To find people's Holiday snaps so tedious?

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Don't get me wrong - I'm happy for people and I like to see a few key snaps of special moments and know that people are having a good time. But do we need to see every moment?

They're bad enough when people put them on Facebook but at least you can scroll past them. Or just click on a few.

A beloved family member is now retired and is doing a lot of travelling. The last few times she went somewhere, she's absolutely flooded the family group whatsapp chat with endless pictures. I counted a total of over 500 in the 10 days she was away. I'm not exaggerating. Ding ding ding ding. It's not like I could even mute the group because it's a family chat and I might miss something.

Now she's travelling round Australia for 3 weeks and she's set up a separate whatsapp group just to share her pictures. She's added everyone she knows. There are HUNDREDS of pictures, daily. Everywhere she goes, everything she sees, everything she notices on the streets, her room, her on the plane, her on a train, her in a car, and a picture of EVERY SINGLE MEAL SHE EATS!! and loads of comments from people I don't know.

I muted the group on day 1 and pop in now and then to make a comment so she doesn't think we're ignoring her.

Am I being an old misery or are holiday snaps just so boring? I love this person dearly but I do not care about every minute of her Holiday.

I have a friend, who’s DP puts photos of everything on fb from their holidays, from a pic of their drink in McDonald’s and all random stuff. He doesn’t even separate the blurred pics etc and uploads as many as 5 pics of the same thing. Then they wonder why not many take any notice.

Yanbu

I agree OP

But then I also don’t really want to see pictures or updates about people’s days out, children, pets, nights out, parties, house improvements, outfits or food

So I don’t do social media. I recommend it!

People used to be limited to a roll of film or two, and then would just hand over a pack of snaps and you'd flick through- now people aren't limited and it means you have hundreds of the damn things. So tedious

Hmm ... I still have painful memories of sitting through a slideshow of someone's holiday to Yugoslavia (which should tell you how long ago that was).

I was going to say YABU because I like looking through people’s holiday photos on fb. However, a separate WhatsApp group with 500 photos is horrendous 😂

Right; but if it’s on social media you can escape it by muting notifications and simply not looking at that person’s page. So arguably less intrusive than being handed a wad of photos and excepted to look through and say ooh and ah.

At least you can skip them. Back in the day before digital was a lot more tedious.

A friend of mine got muted when she wouldn't take the hint when I went on a 'spiritual retreat' type holiday, and she kept rabbiting on asking for pictures.

As if my badly-taken, poorly lit pics were in any way representative of my experience, even if I wanted to sit there snapping anyway!

What drives me mad are the people who just post endless bad snaps of the same thing, or the same group of people, slightly differently arranged, in front of the same tourist sight. I mean, if you take four photos because in the first one Linda was in the loo and in the second one Martin had his eyes shut and in the third one no one is smiling because they've all died of boredom then only post the last one!

No, that's infuriating. And of course, now you'l have go go and delete all those photos off your phone. I LOVE a holiday snap. Very happy to have them sent to me on whatsapp. I feel 1 or 2 is most appropriate. Occassionally, a larger number - say 5 - if it's specific. eg, when family are visiting other family, I don't mind 4 or 5 pics of the various family groupings in our family whatsapp - so yes to a pic of all neices and nephews together, yes to one of my siblings, sure to one of siblings and their partners, absolutely one of the whole gang and go on then, I'll take one of them all sipping champagne and toasting my birthday from afar. Beyond that.... no! I do not want that level of detailed photos from a friend or a less close family member!

And of course, now you'l have go go and delete all those photos off your phone

If you go into settings for whatsapp you can set it not to automatically save pictures from chats.

Totally agree, unless it's my own kids I have no interest in anyone stood in front of a mountain or a temple. It's all there on the internet if we want to see these places.

FB is easy. I just snooze people who are prolific holiday posters for 30 days. Thankfully SIL only bombards DH with photos via WA. 🤣

I still prefer the SM bombardment that I can control to the in person presentations. My parents friends would have an evening presentation & everyone had to come, and each slide would be accompanied by a lecture. As a kid, it was torture. Or SIL/BIL's three week trip where we saw 100 selfies of SIL's nose and cheek, at each location, because they hadn't bothered to sort the photos first.

Facebook is different. I upload them there as a photo album for me noone else.

Family what's app ... That would irritate me

Please don’t show me any wedding photos…not your, your sisters, your nieces, your cousins…none…I’m not in the least bit interested!
I would like to know if there was a free bar though!

This, 100%. My in-laws make us sit and look at their photos every time they go on holiday (which is frequent!) but I am so glad that this is no longer general practice. I honestly think it is the one real benefit of social media that people put their pictures on there, where you can either ignore them or, if feeling generous, like the post without actually looking through them, rather than 'offering' you the change to look at them in person. Other people's holidays are as dull as other people's dreams.

True. But the photos normal people send me, I DO want to save!?

Some people are so full of their own self importance aren't they? Who in there right mind would possibly be interested in SO MANY photos.

A woman I know, who's a tiny bit of an influencer, once spent a week in a beautiful EU capital city. When she came back, she made 3x10 instagram albums of her trip.
I kid you not: Only pictures of her. In an elevator. In the hotel bathroom. In the restaurant bathroom. In the coffee-shop bathroom, in the bath, in the bed etc...

@Sunat45degrees You can change the 'save media' option conversation by conversation on WhatsApp, it's not all or nothing. First thing I do when invited to any group chat is turn off the auto-save media option.

REALLY, I didn't know i cold that per chat. Thanks for the tip!!!! [moves to change this for the bloody class whatsapps!!!!!]

@Sunat45degrees Yep! Open a conversation, click the bar across the top of the screen to bring up the options for that conversation and change 'save to photos' to always / never as appropriate.

I was ready to say YABU because I love seeing people's holiday pics and have been to some lovely places I wouldn't have thought to visit, because I'd seen it look so nice in pictures.

However this woman is insane and I'd have to leave the group.

Still getting over sitting through 2 hours of in-laws safari holiday video. An elephant appeared in the last 30 seconds.

She's honestly not that sort of person. I love her so much, she's one of my most favourite people on the planet and I wouldn't describe her as self-involved at all. This is why I feel guilty rolling my eyes over her endless pictures because she's so special to me.

I genuinely believe she just wants people to share in her excitement and doesn't realise how bloody tedious it is.

And no, she's not alone, she's with a close friend, who I don't know, and who she keeps sending pictures of, standing in places 😂

I'd tell her, but she's an older family member and I don't want to be disrespectful nor do I want to piss on her fireworks but OMG sttooopp!!!