To be sat here crying

[ThatsLifee]

So my ex and I broke up a while ago now and within weeks he was with another woman. He is now taking the children away with her etc. I am just sat here crying as I knew this man for so so long and now he just feels like a complete stranger. Does it get any easier?

How long did it take you. In hindsight was it the best thing for you? I’m worried as I am 34 and not getting any younger get and nowhere near ready for any kind of relationship, on a brighter note I could have put up with his shit for longer

OP you are more than likely crying for the loss of the family unit, rather than him. My ex left and married OW a decade ago. I was a mess for about eight weeks until he said and did such utterly dickish things that a switch flipped and I hated him. He rarely sees the kids now, does a lot of criticising from a distance about what I'm doing and I revel in my independence. It can be lonely bro g the only adult in the house but it's a trade off. It will get better. Try not to give too much headspace to his new relationship..you can't control it anyway and it will just annoy you as he swans about with his "free".

Ok. SOME men.

Is karma even real?

Men hardly ever move on without another warm body to go to.

He's been even worse, because it's clearly been calculated in that he's treated you like shit to make YOU the bad guy by splitting you up - when clearly he was just waiting for the opportunity to get with this other woman!

You will feel better soon, I promise. Find your anger. What an absolute bastard to do this to his wife, the mother of his children.

You cannot be serious.

He had this woman sitting in the wings, yes of course anyone broken up with is entitled to move on within their own timeline, but please. This man clearly engineered a break up so he could get his end away with another woman but be "blameless".

A "broken" man does not behave like this, be so for real.

When I spoke to him a few weeks ago he just said I didn’t want him in my life anymore. Well no, I tried really hard to make it work

No it's not. Which is why it's better to take responsibility for your own life and choices.

Some days I am fine, others (especially now I am due in my period) I cry, a LOT. Hopefully it will just get to a point where I can no longer cry anymore

Personally I don’t think think I could get with somebody who has just come out of a 20 year relationship

That's not your problem op. Karma isn't real and the last thing you should go is hang your happiness in what he is doing. It's irrelevant.

You don't have to. But he isn't you and he can do what he likes.

She isn't you either and she can do what she likes.

Hey op he’s just thinking of himself he’s been really horrible doing this to your kids they have probably struggled with him not being around and now they have to fit in with his new life. Selfish twat he probably pushed you on purpose to bin him and he probably already had her in place. You will get there in time just remember how awful he was and try to keep in your head you chose this so it must have been necessary.