To feel a bit shite this valentines day

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I told myself I don't care about a 5th valentines day single and I didn't feel shit this morning. Went out and bought myself flowers. But this afternoon I just feel crap. Should have stayed off social media as its full of people sharing what their partners and/or kids have done for them. I just feel really lonely.

We have been married for nearly 46 years.
I don't need one day to supposedly make me feel special.
I don't need a card, flowers or chocolate.
It's the day to day love and respect that's more important.
DH and I went to the garden centre for lunch not because it's
Valentines day just to meet my brother and his wife.

You buy yourself flowers not because it's valentine's but
because you deserve them.

I’ve just seen a photo of a bouquet of beautiful roses given to someone I know on FB. He beat her senseless a few months ago in front of their two little ones.
Don’t believe everything you see on social media.

I'm separated but still living (hopefully only for another month or two) with my narcissistic, emotionally abusive cunt of a stbxh. He's away this weekend for a romantic weekend with his girlfriend. I'm trying to find the positive that he's at least not here sucking the oxygen out of my atmosphere 😂

Tomorrow is a new day

I know all of you who have posted that you are in long term happy relationships but don't do Valentine's Day mean well but I don't think you really got what the OP was saying.
There are certain days of the year when it can be extra tough if you are alone & feel lonely. Today is one of them.

I think the OP just needs some sympathy & empathy right now.

I hope you are feeling better OP. As others have said, avoid Social Media, tbh that includes MN really. Treat yourself to something nice to eat, a glass of wine maybe & watch something you enjoy on TV.

Go to bed early & when you wake up this ridiculous day will be over. Xxx

My husband and I don't really do anything special for Valentine's Day and I don't post soppy stuff on social media, but it still feels a bit crap that he got up and went to work at 6am this morning (to go to the onsite gym before his work day started), he didn't get home until about 18:45 and had then proceeded to get his laptop out and carry on working. While I put the younger kids to bed and figure out the age-old dilemma of what to have for dinner. He's offered to order takeaway but eldest child doesn't want takeaway so I'm going to have to go to the shop to get something to cook, as I didn't get anything out of the freezer this morning. So 'Valentine's day' is just another day here. Some days I think I'd rather be single, at least then the only person disappointing myself is me

I’ve gone 59 years with no Valentine’s Day, stop caring about it, it’s rubbish.

I’ve spent the day with my dad and had an amazing time.

It's our wedding anniversary today, but my husband died sudden just over six years ago and I don't think about it.

I’m having a quiet night in with my current luvvy

Can’t beat it - he’s very loving - doesn’t snore, great personal hygiene, appreciative of all the food I prepare, brings me gifts etc

When I was younger (and stupid) I would post the gushing valentines posts on Facebook showing the card and flowers my ex got for me. At the time I was completely miserable though as he was very abusive.
since I’ve matured I realise that those in the happiest partnerships don’t feel the need for validation of their relationship online

Why are they still together and isn't he up in court for that?

No different to mothers day and fathers day. Not everyone will enjoy and celebrate.

Happy people don't post that shite.

I was that person once upon a time. In an abusive relationship, trying to convince myself it wasn't. Showing off my gifts because that was one way to try and make me feel better. Look at my three pairs of Louboutins (one year alone), and I'd know so many women would look at that and think, oh you lucky thing. That's why I posted it. To try and give myself a boost. What normal person needs to try and validate to an online audience that they are loved by the adult who's supposed to love them? Just say that out loud until it sinks in.

I got cards and chocs this morning. No one would know. Well, I guess this thread does now, but that's not the same.

I'd rather be you than ever be the girl with the presents I needed to show off, any day of the week.

Yep exactly and if someone posted that they were sad on Mother's Day because they had lost their mum or couldn't have kids or whatever, I wouldn't come on & say that I was having a lovely but understated day with my kids/mum.
Read the room.

It passed! Thank you everyone. Am happily sat with a pizza and a film and feeling very lucky not to be in a bad relationship.

I wondered how long it would take in this thread for the people to pile on saying the social media posts are fake/gloating/must be relationships on the rocks - if you’re single, or simply don’t want to post on social media then don’t, you don’t have to find reasons why it’s fake or wrong for others to do so.

Thank you so much for all the lovely replies x

Are you a Facebook over sharer @QuizzlyBears ?😂

I don’t have Facebook so you’ll need to try harder with your catty comments 😂but I do enjoy seeing other people happy and celebrating that, and I just don’t see why every year people need to suggest that posts sharing loved ones have to be fake. It stinks of bitter single or fed up because partner hasn’t made any effort.

Social media is just not an accurate representation of what people's lives are actually like though. I just all feels so fake to me. You hit right back with the catty comments I see but I'm neither single nor dissatisfied with my relationship. 😂I like truth and honesty and I can't see any of it on social media. If someone is in my life and we like each other, we will be sending each other nice messages and photos about our lives anyway. I hate all the banale, mundane shit on there as well. I really don't need or want to see what my friend from schools cousin's tea looks like. Been off Facebook for years and one of the best decisions I ever made. I have WhatsApp, if you have my phone number( because I actually like you) you can contact me on WhatsApp. Job done. 😄

Enjoy your flowers.

SM is fake, full of attention seeking people eager for likes.

I remember finding an old neighbours FB, my goodness, very far from her reality.

I didn't even realize it was valentines day till about 12pm when I was wished it by someone random at work. Then I cursed it because it meant taxis were more expensive due to demand. It didn't even register here cos its pointless. A partner doesn't need a specific day to show you appreciation.

I don’t use social media much but I’m certain I could post some images from today that would paint a really loved up, happy picture. The reality was I was working hard from 4pm to 7pm to make a Valentine’s Day dinner for us (DH and DCs) to enjoy by candlelight, and I am wrecked now having done the shopping for this last night on my way home from work at 11pm and working all day today. So it was very different to live today than it would look online!

Be kind to yourself, remember the reality is very different to the fantasy lives we see online and go have fun with your friends tomorrow.