Cancelling family trip?

[Lisalala91]

AIBU?

Parenting one - 6 and 8 year old boys!

I try to be as kind and gentle parent as I can be and now I have maybe created a rod for my own back? My boys have been so rude and dismissive of me and my husband - shouting at us, breaking toys (throwing switch controllers eg), refusing to do tiny jobs (put away library books, put rubbish in bin) etc. We have a weekend away planned which is a fair bit of driving and lots of fun things planned there. Both boys have expressed today how they “don’t want a family weekend” and stomped off. To be honest, I feel the same and would rather not go just now, but also aware this is likely a snapshot of my current feelings.

Would I be unreasonable and call their bluff and actually cancel the trip and stay home? Maybe I have been too permissive and let them get away with a lot (empty threats?) and this is unfair to them now? Don’t know; also exhausted and could do with fresh perspective. Thanks!

In Ds's class there was a child who was gently parented not parented at all & his parents were professional nightmares. Anyway, said child goaded the next door neighbour's dog until it broke loose one day & bit 3 of the boy's fingers off.

The child now has 3 fingers missing & learnt a very valuable lesson that his parents failed to teach him. That all actions, whether positive or negative, have consequences.

Your kids need to learn this and it is your duty and obligation as a parent to teach them this. Otherwise, you're going to inflict the little brats on the rest of us poor unsuspecting public.