WIBU to be upset that my ex-boyfriend asked my cousin out?

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This happened many moons ago.

Ex-boyfriend asked my cousin out, she entertained it. My mum said it wasn't anything to do with me because we weren't together any longer.

WIBU to think this was just not right?

For context, cousin and I lived on the same road. Fairly close growing up as children.
She has form for sleeping with her friends' boyfriends and doesn't care much about the consequences.
My mum hasn't really ever been much of a mother figure, this is just another example where she discounted my feelings entirely.

WIBU?

Bit of a dick move from the ex and from your cousin but really, you were a teenager in a not-terribly-serious relationship and it’s not like a lot of teens don’t chop and change boyfriends regularly! Why are you focussing on this now, apparently many years later, when it’s so relatively minor?

Another thread reminded me of it.

How long ago are we talking?

How long after you split did he ask her out?

A week, maybe two.

As this thread has proved people see these things differently. As, apparently, your mum does. If you don’t care about him then I’m a bit lost as to why it matters at all.

They all sound like a bunch of chavs IMO. Hold your head up high girl.

Well I can kind of see your point then
But it was a long time ago as the song says let it go!

A week, maybe two.

Yeah that's a dick move from both of them.

Him for attempting to wind you up by asking her and her entertaining him.

Why would you care? You broke up.

Presumably you know a lot of the same people - this is especially true in a smaller community - so people dating their friends’ or cousins’ exes isn’t really a big deal.

Hell, one of DP’s mates, when we were young, dated three of my friends within a year.

2 years when you were 18. Get over yourself.

i honestly don’t understand this concept of not dating a friend’s ex unless the ex is so awful that you can’t be in the same room with them ever again. This is especially true if the relationship never got as far as marriage

you dating a person first is just a stroke of fate. Maybe they are a perfect match. Why should they be kept apart just because of dumb luck?

They would obviously expect you to of moved on after all it was 2yrs when you were 18. I wouldn't care in least that far back in my past. At 18 I had been dating someone for 2yrs and if anyone I knew family member or friend wanted to date them then go right ahead, he wasn't abusive and geez it was 2yrs forever ago. I'm happily married and have been for 16yrs so I wouldn't of given a rats behind. Your mams response is likely trying to bring you to your senses. After all these years exactly what is irritating you. It can't be the man asking your cousin out and her accepting because you're well rid and must have your own history. If it was recent 2yrs then yes a bit insensitive but not after all this time. Concentrate on current life ambitions and goals don't get sucked into the past.