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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

... to think that a 2yr old should't be drinking coffee?

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JohnsonsIsBest · 09/05/2008 20:20

a friend of mine is quite oblivious to the fact that her DD drinks approx 2 cups of coffee a day by taking sips from Mummy's mug.
There have even been occasions when she has had her own teeny cup (an espresso one) to be luike Mummy.

Am i being unreasonable? i don't think so as i've read that even one cup of coffee can affect your sleep patterns as an adult.

Her DD doens't sleep well...

I have hinted on a number of occasions that 'oh dear she's just had a sip - you won't sleep tonight' and so on but, oh I don't know, she doesn't seem to get it.

Am i being unreasonable?

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Nighbynight · 10/05/2008 18:39

I really doubt that means necking down a couple of cups of coffee a day, though ally. My brother was adhd, I dont think it did him much benefit either.

mloo · 10/05/2008 19:30

Crikey, OP's "hinting" sound really passive aggressive.
If you have a problem, say it straight. Else --
Butt-outsky....

tori32 · 10/05/2008 19:39

I agree we should try to limit chemicals, however, my dd1 would never have any milk from a cup. She still needed the milk so we introduced weak decaf tea. FWIW I felt it was more important she got some calcium than worry about caffiene. Everything in moderation

purpleduck · 10/05/2008 19:44

I wouldn't give mine coffee because I am very sensitive to caffeine, and I would be worried that they have inherited that. Actually, when I was bf ds, I couldn't even have chocolate - he wouldn't sleep. Turns me all cranky/ depressed if I have too much.

I love it tho

Fillyjonk · 10/05/2008 19:52

yeah but i bet most of you "oh I wouldf NEVER gove them coffee" do give them chocolate, that has caffeine (suprisingly lots) and sugar.

and as for caffeine being naturally occuring...so? arsenic, cyanide and asbestos are naturally occuring. but best avoided really.

kids should not have coffee, for no better reason that than it upsets the natural order of things. what then would be the point of being grown up?

dittany · 10/05/2008 20:00

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Fillyjonk · 10/05/2008 20:03

oh christ

seriously if one of my friends sat there saying 'oh dear she's just had a sip - you won't sleep tonight' I would probably need to hit them.

this is what MILs are for. not friends.

Nighbynight · 10/05/2008 22:32

but fillyjonk, cola and choc have less caffeine in than coffee (see the figures below). And the child who is getting coffee is probably getting it on top of the cola and choc average.

According to cappucino's figures, 1 mug of coffee == 2,5 cola drinks. I think anyone who admitted to giving their child 2,5 cola drinks a day, would get criticised on mn.

I was having 2 mugs of coffee EVERY day, each with 2 tsps of sugar in, by the time I was 11.
that's equivalent to 5 colas. Really, this is not healthy (see my previous post), and I am genuinely surprised that people can believe it is defensible.

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JohnsonsIsBest · 11/05/2008 12:30

again thanks all and i wasn't aware that this huge a discussion would ensue. i was just summarising with my comments but i guess things i have said may have come across as passive agressive. if they DID though my friend didn't get it. She still gives DD coffee, and it is normally now little cups as she was tired of the sips. DD has REAL problems sleeping and I have said outright the two things may be connected. it has made no difference, so i guess i will 'but outsky' as suggested. in the end, it's not my DC.

there are many things we do as mums (and dads) which i'ms ure others would disagree with, so in a way I AM BEING UNREASONABLE and I@M NOT.

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belgo · 11/05/2008 12:36

johnsonisbest - if you know you are not being unreasonable, it's probably best to stay away from the IABU topic.

You can't say more then what you have said - after all, it's her who has to deal with the sleepless nights.

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JohnsonsIsBest · 11/05/2008 12:40

I know now Belgo, but it took you ladies to teach me that lesson!!
I think its a bit of a mix of unreasonable and reasonable depnding on your point of view but its more or less put to bed now and I will accept what you've all said

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Horton · 24/10/2008 21:53

My DD is two, and always has a cup of coffee in the morning (weak, made with lots of milk) and sleeps just fine. She likes it and genuinely won't drink milk in other forms. Personally, I'm just glad there is some way I can get her to drink some milk as she is a cheese-hating freak and only deigns to eat yoghurt about once a week.

ilovemydog · 24/10/2008 22:00

Me and DD (aged 2) went to a cafe a few months ago and I had an espresso and got her a 'coffee' and we shared a brownie...

As we were leaving this elderly lady said, 'your daughter is so well behaved (it was a good day!) but why do you insist on giving her coffee?'

It was frothy milk FFS!

Don't people pretend anymore?

Theladyevenstar · 24/10/2008 22:29

My ds1 10yrs hates coffee but loves tea, I hate tea but drink mug after mug of coffee and ok all slate me lol BUT ds2 13m LOVES sipping my coffee. In fact today as he is unwell and not drinking hardly anything except sips of coffee I made him a very weak coffee which he drank. Maybe not perfct but it was fluids.

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