To feel annoyed DH cooked something he knows I don't like

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DH very rarely cooks. It's a combination of his long work hours (so doesn't get in in time to make anything) and he really never learned to cook anything. Anyway, for Valentines (yes, sorry, another Valentines thread) his gift to me was a meal cooked by himself. It was a surprise and I didn't know what it would be until he dished up. It was a food from his parents' country origin. It's really the only thing he knows how to make.
I said it tasted delicious because I didn't want him to feel sad after he went to all the effort. But he literally said "I know you don't like things cooked in tomato sauce but here you go".

AIBU to feel a bit miffed that he didn't at least try to make something else?

I just don’t pay that much attention to this stuff 🤷 if my hubby only knows how to make one meal and it’s one I don’t like I’d just crack open the champagne and tuck in.

You shouldn’t have to be grateful that he cooked you something when he knowingly cooked something he knows you do not like. Seriously who does that?

As it was his treat for Valentines he should have made an effort to try something new, if he messed it up at least he tried.
My (late) DH was an excellent cook but he would make this chicken liver risotto that I found hard to take taste and texture wise. But he loved it and didn't cook it often. So the once or twice a year he made it I ate it. I didn't say anything like 'it's delicious' but he knew it was not on my top ten (or even 50). But it was like how I occasionally watched a footie match (drew the line at cricket) to be companiable. He also did the same for me - tolerated something because he knew I loved it. If it's not frequent then no issue. The problem here is he WAS making it especially for the OP.

Urgh, choosing to cook haggis sounds like a deliberate act of sabotage to me. Offal is such a divisive choice of food and most amateur cooks would steer clear.

When I cook, I make an effort to cook things that firstly people like, secondly cooked to their preferences, crispy, well done, soft scramble.

I wouldn't have eaten it at all op and I wouldn't be cooking him anything ever again.

If he can read he can look up a recipe online and follow the instructions, he is lazy and has no respect for you.

So you told him you liked it to spare his feelings when he clearly doesn’t give a shit about yours. Ok.

Why does he only know how to cook one thing that his wife doesn't like?
That's quite pathetic. My DH isn't much of a cook, but he can manage more than one dish.
It's not a gift to give someone something you know they don't like.

He's an idiot for getting to what we age he is and only capable of cooking one dish and you must have been in shock to be sitting their meekly and eating something you don't like and he was fully aware you don't like it!

He has no excuse! Does he not have female relatives?

When my sister broke her leg, I went round and supervised him making a birthday cake for one of their children at his request. He was adept at cooking but hadn't much experience making a cake.

Why couldn't your husband have asked for help even if it were over the phone or via messages etc?

Plenty of step by step tutorials for free on eBay.

I can't imagine not caring about someone to the extent of cooking something they don't like and even acknowledging they don't like it as they drop the plate Ian front of you!

I don't like tit for tat usually but this really does call for it.

Really?

So, if you know your wife specifically doesn't like tomatoes, and the only dish you know how to make is something that includes tomatoes, you'd just go with it? How thoughtless.

If you tell him it’s delicious then how is he supposed to know you don’t like it? If he rarely cooks then he may have forgot. You aren’t helping the situation by saying it’s delicious tbh

That's pathetic of him. But why say it was delicious when you both knew you were lying? This is why men get away with shit. Speak up.

Or he can learn to cook you something you do like. Cooking is a basic skill.

Why bother, making out he's doing you a big favour, by cooking the only thing he knows how to cook (which is poor, one thing) , which he knows you don't like. Twat!

Are you fussy about food? Or is the no tomato sauce thing the main thing you dislike? It makes a difference to whether he was unreasonable or not. If it's the one thing you don't like then he was pretty ridiculous. But if you're fussy about all manner of things he might have found it hard to think of something you'd actually like.

I think it's worth encouraging the stew thing though, if he's up for learning that would only be a good thing.

For a couple of weeks you could try Gousto or Hello Fresh who deliver all the ingredients for your choice from a wide range of meals. They come with detailed instructions that are easy to follow. Both companies usually have offers on for new customers.

Couldn't say that better.

"Put me off cooking". 🙄

It's just fucking food, anyway, at least to me.
Something to fuel the machine!

She didn't know what he was going to cook, and only said it was delicious afterwards. It's not something she'd previously said she liked.

I hate fish. DH knows I hate fish. He'd never, ever cook me fish for a special (or any) dinner. If all he could cook was fish he'd get me a takeaway. And frankly I'd rather he bunged a Happy Meal on my plate than serve me fish.