To think the nanny shouldn't have been drinking alcohol?

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Went for a meal tonight and on the next table were two small children and someone who later said she was their nanny (not grandmother) and only had them three days a week. She was drinking beer, quite large ones, and joking that she was so stressed on the days she had them that she needed the alcohol. She clearly didn't think she was doing anything wrong! I'm afraid I was well and truly judgy! What do others think?

I think this is none of our business.

Was she on her own with just the children?

Not beer?! Hang the witch!

No one should be drinking alcohol when they are being paid to look after someone’s children. It wouldn’t be acceptable if a nursery worker or childminder was doing it, of course it’s not okay for a nanny. I assume she was actually a nanny, not their granny who goes by nanny? My MIL drinks like a fish when looking after my dc (hence she does not anymore).

How did this conversation even start? Did she just randomly tell you this? Or did you start a conversation?

If she was driving, yeah I’d be concerned, but I would about anyone, kids present or not.

I don’t think it’s nice to say that in front of the children. Also not acceptable to drink alcohol if she’s working.

Was it her who clarified that she was working as a nanny rather than being a nanny(grandmother)?
I don't think anybody should have multiple drinks when looking after young children.

Maybe she was their mother and just joking about being the nanny because she knew you'd judge. Not the funniest joke but clearly could get a reaction from you.

I don’t understand how you ended up in conversation with someone in a restaurant who told you she was a nanny to the small children she was with — it would also seem fairly unusual for a nanny to be a restaurant at night with her charges …?

Odd that a nanny would take 2 kids out for a meal at night by herself. Maybe she did mean she was their nana? Someone being paid to do a job shouldn't be drinking.

She could have been joking and drinking shandy or 0% beer!

I too don't understand how you came about to have that conversation!

And why a nanny would be out in a restaurant in the evening (assuming as you said tonight) unless you're in a country where culturally you just eat out.

My kids refer to their grandma as nanny.

However if it was a nanny then I wouldn't be happy with her drinking if they were my kids and she was 'on the job'.

Then again back to my first point I don't understand how you came about that conversation, but it's nobody's business 😂

How nosey were you being for this conversation to happen and for you to know how much she was drinking?

What's a quite large beer?

So what did YOU do OP after this interaction???

Well, no, no one should be drinking on the job. If you're being paid to work, don't drink.

How do you know OP?

I woud say the company you were with is not too interesting

This!

I would be judging a nanny who I had paid to look after my children and was drinking and maybe she looks after them some evenings too

when is it ok to drink when you are working unless it’s taking clients out or toasting someone’s wedding etc at the end of the working day

op most people would judge this

I think you were having the piss taken out of you!

Most people would definitely judge this adversely, unless they were a bit of a lush themselves.

We were eating at about 6pm so not too late for children.

Definitely a paid nanny. The children were watching screens and they had these cases which looked really good so she noticed me looking as she took a sip of her beer and hence the alcohol comment.

Definitely alcohol, she said so herself.

No, nothing to do with me but as I said in my OP I did judge her for drinking when she was doing her paid job whilst looking after small children (aged 3/4 at a guess).

Yes she was

Finished having dinner?!