To think Valentines Day is about romantic love?

[KimberleyClark]

And giving cards to family members is just weird?

Does it matter? I gave my daughter flowers last year as she needed a boost.

Does it harm you if it's a private moment

I give cards to my kids.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine%27s_Day

"Folk traditions
While the European folk traditions connected with Saint Valentine and Saint Valentine's Day have become marginalized by modern customs connecting the day with romantic love, there are still some connections with the advent of spring.
While the custom of sending cards, flowers, chocolates and other gifts originated in the UK, Valentine's Day still remains connected with various regional customs in England. In Norfolk, a character called "Jack" Valentine knocks on the rear door of houses, leaving sweets and presents for children. Although he was leaving treats, many children were scared of this mystical person.[46][47]
In Slovenia, Saint Valentine or Zdravko was one of the saints of spring, the saint of good health and the patron of beekeepers and pilgrims.[48] A proverb says that "Saint Valentine brings the keys of roots". Plants and flowers start to grow on this day. It has been celebrated as the day when the first work in the vineyards and in the fields commences. It is also said that birds propose to each other or marry on that day. Another proverb says "Valentin – prvi spomladin" ('Valentine – the first spring saint'), as in some places (especially White Carniola), Saint Valentine marks the beginning of spring.[49] Valentine's Day has only recently been celebrated as the day of love. The day of love was traditionally March 12, Saint Gregory's day, or February 22, Saint Vincent's Day. The patron of love was Saint Anthony, whose day has been celebrated on June 13.[48]"

Yabu! I'm planning an evening for dd to show her how her future dates should treat her, gonna be fun

Might get myself a steak and some wine for when she goes to bed as well, and binge love is blind

I don't send them cards but I will send dd at uni a care package with probably some heart shaped chocolates and similar. I will also get flowers for dd at home because she likes them - why not?

Delightful. Enjoy. How old is your daughter?

Sadly my children are with their father this weekend, but I will still be giving them a card.

Mines 5.5

She has autism so won't be super understanding of what's happening but she likes flowers and a teddy bear

Loves chocolate and sausages so I think she'll like it

The main thing is that they know they're loved ❤️ - plus you'll have an evening to binge love is blind on netflix? Always a good time

As long as your family members are aware when they receive a card from you that you don’t actually mean you’d like to bang them, I don’t think it really matters. It’s not as if chocolates, roses, and pink glittery cards have any intrinsic meaning, and most people like knowing that their family and friends have been thinking about them.

Valentines Day has lost all meaning and become commercialised! They've had all the stuff out since just after Christmas now!
When I was younger, my dad and I used to exchange cards! Which was cute as a kid, but stopped when I reached my teens. He said it was a bit daft as I was older (I suspect his partner was jealous, but that's another story!)
It's nicer to be treated to little things now and then, all year round, than forced to buy into and observe "a day"!

Who cares? I give my kids little chocolate hearts, why would that be of any relevance to anyone else?

Best reply here, and I do the same, but @KimberleyClark believes we need to curtail and restrict these expressions so what can you do.

I used to love getting valentines chocolates from my dad, in a heart shaped box with velvet and ribbons and fake roses on it when I was a child!
I used to get teased a bit by my pals, but I think they were probably jealous!

Looking at the junk in the shops it’s turned into nothing but another excuse to sell tat.

Go look up the history behind the martyrs, the festivals previously surrounding the date and Chaucer. Who says sending a card and buying ridiculous gifts for romance isn't weird?

How people show love for whoever they want to is their business.

That's so lovely 🥰

Who are you, the greetings card police?

Just because you feel it's about romantic love, that doesn't mean everyone else has to dance to your tune.

Personally, I've only ever given Valentine's cards to romantic partners, but I really can't see the harm in someone giving their kids something if they want to.

Well two thirds agree with me going by the vote so…..

When I was younger, I swear valentine's day wasn't even about already established couples....it was about sending anonymous cards to those you fancied

It's not a legally binding referendum.

I get my kids a card and some chocolates.

If you want to make it about romantic love that's cool for you. If others want to make it about love in general and a day to let people know you care about them does that really affect you?

It's not 'weird' at all.

I have never heard of this show - I'll check it out!

Me and my DP don't do anything for it other than cards and chocolate. However I do take my DD out (normally the day before or after) to a nice restaurant and get her a card and teddy 😅 also buy my mum a card and flowers since my dad passed away years ago

I'm my 60s and I agree with you!

Much as I love them, it wouldn't occur to me to give my adult children anything for Valentine's Day.

When I was a kid in the 80s and 90s Valentine's Day seemed to be about sending anonymous cards to a secret crush. No idea when that stopped and it became a commercial free for all, or maybe it always was and I just wasn't aware of that aspect.

I always get my two a little chocolate lollipop each.

My dad used to send me valentines cards, he was in California and it was more of a thing there I think. He’s no longer with us but I have one of the messages he wrote in one of the cards tattooed on my arm.

Yanbu. I think that not everything needs to be about kids. I know an 11 year old girl who apparently tells her father what she wants, eg jewellery, flowers, chocolates and I find that a bit odd. They aren't hurting anyone and each to their own but it's not something I'll ever buy into. Kids get birthdays, Christmas, Easter and Halloween. Valentines' is about romantic and sexual love.