was highly unlikely to be repeated.

Well, he didn’t want it at all. He tried to dissuade Cameron. The then government could not have done a worse job of setting out the parameters and implications, and they set it up as a non-binding referendum.

Gongpostal · 27/02/2025 22:29

blackpear · 27/02/2025 22:26

Well, he didn’t want it at all. He tried to dissuade Cameron. The then government could not have done a worse job of setting out the parameters and implications, and they set it up as a non-binding referendum.

He was a Eurosceptic, but he did say that he believed that we would negotiate a good deal. Cameron scarpered before finishing what he started.

bombastix · 27/02/2025 22:31

GasPanic · 27/02/2025 22:21

The EU seems useless at the moment. Always paralysed by indecision.

It's OK when the world is going well, but doesn't exactly turn on a sixpence and spends more time talking than actually doing.

I think the UK is in a good position to build a relationship as a go between between the EU and the US, and it appears to be going well at the moment.

We're actually just starting to get to the point where we can take real advantages of being out of the EU, so it would be ridiculous to go back in. I don't think even Starmer wants that.

Agree. It is slow. Much as I might like better links, the US will move a lot faster and will not start the negotiations on trade with political poison like youth migration, fishing rights and adherence to their courts.

I mean Starmer might be very pro EU but he likes being PM better. The US will act much more quickly. A lot has already been discussed

Hugsbunny · 27/02/2025 22:38

MrsSkylerWhite · 27/02/2025 22:08

Hugsbunny · Today 21:50
Oh, and as soon as you call people who voted leave stupid you have lost the argument

Not really. 49% of the population is by definition below average intelligence.

Wrong on a few counts, please learn some basic GCSE statistics.

  1. The only requirement is that 50% of the population will be above median intellgence and 50% below. Whether 50% is above or below average depends on the distribution of intellgence around the median.
  2. Being above or below average does not make someone stupid (though not understanding statistics and trying to use them might be a good indicator...). All you can saw is less/more intelligent than average/median
  3. Lastly, you are implying fewer intelligent people voted for Brexit. I've not seen a study that discounts education, wealth or other factors
Vaxtable · 27/02/2025 22:41

Why oh why do people still bang on about this Europe has moved on from when we left and is it’s own shit show we rejoin and we join that shit show on very unfavourable terms

Time people accepted that and move on

Hugsbunny · 27/02/2025 22:51

PoliteTaupeLeader · 27/02/2025 22:24

Saying someone is a "sort loser" or "remoaner" is arguably factual based on their behaviour - unwilling to accept the outcome of a democratic referendum.

It's factual that those who voted to leave were less well educated than remain too. So.

Yes, there are studies to show less educated people more more for leave. That's not a value judgement on them, more on you!

Firstly, more educated doesn't mean more intelligent or not being an idiot. It does correlate with likelyhood to be living in a metropolitan area, have a more priviledged upbringing or generally be richer

Secondly, hard to argue that the positive impact of EU membership was predominantly felt on well educated people, who are more likely to earn a higher wage, travel frequently, employ domestic staff, have private schooling. Of course they would vote for remain.

To be more succinct, what was the benefit of EU membership to a manual worker. If they could afford an EU holiday, shorter queues once a year, versus significantly reduced wages?

ZippyDoodle · 27/02/2025 22:51

How do you think that will play out?

Starmer makes an announcement and the population nods in agreement and gets back to what they are doing?

TankFlyBossW4lk · 27/02/2025 23:06

Entangledlife · 27/02/2025 19:03

I wish it too. The problem is if he did we become like America and lose all semblance of democracy. I feel we sometimes need an autocracy and this is one time but it does leave us open for hypocrisy allegations

Tbh, autocracies seems to be all the rage.

Valeriekat · 27/02/2025 23:26

Entangledlife · 27/02/2025 19:03

I wish it too. The problem is if he did we become like America and lose all semblance of democracy. I feel we sometimes need an autocracy and this is one time but it does leave us open for hypocrisy allegations

The USA has a democratically elected President who is carrying out his election promises whether we like it or not.

theboffinsarecoming · 27/02/2025 23:40

Our Prime Minister is not a President (thank Christ for that, considering what's happening on the other side of the pond), and cannot make a unilateral decision on his own. We had a referendum, like it or not, and to overturn it, we would need another one. Then the EU could decide whether to allow us back in.

MakeYourOwnMusicStartYourOwnDance · 27/02/2025 23:52

Entangledlife · 27/02/2025 19:03

I wish it too. The problem is if he did we become like America and lose all semblance of democracy. I feel we sometimes need an autocracy and this is one time but it does leave us open for hypocrisy allegations

Yeah, this.
I voted YANBU, * as I think we should rejoin.
The vote was to leave though, and you can't just decide to ignore it because you don't like the result.
It would cause even more unrest.

Viviennemary · 27/02/2025 23:55

No thanks. Europe is a collection of greedy countries that screwed the UK for hears. Bunch of crooks. Trump said as much today and I agree.

Beesandhoney123 · 28/02/2025 00:04

Fuck no. Absolutely not. Its not up to him anyway thank god.

No more wasted money on voting. No more squandering.

Just pay the fuel allowance, why do they have to claim? They have every detail about us anyway.

Let's see some action with banning dividend payouts to shareholders and directors for water and energy companies.
.Let's see some regeneration of towns and cities WITHOUT building all over the parks.

Let's see the boats stopping. What about getting the billions given to Rwanda back?

What about giving up the MP fuel allowance they get whatever their salary.

Oh, and bring back the Latin teachers.
I think we've had quite enough of labour's unilateral decisions already, thanks.

Azureal · 28/02/2025 07:06

Trendyname · 27/02/2025 21:52

So you based your decision to vote leave on europeans willing to have another vote and not on the fact that UK leaders were putting lies on the buses to mislead public? EU was Uak's largest trading partner, so many small businesses had to close the shop because they and their customers couldnt deal with custom fees and timelines.

No, I voted Leave for many reasons but part of it was the fact that the EU (not the 'European people', who are not in any case a homogenous group) thought it could tell people they needed to vote again because they got it wrong.

Another reason was that I disagree with the basis on which the EU was founded, which was not free trade or freedom of movement but the creation of a United States of Europe to rival the USA.

But mainly I thought it was an undemocratic institution that I did not wish to be part of.

Free trade and free movement did not outweigh that for me.

But thanks for proving the assumption I believed 'lies on a bus' and must be stupid. I actually have a PhD in and lecture in Politics and that's the kind of unevidenced, uncritical thought I expect from my first year undergraduates.