To be cautious about texting married men?

[Thatsnotmynameee]

I was out with a friend last night and we bumped into her friend and his wife. It was the end of the night and we realised that I live very close to my friends friends (married couple) so we shared a taxi, me him and his wife. He asked for my number in the taxi so I could let him know I got home safe (taxi dropped me after them) he asked for this in front of his wife. I text him when I got in to say home, let me know how much I owe you guys for the taxi. He replied to say thanks, it would be good to catch up soon and put a kiss (I never put kisses to men in relationships) he then text me today to ask how something had gone that I mentioned I was doing this morning when we were chatting last night with my friend the four of us. He is 20 years older than me. I'm aware I'm probably overly cautious as I'm a single woman and he's a married man but I don't know??

I'd block.

His wife is 'in on it'.

He’s testing the water.

Yeah I’d not respond to that. Could be innocent but I’d not risk it.

That would make things awkward because they live really close and have mentioned me coming round theirs with my friend.

As in it is her texting me?

I wouldn’t give it a second thought. Did you like him and his wife? That’s how new friendships happen.

I wouldn't respond. If you owe them money, I'd give back via your mutual friend.

I would ignore him

I wouldn't text him. But over the top to block him. Just don't respond. Doesn't take much for men to get annoying.

She means in on having a threesome. Who knows? But he's testing the water that's for sure. Answer clinically. "Yes, thank you." Short reply, No questions to him, No niceties whatsoever.

Why don't you respond very formally. "Yes that would be great, I will check with xxxxxx (friends name)." He might be old fashioned or very bored.

You’re not making it awkward, he is. Just don’t respond, as a PP said: he is testing the waters.

Swingers

Oh. I hadn't considered that.

Why so many weird responses. Is this just because he is male? If it was the wife you’d say it was the start of a friendship. I would reply but as you say, no kisses.

How is he making it awkward? He’s being friendly and polite. At the moment nothing to worry about.

Hey.. we should make a group chat on X app, add 'wife's name' in too.

Urgh, this is not right. How do I know? Because every instinct in me is telling me and guess what, that's enough.

I wouldn't make it difficult for yourself by blocking.

Grey rock communicatio method moving to eventually not replying at all works well for keeping yourself safe in every way and signalling to the guy ( and whatever his wife is thinking) that you're not available. You need no more contact here. You'll come out of this badly just to suit them ( the guy and his wife ).

Sex people? Surely not!

When I'm in an awkward situation like this I don't let it escalate. One word answers only and don't answer the phone. If he pesters you mention it in front of his wife.

Ignore. He's a creep.

'Normal' men would cease contact after enquiring if you made it home ok. Or ask their wife to do it in the first place. It was a ruse to get your number.

Yes, that's exactly why. It's not appropriate and he bloody knows it, whatever his intentions are - not really appropriate and I wouldn't stick around to figure that one out personally.

Why is it inappropriate?

Because he's a married man who shouldn't be texting a woman 20 years his junior.

You know it is and you know every which way why it is.