Dd(22), 4 kids overnight

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WIBU to let 22 year old dd look after 11, 8, 5 and 4 year old siblings for 2 nights?

Shes offered. I trust her but she has never had all of them overnight before on her own, though has some individually overnight and all of them throughout the day many times.
Me and DH would be hours away (for a close friends funeral) so wouldnt be able to get home quickly.

I know obviously it depends on lots of things but just wondering if others would think this was reasonable or not ?

I think it's fine as long as they will generally listen to her.

Of course. She's 22.

Yes unless there's a history of the kids playing up when she's in charge. My dd18 has looked after someone else's kids overnight (though she dies,have a childcare qualification)

shes 22 she could have 4 kids of her own

Ok great. The friend I spoke to in real life said that 4 kids was too much at that age and they wouldn't do it.

She will be fine.

Why does she look after them many times during the day? She is their sibling not their babysitter/parent

I had 2 step kids and one of my own at 22.

She will be fine.

Of course. I've worked with teachers the same age who manage a class of 30 children!

Is there any reason your friend might know of that we don't? Could understand if 17 possibly but she's an adult

I looked after 4 children for the weekend at 17. At 13 I was looking after 3 at night whilst their parents went out until early hours in the morning. I'm sure she will be fine.

She's 22...

Why did your friend say that? Is there any SEN involved? Is there another family member nearby that she could contact in an emergency?

Yes, I'm 20 and I've looked after younger kids (not siblings). The MOST important thing is that they do what she says.
Will she have to bath the younger ones? I've found the most annoying thing is boys of 6, 7, 8 not understanding that they do NOT enter the bathroom when their sisters or other girls are in there! So I've had to make it clear how I will react if they break my rules!

Sounds fine. Leave money for pizza and some duct tape in case things get out of hand. That should keep them in line.

I guess as she's their sisters they might not respect her authority as much as they would another adult.
But they are all generally good and there's never been any problems before so we will go for it.

I know she could have her own kids but she doesn't, it's different when they're your own

Yes, i’d imagine she will be fine

I would say fine. As long as you are happy for perhaps more screen time than normal, I imagine the 11 year old and 8 year old would be pretty easy. The younger two she might find harder as they might take more entertaining and might also might miss you more. I expect she knows your usual routine (assuming she lives at home) and I would get her to stick to that with meal times and bed time.

When I was 22 I had two kids and a mortgage. She’s an adult. As long as she’s happy to look after them she should be just as capable as any adult. Probably more capable than an aging grandparent.

She’s a grown woman. There are teachers and professional childcare workers her age.

Is she a real 22yo or one of those "aww they're still babies really and their brains are still developing " ones?

First case, absolutely, no issues.

Very true my mum had 4 at 21.

I had a son way before i was 22 and living on my own dealing with life.

Why not?she is a grown up.

Maybe she enjoys spending time with her siblings?