Online date

[PerkyOchrePeer]

I got chatting to a guy online and he seemed okay so we swapped photos. he was ok to look at but I did not like his personality. He kept asking me if I fancied him from his photo. He then said can I meet you next week to get to know you. I said I don't meet people I hardly know and he said to me where you can get to know me when you meet me. I kept on saying can be chat first and he said I want to meet you so I told him I don't think we are onto the same thing here and I don't really think we should chat anymore and say goodbye.

And as it was pointed out on here it must be my personality because I've got some really nice clothes add some nice jewellery and go to the hairdresser regularly and I wear makeup so I don't understand why men don't want to flirt with me or ask me on a date

Maybe I give off a vibe which says don't flirt with me

You don’t have to pay for any dating apps. I never paid. I’ve been with the guy I met for 18 months now. Never paid for the apps.

Well the date site i was introduced to is a con

The date site I was introduced to is called Friends first. If you Google it it will say that it is more expensive than most because of what it offers. With this one you are not allowed to upload your own photograph onto your profile because they feel that so many people put up photographs which are not themselves and people look at the photographs and think he's nice and then when they meet them it's somebody completely different to what they looked like on their profile and so they will send their own photographer to visit you and take your photograph to upload onto the site and that way they can guarantee that the photographs on the profile are genuine and I think that's what you're paying for

I just hope the person I know who found a man fun friends First is okay with him because she's now having his baby and I know a couple of people who have been with men and had children with them and then the man leaves them for someone else and I really hope that doesn't happen with her

Most of the mainstream dating sites you don't have to pay for. You can pay for them, which will usually offer extra functionality, but I've met up with quite a few guys without coughing up a single penny on the sites. You don't have to wear make-up, either - I don't.

I do think that spending some time and effort on your self-esteem, be it through counselling or whatever, would be better than jumping onto dating sites, though - they can be a tough environment, and you need a thick skin.

Z I have a friend the same as me the same age nobody approaches her either she went to a party search you saw someone she liked he spoke to her didn't ask for her number and then another female at that same party he took her number and he is dating her and my friend is a really attractive woman so I don't understand it I really don't. I think the older you get to Harder it is to find men because when my friend and I were teenagers and in our 20s she was never Without a boyfriend she could go anywhere and come home and say I've met someone but it never happens anymore

Well, desperation comes across and is another unattractive quality.

You really do need to have some confidence and be more self assured. The “woe is me” isn’t helping you.

It's okay to be single, and I say that as a 50-something who has mostly been single through her life.