Not farting in front of DH

[Dancingatthepinkponyclub]

Not really an AIBU but I love hearing what others think!

Have been with my DH for 18 years and have never intentionally farted in front of him. I mean I know it’s impossible to hold every fart in but he’s never actually heard one! If I need to I would go in another room or be discreet. My mum and sister are the same and a couple of friends. Also my DH is the same and won’t in front of me unless he does by mistake!

I know it’s natural and everyone does it but I’d never want to endure someone’s else’s fart nor make them endure mine! It hardly makes you attractive does it! That being said I wouldn’t fart in front of anyone… I mean maybe the dog!

what do you think?!

Nope not for me

I'm not precious, I am pretty crude and happy to hear and share gross information with others, and I'm very comfortable with my husband.

But sitting in a fart filled room, disgusting.

It's an unpleasant thing to inflict on someone and I can't comprehend how people enjoy sitting in each others stink. I've got clean pjs on, nice smelling bedding, I've used a pillow spray. I'd find it absolutely rank if my husband came in the room and filled it with fart that I've got to breath in.

I shared a bed with my friend who's a farter a few months ago, and I felt like crying in the middle of the night, I waa so tired but couldn't sleep, the room smelt rotten and I felt so gross breathing it in.

Me and oh have a giggle at accidental farts, he made me jump the other day and I farted for example, but that's entirely different to just freely letting rip and inflicting it on others.

It hurts to hold them in i have to let them out.

I once worked with someone who held a fart in as a kid, because they had visitors. He ended up getting a twisted bowel and had to have an op!
I don't fart on purpose, but if I got up to leave the room it'd come out anyway. So I just blow where I am! If you have stomach issues anyway, it's not easy to quickly remove yourself!
I only fart in front of my mate and my DH! But then they do the same!!!

I find it really surprising that people don't fart at home at least.

After birthing 2nd dc my control is worse that it was.
But like other posters. I'd never be in the room on some days if I couldn't just fart.
Uptight.
Of course everyone farts walking round and at work. They let sneaky quiet ones out if they can.

I can't imagine not feeling comfortable enough to fart in my own home or around the people who are supposed to love me unconditionally.

It most definitely is rude. Who wants to smell the insides of someone’s intestines??

I have no terrible stomach issues that prevent me from having the control to leave the room. DH is exactly the same. Of course it happens once in a while, and there's no embarrassment when it does, but neither of us want to intentionally inflict unpleasant smells on other people.

I often find adults who still consider burps, bums, poos and/or farts to be funny a little tiresome though. Different folks and all that, but someone who still thinks a natural bodily function is the height of comedy is unlikely to be my kind of person.

Adults aren’t actually meant to love each other unconditionally though.

You'd probably find some of our conversations amusing! But I don't consider myself prudy at all. Just quite fussy and sensitive to smells.

It's the kind of thing we've always talked about, I'm sure we discussed whether we would poo in front of each other at the start.

It's not that farting or pooing in front of each other is embarrassing. Or that either would be a problem if accidental.

It's more that I'd been in previous 'farting and pooing' in front of each other relationships before and don't think that aspect added anything positive. If anything, it made the thought of living with that closely with another human again less enticing.

I don't really want to sleep in a bed and sit in a living room that regularly smells of fart. Or have someone come and poo while I'm relaxing in the bath.

So this time I thought it was important to be open about what we wanted from the start.

Free farting household here.

@CheekyHobson fair enough, I have to say I'm very glad I married a man who isn't put off by a natural bodily function or who expects me to leave the room in my own home every time I need to fart 🤣

Honestly, I would hate to live the way some people on here describe. It sounds very uptight and not very enjoyable or relaxing.

Oh yes I’m sure but I have no choice over that!

No I definitely sweat and get BO! Again, I wear deodorant to try and hide this and wash regularly but some things you can’t help! Farting with intent you can!

Occasionally but not deliberately as it's a bit gross.
Worst thing is at work in the office alone, you let one go and immediately someone walks into the office and comes up to your desk to ask a question... that's real embarrassing

But hopefully his cock doesn’t smell of shit?!

It wouldn’t jeopardise it but I’d just find it a bit gross as would he! Trust me the attraction is strong!

Not intentionally 😁. Odd one slipped out whilst asleep etc. The ex always farting with gusto. I do find it unattractive if its forced farting. My gran always said ladies go out the room to pass wind...so i try not to fart with folks around..its still ingrained in me.
Only time i couldnt help farting was after epidural...that ward was so freeing lol...cos everyone was tooting away and we were all meh.

Each to their own; I found it miserable to be in a relationship with someone who thought it humorous to let a huge smelly fart rip right next to our child’s bed at bedtime and then exit the room, leaving me and the child to choke on it.

Many people seem to view relationships where you choose not to fart in front of your partner as some kind of oppressive expectation on each other, rather than the courtesy, willingly given, that it actually is… just a small polite thing that you choose to do for each other, like asking if they want a cuppa when you’re having one or popping each other’s teacups in the dishwasher when you’re cleaning up.

I really don’t find it the loveless hardship or anxious requirement that some seem to think it must be.

Not even a fanny fart OP?! 😂

Surely it makes it all the more embarrassing when you do have to deal with bodily functions at other points in life? We are currently looking after incontinent elderly parents who are wearing adult nappies and I was joking with my husband about when we might have to do this for each other.

@Anothernameonthewall I've suffered with these and changing my diet (cutting out sugar/carbs) has helped enormously

Well I can't hold in a fart. If it's on its way it's on its way so while not ideal it happens.

@CheekyHobson there's a difference between farting on purpose and finding it funny, and just accepting it a natural bodily function that often can't be controlled.

I just can't imagine being expected to get up and leave the room every time I felt a fart brewing - your home is meant to be the place where you can unwind and not have to worry about social norms 🤷‍♀️

there is a difference between an accidental one and deliberately doing a loud one which you could keep in if you tried. I’m lucky that I don’t do loud ones, I I couldn’t force one out of i tried

I really can't wait until you get old OP! Your sphincter is a muscle and like all muscles it weakens with age and farts pop out without warning.

Unless you spend your entire waking moments with your buttocks clenched you will fart... anywhere.

Again, it’s not an expectation from my partner or from me. I choose to do it for him as I find it unpleasant when someone farts near to me, and he feels the same way. It’s a mutual courtesy.

I think some people in the thread are assuming that those who choose not to must be horribly embarrassed and pearl clutchy about it thus 'but giving birth / but food poisoning / but incontinence in old age' like it's a Gotcha.

My DH has seen me give birth, he's heard (and likely smelled) me have explosive food poisoning, I've come on unexpectedly and bled all over him, I've no doubt I fart in my sleep as does he, I've used the bathroom right after him, shared a small hotel room when he had a stomach upset etc etc, all totally natural and not at all embarrassing, and yet I still have absolutely no desire to sit beside someone on the couch of an evening and either of us be deliberately pumping out noxious air and faecal particles and thinking it's funny.

We do both think it's hilarious when the baby shakes the room with a tremendous series of farts, but he's only 8 months so gets a pass for now.