To say if you were in the V&A lift today

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and ~ literally ~ barged me out of the way to get to the members room till seconds ahead of me you are RUDE. And next time I won’t seethe quietly I will call you out.

Some of us are quite nice actually!

I once approached the till in the mid-price furniture shop to which I'd been given a gift voucher, for the very posh shop assistant to look at it with a wrinkled nose, have no idea how to proces the sale, and then excuse herself - with a genuine tinkly little laugh - by saying "We're just not really a shop that does gift vouchers". As if I'd forged it myself on a home printer.

I very much gave her this look 🤔

I'm Spartacus and so is my dog.

Actually,. they said call so and so out a long time ago. But they were calling them out to fight a duel.

The old members' room at the V&A was better, IMO - in part just because it was behind a mirrored door in the glass gallery, which gave you a bit of an Alice in Wonderland feel.

The V&A one is crazily overcrowded if there are big exhibitions on, and always at the weekends, but when it's quieter it's fine - it's much nicer than the British Museum one which really does feel like a student canteen.

"Normally I am careful not to cause mayhem with wheely bags but he wheely had it coming."
Sorry, I had to 🤭 Great story - love to see karma in action!

Whenever I get rudely barged out the way to a seat on the train by an important commuting man I always say "don't worry, your need must be greater." Makes me feel MUCH better.

I'm surprised it happens quite often. But then again I am an invisible, middle aged woman.

It's a horrible, ugly expression imo. Even worse than "reach out".

Derail warning It's unbelievable how much more space men feel entitled to! I got into a contretemps a couple of weeks ago with a very unpleasant man who parked his car right next to my driver's door and then was extremely aggressive when I carefully opened the door but had to touch it against his car to actually get into the car.

He asked how I would feel if he "banged" his door into my car and I said I'd be fine because a. I wasn't a histrionic drama queen and b. my car wasn't made of glass. So he did - he came round and banged his door into mine about 100x harder than I'd touched his. Luckily my car is a Mini and they are like tanks so it was fine.

I did wind down the window and say in a mumsy voice "did that make'oo feel better then?" And then reversed out and drove off at high speed....

A lift on the road to nowhere?

Confront you or address your rudeness

Told them off?
Said something?
Had a go at them?
Gave them a hard stare/dirty look?

I think the whole concept of calling out comes from the extra-virtue-signalling society of cancel culture that we have today. I don't think there's a previous equivalent as we weren't able to public-shame before social media.

Both American imports, I think.

You can buy dinosaurs there? Like, little baby ones?

Tiffany does gift vouchers, and so does Cartier, and Harrods, Harvey Nicks etc. All it means is that someone's bought you a present from the shop. What a weird thing to be snobby about.🤷‍♀️

It is small, to be fair.

It was me. And I'd do it again 😎

Different context though.

Except for putting people in the stocks and pillory ect ect Not everything is a woke 21st century invention.

londonist.com/2015/12/publicshaming1

The v and a members room is a nightmare, overcrowded, uncomfortable tables ( the low ones) and the food isn’t as good as the cafe downstairs. I sometimes use my friends membership but don’t bother with the members room.

Oof if I had done much social media 17-ish years ago I would have totally made a post about the radio one DJ that actually shoved me whilst I was holding my 1 year old baby in a full leg cast so he could get to the front of the easyjet speedy boarding queue. I was so young and quiet then I didn't say anything... now they would get a complete earful! 🤣🤣

Having never been a demure type, my post-menopausal nonsense intolerance has been more of an internal development than behavioural. But I noticed I've started exclaiming "Rude!". This a recent thing, and I like it a lot. It comes out so clearly and indignantly 😂 I'm looking forward to the day my inner voice starts vocalising "What appalling manners" in the same dismissive tone it uses in my head.

In all the time I’ve been a member it’s never occurred to me to use it. It’s all a bit elitist for my taste.

I think they need to calm down a bit, it’s 70-odd quid a year to join. 😂

Someone who would let something like that go to their head is utterly classless and should be laughed at.

Can I just go really off-topic (sort of)?

I'd really like to know what you think about the current members room, if that isn't too much to ask?

I know somebody who has been a member for a very long time indeed (I'm sure that it wouldn't have been her who did that for reasons). She said that she absolutely hated the new members room after they did it up in 2017 (I think she said?).

Can I ask what you think of the members room? Is it relaxing or really quite noisy? Apparently it used to be quite a nice place to sit and relax but (so she claims) has been turned into a noisy cafe with hard surfaces everywhere that just reflect all the noise.