Ok, this is going to sound insulting but i’m really not saying it to be insulting. I’m trying to be constructive and give you an example.
Is the way you typed this thread similar to how you have typed your online dating profile? And similar to how you type when you talk to men you’ve matched with on online dating, @PerkyOchrePeer ?
By that I mean muddled, rambly and with no or incorrect punctuation? Because, the men you’re going to attract will be similar in style to yourself. Again, this will sound bad and i’m sorry, but “better” men, educated, well spoken, more attention detailed etc, won’t be attracted to a profile written like this. It’s going to attract men who are looking for a vulnerable woman they can take advantage of, or it’s going to attract men who write a similar way and aren’t exactly a good prospect. They just tend to be a bit… meh and unreliable.
You need to present your best self, and be able to type a sentence together and hold a written conversation if you want to match with men who are decent long-term prospects.
It’s not as true in the real world. Lots of people are functionally illiterate and really struggle with written communication, but it doesn’t matter because you get to know them through other communication. But online, there is just such a high number of really shitty men, or men looking for vulnerable woman and your writing style is a big sign that you could be used. You’ll attract the wrong man.
I was only dating, and only occasionally matched with someone who was clearly looking for a woman to take advantage of but it was rare and i’d unmatch them within a few sentences. My friend, who struggles with writing and isn’t very good at putting herself forward in a way that makes sense, pretty much only ever matched with really shitty men looking for women they could easily manipulate and love bomb with comments like this man made (great connection, meant to be, so right for each other after only a couple of chats).
You’re attracting the wrong type of man if you write the way you have here. It sucks and i’m sorry to be saying it, but you do need to try and protect yourself from that. Maybe get some help writing your profile and with the way you communicate online?