How many presents do you get for your birthday?

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Am I the silly goose or is DH? As an adult I do not expect birthday presents. I got one from DH/DD and my parents and that was it. And that was more than I expected. Once you have kids you can expect that the focus shifts, in my opinion!

DH got rather upset when he only received presents from 4 people (me and dd, my parents, his parents and grandparents) and felt really hard done by. At nearly 40!

As an adult, how many gifts do you get for your bd and would you be sad if you received fewer?

Last year I got one, from my parents. I was devastated. I had just left an financially abusive relationship, so no partner, and my brother and SIL 'forgot' as they 'have a lot on'. It was quite frankly dreadful, I dont think I will ever truly forgive my brother.

This year I am expecting 2, one from the new BF and one from my parents.

I'm very lucky. I usually get a main present and some smaller ones from DH, something from DC. Flowers and a gift to unwrap from my parents. My sisters will buy something, sometimes a joint gift, not necessarily expensive, but always exactly right for me. My SIL usually sends a token gift too.

This year my birthday coincides with another family event and I might get an extra token gift or two because of that. I certainly wouldn't expect it though.

On my birthday last year one of my work colleagues popped to the shop and bought an ice cream for me! 😋

We don't do presents really because we buy what we want tbh . . however the Dds buy us a couple of things each

Oddly last year I got a lot more than usual. It was a delight, but I did ask if I was dying and the last to know

Generally my husband, the dogs, my mum, my dad, my sister, my brother, my parents in law, my sister in law and my best friend. Sometimes some others too.

I don't agree that having children means you shouldn't receive gifts. I don't have children, but whether other people do doesn't factor into me buying them presents.

Is his name Dudley Dursley?

Am I the silly goose or is DH? As an adult I do not expect birthday presents. I got one from DH/DD and my parents and that was it. And that was more than I expected. Once you have kids you can expect that the focus shifts, in my opinion!

You're the silly goose tbh. This sounds like pointless martyrdom. It doesn't require a great deal of 'focus' to get a birthday present for your partner as well as your children. It's almost as if some people think it's morally superior to pretend that gifts are things only given to children, in spite of probably thousands of years of proof to the contrary. Buying presents for people you love is a nice thing to do.

I forgot to answer the question. I get presents from dh, my parents, my sister and jointly from my teenage dc. Do I expect them? Well ... yes. Because they give me them every year, so it woupd be a bit odd if they suddenly decided not to. Do your family give you presents every year, OP? If so, I find it hard to believe you 'don't expect' any!

Anything I receive i am so grateful for - mainly from dh and the kids and the dogs - not expensive but things I really like - shower gels, chocolate, stationary, photos gifts, books…

i have no interest in big and expensive gifts - I don’t need expensive perfume or fancy jewellery or d asd is days - that is not me - but I love when someone thinks about what I like and enjoy and get me little gifts related to my interests or loves.

My DH,my DC ,my sisters ,my In-laws my best friends

I'm in my 30s and I get a few gifts from DP, as well as a gift from each of my immediate family members and a few close friends.
I also buy gifts for all of these people and their kiddies.
Who else is your DH expecting gifts from? Is there anyone he buys gifts for that don't return the gesture? Obviously you don't buy gifts with the expectation that people will do the same on your birthday, but it can be disappointing if you put thought and effort into someone's birthday and it isn't matched.

Mum and Dad (can't be arsed with the Ds etc), Sister and nephew, Husband, PILs and Best Friend

DH & DS, and one aunt and cousin.

When I turned 50 I didn’t get a card from any of my friends, including my best friend. Have to say it still stings, I would have thought a card for a milestone birthday was usual.

My birthday is at the very end of multiple birthdays in my circle so I'll be lucky to get a mars bar! They're all skint by the time my birthday arrives! 😀

Your dh is being an ungrateful brat!

I get a gift from DM, MIL, DC and DP - four gifts, that's it and I get cards from DSIS and SIL.

Who else was your DH expecting a gift from? And does he send them a gift on their birthdays? If he does and they aren't sending one back then it's time to stop that and spend the money on himself instead.

DH usually gets me 1 or 2, then helps the DC choose something to give me. All fairly small ish stuff.

MIL gives me a present or money and my DF gives me money.

I really don’t need or want for anything but it’s nice to receive something. I'm particularly keen on things like chocolate, gin etc that I can enjoy consuming as I really don’t need more stuff.

DH
ds
dd
2 brothers
1 sister
2 or 3 friends
One from work
Nephew
Niece
All are adults.

I get around 5 - two from my two sons, two from two friends and one from an aunt. I wouldn't care if I got none though. I'm old enough to think birthdays aren't a big deal and I'd hate to think someone was struggling to buy me something.

Probably 6.One from dh, two from the kids ( 4 kids, two older club together and then the younger two), one from my parents, one from PIL and one from my two good friends (we all put in for whoever's birthday it is as a rule).

I get a birthday present from my parents, my husband's father, my children (2 are +18 yo), my husband, my sister and 3-4 friends.

I sometimes wonder if the idea of our birthdays etc not mattering is tied to feelings of not being as important

i ask for houseplants from my mum , DH and DD probably get me chocs. don't like my birthday, never have. Bah!

I would be disappointed if I didn’t get a gift from DH and each of my kids. I sometimes get one from my PiL but wouldn’t really notice if I didn’t. I get one from a friend who revels in gift giving. I’d be happier if she didn’t but accept graciously and reciprocate because it’s important to her.

I get something from dh and dcs. Usually something I've asked for like trainers or sweater. Boring but that's what I like.
A friend Usually gives flowers
Dm £20
It's £20

Df don't now we have dcs and that's fine.