Another splitting costs with family

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Weekend trip with family

Parents (pensioners)
Sibling 1 - with husband and 2 children (young)
Sibling 2 - with husband - teen children not interested in coming.

Wanting to book 4 bed place due to ages of sibling 1s children
How should cost be split?

Split into 8 and then each family pay cost? (YABU)
Split among 6 adults? (YANBU)

To not drip feed the cost of 4 bed place is no more than a 3 bed place

Split among adults only - esp as cost of 4 bed place is no more than a 3 bed

Split per room.

Agreed, if the four bedroom place was more expensive then I’d say the family needing the extra room should pay more but as it’s the same price this seems the fairest most sensible way.

Even though the bigger place is no more expensive? Seems an odd way to split it.

Are you one of the siblings?

I am one of the siblings

Split between the six adults.

I think I might suggest the children cost half. So, split between seven.

If it’s genuinely no different in price then just split three ways.

If there’s a difference then it depends on previous context: if sibling 2 has already had years of paying extra for their now teen kids before these younger kids came along then I don’t think the rules should shift now if sibling 1 doesn’t want to pay the extra rooms for their kids, if their sibling has always covered the extra cost of their children in the past.

Split three ways (1/3 per household).

If you use two rooms surely you pay for two rooms? I agree with cheddercherry above - to a certain extent I'd say this does depend on how other family members have been treated when taking children away. You kind of need a principle and apply it to all the trips. In my family we've always split depending on the rooms we use, so we'd stick with that regardless of the cost of the house.

Split between 8 people unless children are staying in their parents’ room. It’s not the GP’s or S2’s responsibility to subsidise S1’s holiday.

Split per room

When sibling 2s children were young they lived abroad so trips like this didn’t happen, there also wasn’t funds for trips meals etc in the family.

How is the 4 bed the same cost as the 3 bed? Is it not as nice as the 3 bed?

I'd say split equally between rooms unless there are 3 lovely double ensuite rooms and the kids have a crappy twin in which case they should definitely have a discount.

Good question, photos look much the same. Maybe rooms are smaller - I don’t know though, maybe not as nice, everyone involved is happy with the accommodation though

To not drip feed the cost of 4 bed place is no more than a 3 bed place

Split three ways in this case.

I would split it by room but when we go out for meals, buy groceries etc I would split costs by 3.

We’d split per room. Unless we were working to accommodate a less well off family - so if sibling with young children was a lot less well off than the other adults, I know the parents and other sibling would suggest a 3 way split.

But if there’s not a big disparity, we’d do per room. Kids tend to take up a lot more room than adults anyway, with toys, running around etc (at least our family ones all do!).

They’re not subsidising anything if it’s the same price.

This as the cost is the same for 4 beds, and everyone will be more comfortable

Grandparents should probably pay for the whole thing to make up for Boomers having a lifetime of easy money.

Everyone else is getting less value for money though because the accommodation is less good. so they are still subsidising by paying over the odds for the accommodation they have.

Is this already or is it likely to become a genuine bone of contention, or are you, for example, sibling 1 and just want to check what is fair?

In my family it'd be split between the adults all day long, and particularly so if there is no extra cost to the extra room.

Any squabbling about this in this scenario would make me think people did not have the same open-hearted approach to the weekend away.