I'm 38 weeks pregnant, still working. Very stressed. Today DH messaged me mid-work day and asked if I'd be ok with him booking a running gait analysis next week that's over 20 miles away. I'll be on maternity leave by then so in his words "sitting on my arse" and to avoid me going into labour solo whilst he's over the other side of the county he thinks I should go with him. Which aside from making no sense and taking me further away from my chosen birth hospital... I don't want to sit in a car for hours whilst he goes to his appointment. It's been manic these last few months and I just need to rest and prioritise myself for what little time I may have pre-birth.
I didn't call him selfish, because it's not selfish to prioritise his health and he is struggling with a bit of knee pain which I can empathise with. But his timing and reaction to me not being happy with the suggestion was really self centered. Full disclosure - I didn't respond that well because he really got my back up and has a habit of telling me to "not distract him during his work day" whilst sending me this inane shit. But in all honesty I'm just sad that he didn't have the self awareness that I'm a stressed, hormonal, in constant pain and frankly have enough on my plate right now.
This time in my first pregnancy I developed preeclampsia and I delivered early. The last thing I want to have to spend my time and energy thinking about is his bloody running gait analysis.
We've since had a massive argument and he's demanding I apologise for calling him self centered. It's obviously all blown out of proportion. But I'm pissed off, my back is now cramping and I don't see the benefit of apologising for something I stand by.