Page 19 | Woman shouted at me for parking in a disabled spot

AusMumhere · 2025-02-12T09:03:36+00:00

I parked in a disabled spot at the supermarket today. A woman about four cars away shouted at me and said 'that's a wheelie spot'. I shouted back 'I have a permit'. She then yelled 'where's ya walker?'. I said 'not all disabilities are visible'. I hate confrontation of any kind. Should I have walked away or should I have responded? I'm still in shock that I shouted.

WiddlinDiddlin · 17/02/2025 18:15

DP reminded me of when I was accosted at our car on the 'the disabled person must get out of the car' clause..

The person had arrived after us, seen me sitting in the car, no driver, assumed I was just lazing around whilst the driver did the shopping.

What they didn't see was me do the shopping whilst DP went to another shop, then return to our car to put the shopping in the back, and then sit in the front (chair by my open door as I can't put it in the car myself now) to do my insulin and wait for him, then we were off to another store on the same retail park, together.

DP arrived a few minutes later to the irate man still haranguing me, and he shut up a bit then once I was less of an easy target. Finally it seemed to dawn on him that if my chair was out of the car, I most likely HAD been out of the car, in my chair at some point, but the fucker still followed us as we went to the pet shop, to check we were really still shopping!

Rosscameasdoody · 17/02/2025 18:54

WiddlinDiddlin · 17/02/2025 18:15

DP reminded me of when I was accosted at our car on the 'the disabled person must get out of the car' clause..

The person had arrived after us, seen me sitting in the car, no driver, assumed I was just lazing around whilst the driver did the shopping.

What they didn't see was me do the shopping whilst DP went to another shop, then return to our car to put the shopping in the back, and then sit in the front (chair by my open door as I can't put it in the car myself now) to do my insulin and wait for him, then we were off to another store on the same retail park, together.

DP arrived a few minutes later to the irate man still haranguing me, and he shut up a bit then once I was less of an easy target. Finally it seemed to dawn on him that if my chair was out of the car, I most likely HAD been out of the car, in my chair at some point, but the fucker still followed us as we went to the pet shop, to check we were really still shopping!

You were using the space and the badge for your own benefit. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Shannon50 · 18/02/2025 16:57

Beware of narcs, they thrive on drama and chaos. Stay away from their toxic energy. 😊It's important to recognize them for who they are and protect yourself from their manipulative ways. Stay strong! 💪

sueelleker · 19/02/2025 09:29

LadyKenya · 16/02/2025 10:12

I know someone with Crohn's, and she can be fine for a while, and then have a devastating flare up. I would trust that she would know how to use her BB correctly, and was awarded it, because of need, in the first place. As a nurse some of your views are unfortunate tbh.

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And as a nurse, she can't spell Crohn's?

Rosscameasdoody · 19/02/2025 09:38

sueelleker · 19/02/2025 09:29

And as a nurse, she can't spell Crohn's?

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She’s also contradicting herself and blaming others when they pull her up. Spelling and punctuation all over the place and a nasty attitude to boot. Doesn’t sound much like a nurse to me. I’ve reported a couple of her personal attacks and l’m not engaging any more as it was derailing the thread.

LadyKenya · 19/02/2025 09:54

sueelleker · 19/02/2025 09:29

And as a nurse, she can't spell Crohn's?

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Tbf, her attitude was of more concern to myself, than her spelling! She could have dyslexia for all that I know.

FuzzyGreenAlien · 20/02/2025 10:18

ExtraOnions · 12/02/2025 10:22

Probably not going to be popular … but I think those spaces should be specifically for people with mobility issues, and those who need to get wheelchairs / scooters etc out of the car.

Some disabilities aren’t visible which is correct, and some people have disabilities that good days and bad days, just because you “can” doesn’t mean you “should”

I know a kid who qualified for a blue badge at pre-school age, because his cognitive disabilities are so profound that even getting him in and out of cars is a challenge: requiring space and co-operation or persuasion, but also because he might run off and it's safer if he's near the building and where cars are more spaced out rather than in the middle of a busy car park where there is worse visibility.

On the basis that he satisfied the authorities' requirements and the badge was issued, it's no business of anyone else's whether he has mobility difficulties.

JacquesHarlow · 20/02/2025 10:26

On the basis that he satisfied the authorities' requirements and the badge was issued, it's no business of anyone else's whether he has mobility difficulties.

Well said.

This should be pinned to the top of everyone's mind when they think it's necessary to challenge a BB user.

Madamum18 · 21/02/2025 12:56

Best reply said calmly is " Yes I am aware of that!" And turn away and walk off and get on with your day 💐

crankytoes · 21/02/2025 17:20

WiddlinDiddlin · 17/02/2025 18:15

DP reminded me of when I was accosted at our car on the 'the disabled person must get out of the car' clause..

The person had arrived after us, seen me sitting in the car, no driver, assumed I was just lazing around whilst the driver did the shopping.

What they didn't see was me do the shopping whilst DP went to another shop, then return to our car to put the shopping in the back, and then sit in the front (chair by my open door as I can't put it in the car myself now) to do my insulin and wait for him, then we were off to another store on the same retail park, together.

DP arrived a few minutes later to the irate man still haranguing me, and he shut up a bit then once I was less of an easy target. Finally it seemed to dawn on him that if my chair was out of the car, I most likely HAD been out of the car, in my chair at some point, but the fucker still followed us as we went to the pet shop, to check we were really still shopping!

This is where you get out your phone and start recording. Then call the non emergency police number 101 and tell them you are disabled and you are being harrassed by an aggressive man.

WiddlinDiddlin · 21/02/2025 17:59

Yeah, if I'd not had my hands full trying to check bloods/do insulin... there is also the fear that getting your phone out to film/call will wind them up further and I do not want my phone snatched out of my hands and chucked!

If such a thing happens again, I'll risk it though, he really was awful, seemed to think that disabled spaces are actually only for elderly wheelchair users and not the sort of person you want to enrage further!

JohnTheRevelator · 26/05/2025 22:39

I see the disabled parking space police are still alive and well. I would have been tempted to tell her to mind her own fucking business. What the hell has it got to do with her,or anyone else? And how many times do people need to be reminded THAT NOT ALL DISABILITIES ARE VISIBLE. And I wouldn't mind betting that these people who are always so bloody quick to jump on people who they think are not entitled to park in a disabled space,do so themselves.