To feel a bit shite this valentines day

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I told myself I don't care about a 5th valentines day single and I didn't feel shit this morning. Went out and bought myself flowers. But this afternoon I just feel crap. Should have stayed off social media as its full of people sharing what their partners and/or kids have done for them. I just feel really lonely.

Get off SM, it’s brain rot at the best of times but even worse when you’re feeling vulnerable.
Have you got anything you’re looking forward to doing this weekend?
Ps, sorry you’re feeling shit and I hope your day turns around 💐

Sorry you feel shit, but honestly ignore social media!

I'm working all weekend, no plans tonight but am seeing friends tomorrow night.

Good for you for getting yourself flowers. Socials are just BS. There will be people posting all sorts of photos who will have a big row later or else they're being cheated on or any number of things that are not the silly notion they'd want to portray.

There's a lot to be said for being safe and calm and happy in your own company. Here's some more flowers for you

Oh girl, stay off social media!

Maybe start a thread bashing men, I love a good man bashing sesh

Valentines day is shit and pointess and I say this as someone married.

Not to dismiss your feelings but really try not to feel bad. It is simply another day in my house and hardly anyone I know celebrates it either. Try and see it for the random Friday it is!

I'm sorry you are feeling rotten today OP.

I've just been getting told off on another MN Valentines Day thread because I was making the point a lot of people really don't want to hear all the boastful nonsense about their gifts and cards and stuff.

My theory is the more people go on about their Valentine's Day gifts the more insecure they are about their relationship because they have to somehow prove to everyone else their partner must love them.

Get off sm and do some exercise

I've got nice valentines plans with my husband, so I'm not saying this from a place of jealousy or envy, but I always assume the most fragile/unhappy relationships are the ones which you see plastered all over social media.

Honestly when people post glowing tributes on SM to their partners I think they must be on the rocks! (Happily married here and going to the cinema with some girlfriends)

I bought myself this!
Because I like it and deserve it!

I do think that with those public sm accounts, you've to take it all with a pinch of salt x

Ahhh OP! Been there, done that- got the T shirt.

I actually deleted social media in the end (bot because of Valentine’s day but just comparison in general!) and it did my mental health the world of good.

Just a reminder- people only post the good bits. There will be plenty happy couples out there- but also plenty unhappy ones with happy photos.

Look after yourself and have a great time with your pals 💐

I’ve seen gushy sm posts from friends I know are in awful relationships. I’d choose singledom over what they have to put up with any day. This is my 7th valentine’s alone, I don’t even see it as a “day” anymore. Agree with Mumteedum about being safe and calm and happy in your own company - when you get there, it’s wonderful ❤️ x

I've seen loads of gushy posts from people I know are in horrendous relationships. Don't believe SM, it is full of crap.
Self care is important, take care of yourself.

The only gushing post I’ve seen on fb is from someone I absolutely know to be emotionally abusive. The twat got lots of ❤️ reactions though 🙄.

Hope you’re feeling cheerier now, OP. 💐

A capybara!
I'm married, all good but my (75 yo) husband of 20 years wouldn't entertain a plush animal,
so I bought myself a koala 😂❤️

It's just another day to make people feel bad about themselves. People also love to gloat on social media.

I think Valentine's Day is a load of old shite and I'm married.

Social media is mainly people trying to convince you their relationship is great !im married together 22 years I have never bothered my backside with valentines.

I got the kids stuff that’s it, I’m back from work eating my pasta then I’ll be jammies and bed. So I can assure not all of us even notice this commercial stuff, the women I work with hadn’t even mentioned it and one was going for a chippy on her way home.

The people I have seen post Valentine’s Day stuff today are all secretly in awful relationships. The people that haven’t posted anything are people that I know are in seemingly quite healthy relationships. Valentine’s is a load a crap.

Exactly this OP. Social media is lie after lie. The gushiest ones are usually the ones with the most to hide. Enjoy seeing your friends this weekend.Hope this article helps.
www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/feb/09/were-in-a-relationship-recession-and-a-lot-of-women-are-absolutely-fine-with-that

As someone who is in a relationship, I also think it's very cringey and annoying to see all the Valentine's Day boastfulness on social media! I always take it with a pinch of salt because it's never reality, it's just a creation of whatever perception that person wants to create. For example I saw a swooning VD post of lovely chocolates and a card and other bits and bobs from a friend who I know is in a very unhappy and troubled relationship. I think it's quite a shame if people feel the need to keep up appearances like that, but equally some people are just show offs!

I always feel like this on mothers day (difficult relationship with my mum) as so many post all over facebook. Funnily enough this year valentines day hasn't bothered me when usually it does. I think be kind to yourself, do something you enjoy tonight (exercise, TV, book, nice bath...) and as others have said remember that what folk say on sm isn't necessarily the reality.

Fully agree with the other posters, ignore SM. Based on the couples I know that post gushy, loved up posts and photos all the time, they’re always the couples with the most issues. They all want to project the perfect image when in actual fact their relationships are falling apart.

My DH and I never post to each other on Valentine’s Day and we only do birthdays and anniversaries if it’s a significant one. We tell each other in person and will celebrate over the weekend when we can get a babysitter but won’t be posting it all over SM because we don’t need validation from others.

If I were you I’d pick up a takeaway and snacks after work and watch a film or TV series you like. Or have a bath and pamper yourself. I’m sure you’ll have a better time than all these ‘loved up’ SM couples.

This. Even in a relationship the day is a gimmick.