To think the nanny shouldn't have been drinking alcohol?

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Went for a meal tonight and on the next table were two small children and someone who later said she was their nanny (not grandmother) and only had them three days a week. She was drinking beer, quite large ones, and joking that she was so stressed on the days she had them that she needed the alcohol. She clearly didn't think she was doing anything wrong! I'm afraid I was well and truly judgy! What do others think?

Would you make judgements on any woman you saw with a child and they were drinking alcohol?
I used to go to the pub with my dad as a kid and he would sit there drinking pints of lager, nobody batted an eyelid? All my female family with kids drink in front of them too. Nobody died?!

Maybe you should mind your own business. What exactly would you do about it anyway? March her to an AA meeting? Contact social services?

She had two pints that I saw and then we left before her.

They're not working are they?

In the NHS there are rules about alcohol. I follow the rules, of course.
In my occasional work in a church I have just been on a course on how to drink wine correctly at work 😎

I think it's ok? I mean, if I have a meal with my kids I have a wine ..not sure the issue

As it presumably wasn’t your nanny, and neither was it the OP’s nanny, it’s irrelevant what either of you would do with a nanny who had a pint with her dinner. People are perfectly entitled to get in a tizzy about their own nanny having a pint in a restaurant with the kids. But not about other people’s.

There are loads of people saying it’s fine, so it’s perfectly possible that the nanny’s employer thinks it’s fine too. Either way, it’s nobody else’s business.

Not really the point. We aren’t talking about your family’s drinking problems. A person in charge of somebody else’s children should not be drinking alcohol. Two pints puts you over the limit for driving so it must impair judgement in some way.

@BlueSilverCats They might be. It really is none of anyone else's business. OP isn't friends with the mum, she doesn't know whether the mum drinks? Or if she's very happy with the nanny and how she cares for the kids after drinking a couple of beers. Honestly people should focus on their own lives and problems.