I’m in a new relationship of 5 months, in a lot of ways it’s been one of the best relationships and I’ve never felt so loved, fancied and like I have so much in common with someone. It started out so much fun, constantly laughing, great sex and I just felt so happy. We do still have those aspects but I feel like the drama is continuous. He is going through a very difficult situation in his personal life, and when I was informed of the situation I took some space to consider everything and ultimately decided to continue the relationship. However this situation massively impacts his mental health, his coping mechanisms are unhealthy, I worry when he starts drinking as he always takes it too far. He has admitted to using alcohol as a crutch. Recently he went for a couple of beers at 2pm and said he’d be home at 5pm. We don’t live together but I was waiting for the usual FaceTime. I then didn’t hear from him until I text him at 4am saying I was worried, he ignored that but came online straight away. I text him again at 5am saying if he’s on some bender can he just let me know so I can stop worrying. He replied instantly saying yes the night carried on and they got a bag and he was at mates house. We had a big argument after this he did apologise and promised not to do it again, he hasn’t (yet) but has made comments about drugs being an escape from the situation. I reminded him of his promise and he started saying he doesn’t mean going out and doing them just alone at home. I said that’s a massive red flag for me. He hasn’t done drugs since but again has got drunk and argued with me over stupid shit. The last few days he’s been really up and down whilst staying with me, making me feel really on edge, he apologised last night and said he was really sorry and that I’ve done nothing wrong he’s just not in a good place mentally. I accepted his apology and we had a normal evening until he bought up the topic we argued about again and started making what I felt were offensive comments towards me, I said I’m not having this conversation and rolled over to go to sleep and he said that I’m a child and can’t have a civil conversation without rolling over so he packed all his stuff and left and went home in the middle of the night. I got upset as he was leaving due to the abruptness of it and put my head under the duvet so he wouldn’t see me cry, but he heard I guess and made one last dig that crying is a manipulation tactic and then stormed out. I don’t think it’s manipulative to be hurt?! I haven’t heard from him at all today. Whenever we have arguments it is always me that reaches out to smooth things over, he’s so stubborn he will just continue to ignore me. I always panic and try and make it better but this time I just think fuck you?! I’m not saying I’ve been perfect, some arguments have been my fault but there’s a theme of him being really up and down, quite nasty at times, and me always being the one to fix it.