To ask the worst thing you've ever done in anger?

[Dishwater123]

Getting this off my chest and asking what the worst thing you've ever done in the faint hope of feeling better even if I don't deserve it.

When I had just left for uni, many years ago, I was devastated to receive several insulting text messages suggesting my then boyfriend was cheating on me and they also layed into my appearence and personality. I was so very hurt that when I found out who it was I "hacked" (read as guessed) the password of the culprits email, found several VERY explicit sexting emails from not only my boyfriend but a few others...in my (admittedly misplaced) rage, forwarded all of the emails to her family and friends, including her dad and gran. I still feel super awful about it to this day and can see EVERYTHING that was toxic and wrong with it.

What's the worst thing you've done in anger? For the record I KNOW I was unreasonable posting in the hope of hearing about your misguided rage.

Worst thing I've ever done is a bit of a long story... although is it or am I just trying to justify the worst thing I've done?! Ok here the shortest version I can possibly manage... with my ex 5 years, had fertility issues, he said that was fate I couldn't have them because he didn't want them and no one who wanted kids would want me so we were the perfect match?! Astonishingly got pregnant after 3 years of no protection( had that very month emotionally checked out because I found out he was cheating), he dumped me the day I told him I was pregnant because I wouldn't get an abortion, sent him all appointments date through pregnancy, he didn't turn up to any or turned up late, 20 week scan turned up late with his mother who ripped the scan photos I paid for from my hands, divided them in half and said "this is our half" we were ushered to an private room because she made such a scene where she told me he had said I lied about fertility issues to "trick him" into getting me pregnant! Still tried to do the right thing, called him when I went into labour to attend the birth (when I said "I can't do this" during transition he said "to late to take it back now" and tried to bring him mum in during the birth, my midwife actually had to kick her out). Was pinning all my hopes and dreams on him holding our baby and his whole world changing, the classic ... you don't know love til you hold your baby for the first time mantra the people spout all the time! He held our baby while I was on a operating table being stitched from front to back and HE started complaining that HE was in too much pain and his back hurt too much to hold the baby anymore and asking someone else to take "IT"!!!! He Left the hospital, Promised to pick me up on discharge, no showed, had to phone my mother 6 hours later because he hadn't turned up!! Then at 2 am, exactly 48 hours after birth outside my mums house, with zero sleep for even longer, struggling to breastfeed and knowing full well he'd held our baby so his whole world should have changed right? He stood there and said to my face .... "I still don't know if I want IT"............

I saw seven levels of red and then nothing. I don't remember all of it, I definitely know I bit him as hard as I fcking could and hit him more than once, screamed til I lost my voice (for 3 days) and my mum had to pull me off him, sometimes when I think back on it it scares me because I don't know when I would have stopped if my mum hadn't pulled me off.

that was 16 years ago and he's still playing the "she mentally ill and violent" card all these years later. I felt horrifically guilty at the time, but I've had a lot of help and therapy since, and learnt about reactive abuse. I'd never acted like that before or since, it was out of character and I was postpartum. It doesn't make it ok but he is still abusing me to this day through our child, family courts, social services, withholding child maintenance, he's even falsely accused me of sexually molesting our child to try and get the upper hand, so I don't feel guilty about it anymore, but it is and probably always will be the worst thing I've done and although I have told my husband the truth about it... I have never admitted it professionally because so few people truly understand coercive control and reactive abuse.

He owed me a significant sum of money and it was clear wasn't going to repay it. I poured antifreeze over his pride and joy (car)

I punched an ex straight in the mouth splitting both his lips.
He had hold of me by the front of my dress and pushed me backwards over a wall shouting in my face. I clenched my fist and he said go on I fucking dare you…..

I was 17 when my dear nan passed. The day of her funeral I ended up having a few drinks at the wake. My boyfriend at the time had been pestering me wanting to see me and when I eventually got home he was loitering outside my house. I was already annoyed that he’d not given me space to grieve. When he started having a moan that I’d not been answering his messages I saw red and started screaming obscenities at him. I must have looked unhinged as he swiftly hopped on his bike and pedalled like mad to get away from me. I still cringe at the memory of me chasing him down the road screaming. I was desperate to catch him so I could shove him off his bike. Luckily I didn’t manage to catch him 🫣

Really! Maybe that’s where she got the ideas from. I must ask her. She also went on to take an overdose of paracetamol, but didn’t realise she needed to take alcohol with it. Ended up in hospital with a buggered liver!

He was a keeper!!😂😂

Accessing a computer without consent (which OP did when she guessed the password) has been a crime since 1990.

Our old Manager was a nasty, narcissistic bully. One day he was such a bully to one of my office mates. She always ate mints and would offer them around the room. After he been a total wanker to her she went to the toilet and rubbed an extra strong mint in her lady bits and returned it to the packet. A couple of hours later she asked our Manager if he would like a mint to which he replied as he sucked it “ooohh lovely.” 😂😂

My sister supported my exH in his attempt to have sole custody of my DDs 😔 there had always been issues between us - sibling rivalry overload. It was a horrible stressful time and I received a nasty message from her DP with his version of ‘home truths’. I was furious & temper texted a reciprocal truth bomb about my sister - the worst of which being that she had indeed shagged his best mate, which he’d long suspected but she’d always denied. By some grace of nature, the message failed to send and gave me a chance to reconsider 🤦🏼‍♀️

When I was 16 I broke up with a guy and he just didn’t get it and came to my house and tried to force me to have sex with him, I pushed away from me and threw a glass bottle of wine at him and broke his upper incisor tooth. I was happy about it and he left me alone after that so a win win. He wound being one of the losers in my town. He was voted best looking in high school and he was good looking but became a heroin addict. Such a shame.

it was in the 70s , everything was glass and heavy glass back then

It is illegal now, but wasnt then.

It's emphasis, not shouting. Surely that was clear.

If she was acting vindictively over something so serious why are you glad you didn’t tell her husband what she’d done? It sounds like the least she deserved.

No, in publishing, it is deemed to be shouting

I hear you. Well done for getting through it. To be honest, even though physical aggression is never ok unless in self defence, he absolutely deserved it and worse. My only regret for you is that it gave him ammunition. But if you are abused and abused and mistreated in the way you were then one day you will snap. You are only human. I think we are learning more and more about coercive control, emotional abuse and reactive abuse. Forgive yourself fully if you haven’t already.

Her behaviour was truly beyond the pale and we’ve been NC ever since … I suppose I was just really grateful that for whatever reason, the universe gave me a chance to second guess my rash behaviour. I’m not nasty, disloyal or vindictive and just because she didn’t care about pain she inflicted … I do. We live in a place with really temperamental wifi - I’ll never know if the message did actually land … it could have done. An hour later - it’s that kind of patchy. But I do know I was just really glad and relieved that I didn’t through anger potentially destroy a family. Karma has her. Sometimes people only feel the loss when it’s too late. ExH has long gone, six years since he’s seen our DDs. Narcs don’t look back or stay mates with SILs that are of no further use… and she lost her sister.

That's not a moment of anger. That's abuse.

Imagine if a woman had posted here that her male partner coerced her into going to a swingers club multiple times even though she didn't want to and then left her for another 'gorgeous' woman that was 'on him'.

No wonder he may be lonely now. He probably can't face another relationship after the disgusting way you treated him. Your ' so what' comment shows exactly what sort of person you are. No remorse at all 😡

My own worst is pretty mild. I once in rage kicked a hole in my older brother's bedroom door when we were teenagers. He had bolted the door, and I was shouting all sorts of abuse and ended up booting the door as hard as I could in my fury. We're in our fifties now. Needless to say, I've long forgotten what we were arguing about. Our poor parents. 😅

He probably fancied her

Emptied a plate of pasta over someone’s head in a restaurant. He was on an adjacent table and had been harassing us all evening, to the point that one of our party had left. I knew him (he was a client of mine- hairdresser), and he seemed annoyed that I was with two men (just friends). When he said, “One down, one to go” after my friend had left, I saw red and tipped his dinner over his head. We were both barred from the restaurant. I sneaked back with a different haircut a few weeks later and the waitress who’d barred me, complimented it and winked…

Wouldn’t an extra strong mint rubbed on a delicate area be potentially sting-y?

Really? Are you joking?

On the face of it it's funny, but in reality that's a dangerous thing to do, especially if you were pregnant, also an excessive response. I can't imagine someone like that would react well to having an expensive phone thrown out of the window of a moving bus. They certainly wouldn't have shrugged it off, and you could have found yourself in trouble for damage.

Its shouting if its an entire sentence. Other than that, its EMPHASIS. That's netiquette. Capitalising a word here or there is not shouting, in publishing (my Uncle is a Publishing Director) or in netiquette.

What sexist, gaslighting bs, @Notsosure1 .