Valentines

[Aquarius1234]

So much cheap rubbish in supermarkets.
Valentines is so cheesy..
But seriously it can't be good for single people that are depressed about being single.

Luckily I don't care.

It might be upsetting to some but they aren't going to stop selling valentines gifts in the hope of not offending those people. Same as people who don't have parents to celebrate mothers and fathers day and those who have negative associations around Christmas. I don't think many people are going to be seriously triggered at the sight of a Valentines card. Most people manage to get through life realising that not everything caters to them.

I think a lot of the extended marketing around Valentine’s Day has arisen purely because of this sentiment and marketers seeing a gap in the market to fill: hence cards and presents for children, or blood relatives; Galentine’s cards; funny or rude cards which cynical people who don’t like to think of themselves as cheesy and sentimental can buy for the equally cynical person they’ve been married to for twenty years.

It doesn’t have to be a big deal. If you’re somebody who feels sad about being single but likes the idea of giving and receiving cute presents - well, Galentine’s is for you.

Disagree on this. Cards can be a big trauma trigger. People can still accept your statements and be triggered

People who are unhappy with their situation, whatever that is, will always find something that reminds them of it.

Well life goes on. Just something you're going to have to get over or find ways to deal with to live functionally in society. I understand that people may be upset by certain things but be sensible.

It's just a bit of fun surely. I know lots of people dismiss it as 'commercial rubbish' etc however DH and I celebrate in the sense that we take any opportunity to lift a day out of the ordinary. Similarly, when it's International Woman's Day (for example) he might buy me a bag of donuts on the way home 'just because'. Day to day life can be mundane / dull so why not take advantage of a 'special' / notable day.

We don't go mad by any means but we give each other cards, we both got each other favourite chocolates (he loves dark chocolate, I love white). We got a 'fancy' bottle of wine (i.e. more expensive that what we would usually have) and will get a nice takeaway later.

For those that trot out "we don't need a Hallmark holiday to treat each other, we do that in our everyday lives", well we treat each other well day to day, he brings me breakfast in bed on Sundays, we bring home little spontaneous gifts from time to time. People can do both - show love and appreciation in everyday life but also have a bit of fun on these sorts of days also.

I miss the days before being "triggered" was a thing.

Have to agree. Everyone goes through shit times in life, and unfortunately life will always find a way to remind you of those shit times. I always get an odd twinge around Mother’s Day knowing I don’t have a mother to give a card to - and mine was an absolute narcissist when alive! It’s the feeling of being ‘abnormal’ in a world that pushes social togetherness. But you suck it up and realise that your issues isn’t everybody else’s. Can’t imagine having a small breakdown in The Card Factory over it.

The amount of products in shops this year is quite a small amount in my opinion.
Even in big branches of supermarkets it's barely 2 bays of products and half of those are boxes of chocolates!
If you don't walk down the "seasonal" aisle you wouldn't even notice it.

Then people need to be mature adults and realize that occasionally they will be confronted with things that upset them.

But seriously it can't be good for single people that are depressed about being single

Is everyone meant to pretend nothing good is happening in their lives on the off-chance that it upsets someone who's feeling miserable?

I thought I had been sent a Valentine’s Day card today when I opened my post box and saw a red envelope. But it was just somebody trying to sell me insurance😕

Triggered by the sight of a Valentine's card? Ridiculous.

This triggering malarkey is getting so exhausting. Everything triggers someone somewhere sometime - apparently.
It's life. We all miss or loose someone/ something very dear along the way. It doesn't mean we should never ever be reminded of that person or situation.

I'd say Mother's Day cards might be upsetting when someone lost their mother. But then so could be the sight of anything else which reminds of the lost mother.

Valentines is easy enough to ignore. And if a couple gift each other anything there is plenty of choice for beautiful flowers or good quality items.

As an aside, if you haven’t already seen, M&S currently has a Valentine’s Day Cupid Colin the Caterpillar cake for sale, and he is stinkin’ cute. Reception treated our office to them yesterday and just as stinkin’ cute was seeing the sheer joy an office full of insurance executives got out of cutting Cupid Colin cake to give to their mate at the next desk. It was glorious.

Fitting user name for this sentiment.

Im a bit bias as I work with severely disadvantaged children, and find the commercialism of Christmas, mothers/ fathers day and valentines day etc triggers children to be reminded what they don't have etc. eg making mothers day card in class at school when your mother is dead/ in prison/ in rehab is very upsetting for children. The symbol of the card can trigger this emotional pain/
Loss in adolescence/ adulthood.

Each to their own though, if you want to celebrate valentines day crack on.

I think it should be a small
Personal affair.

I like valentines day single or a couple Good excuse for wine and chocolate and nice food. Buy yourself flowers

We don't do valentines day, think it's commercialised shite,but many do and if they enjoy it, crack on.

Anyone that gets triggered over it...sad, but...tough. The world can't stop everything because some people can't deal with it. Life doesn't work like that

Is anyone going to avoid the supermarket tonight then?
The card trigger thing is interesting. It could easily upset people if they look too closely. It's not about being single, more that people might feel everyone else is smug and happy.
Which of course isn't actually true.
Tesco and Sainsbury's Valentines stuff is right as you walk in. I find it stupid as it's too easy for all the lazy husbands/ bfs.

I have only ever bought a a card in the past and made sure it wasn't a stupid crappy one..something subtle and organic looking.

I remember years ago at school Valentines was about sending a card to someone and putting a ? in it.
Then getting rejected by said person. I had way more confidence as a teen lol yet was very shy.

But yeh wasn't Valentines supposed to be about mystery.

You could say the same about Mothers or Fathers Day.

I am not remotely interested in Valentines Day but if others enjoy it, I am fine with that.

I think it tells us something about our societal values when we're quite happy to celebrate Mothers Day and Fathers Day, and we go all out to make Christmas, Easter and Halloween special for children, but we have so many issues with a day spent celebrating your adult SO.

You can buy cheap tat for literally any occasion, or you can celebrate with things that are meaningful to you.

There's just as many people with triggers around parents or religious celebrations as people with triggers around relationships.

I avoid supermarkets in general

The cheap rubbish is there all year round, as well. Tot for people to buy at Easter, Halloween, Christmas. Rinse, and repeat.

Mothers’ Day can be intensely triggering for those struggling with onfetilityorwho have lost their mothers. Would you wan5 to ban that too OP?