Mum putting Movicol in water bottle at school, would you tell the school?

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So one of the Mums at the school gate was telling me her daughter gets constipated sometimes and when she does she puts Movicol in her water bottle for school. The kids are in Reception so age 4 or 5 and probably still of an age where they might take a swig from someone else's bottle or get their bottles mixed up, do you think I should tell school she's doing this or just keep out of it?

Yabu - don't tell school
Yanbu - tell school

Funny you say that, I have a condition that requires medication during the school day, and do you know where it lives? In the cabinet with all of the rest of the medication. All non-prescribed medication should be kept away from children, even if it wouldn’t be harmful in most cases.

I ‘cope’ wonderfully with children with all sorts of additional needs and medications, and their parents, as everyone is on the same team with the children’s best interests at heart.

You don’t seem to care about your son’s classmates or their conditions, which is very troubling, and your attitude towards other posters and your school staff isn’t any better. So I would assume, yes, you’d be a nightmare parent that only thinks about themself.

So it's not a water soluble mild laxative then? In which case it's not a similar medication.

Nothing would happen to my child, she's on Movicol anyway

You know what's worse than "nightmare parents"? Parents that still act like bullying teenagers. Trying to make her paranoid about other grown adults giving her mean looks? What are you, 12? Grow up.

Like I say I send my son with medication including his water and expect the school to fulfil their responsibility of making sure no one else takes his medication. What exactly am I supposed to care about? And why should I - my priority is my son, I have enough to worry about without worrying about other kids making mistakes outside of my control.

People are allowed to not give a shit BTW. I’m not someone who sits pretending I care about every child I’ve ever clapped eyes on. I care about my own and other people’s are not my problem

Huh? Who said anything about grown adults giving mean looks?

This is such a weird attitude.

I have spoken for a long time on MN about my son having a condition but have been careful to ever say what it is or what medication he’s on, and I don’t intend to start now so I’m afraid you’ll have to live without that knowledge. But perhaps don’t assume every medication has the same dosages and rules, it makes you look rather silly

WAIT - so it doesn’t even affect you 🤣🤣you just care sooooo much about the other kids. OR is it that you just wanna stick the boot into this one mum?

That would be me 🥰 I love a polite chuckle at a parent that really needs to be told to piss off but can’t because it’s a professional environment.

It’s a weird attitude to say what happens with other people’s kids in school that’s outside of my control or responsibility is not my problem?

Ok then.

I meant to hit "quote" - another person was telling someone to expect "sneers" from other parents and teachers for being a "nightmare parent", which is extremely childish nonsense.

Sounds like the kids have rubbed off on you far too much. Biggest pet peeve is grown adults that work with kids/have kids and yet act like kids themselves. So pathetic. You need to grow up.

Yes apparently parents of disabled children should expect sneers when telling the school about their child’s medical requirements as prescribed and planned by a doctor.

No wonder teaching is fucked with arseholes in the profession

And as I said, nicely, that may change when he is no longer at that school because it’s increasingly uncommon not to have all medication stored safely.

You’re allowed to not care but you seem so proud of it and that is beyond off putting to others. I do care about other peoples children because I care about other people generally, that really shouldn’t be hard to fathom.

I have no desire to stick the boot in to anyone, I get on very well with her. As someone who used to work in a childcare setting it just set off some small alarm bells because we would have never been allowed to have medication floating about in water bottles that other kids could have access to that's all.

Ah yes, we've all known the type 🙈

There is a certain amount of gall in bullying a Mum of a disabled child, telling her to be paranoid about getting nasty looks from other parents and teachers at the school her child goes to and then saying you "care about people generally". You clearly don't teach cognitive dissonance 🙄

I am disabled you wally, it’s not ableist to promote following health and safety regarding medication. 😂

You know what, you should make a post about your feelings on that subject I’m sure that so many people would agree that it’s the teaching staff to blame…

I wouldn’t worry about it. A sip of movicol won’t do anything. All it does is draw water into the bowel anyway. It will work in a water bottle - it doesn’t have to be drunk straight away. Some drs advise making it up in a jug and putting in the fridge and drinking over the course of the day if you want.

Kids don’t share water bottles anyway.

So this whole post is somewhat moot? Again, this needed to be a quick comment, in passing, go the teacher when you picked up your kid. Trying to blow this up into a situation, when your child wouldn't have even been impacted in the slightest is an odd choice

I’ll also say to @AubernFable - as the parent of a disabled child you wouldn’t believe how much I have to bow, scrape and beg for the tiniest scrap of respect and acknowledgement. How I have to feel like I owe people an apology or that I should express remorse for a condition my son doesn’t deserve and didn’t ask for. So as a professional I’d expect you NOT to take such smug pride on the fact you’d give a parent dirty looks and laugh at them for expecting the school to medicate a disabled child properly. I feel like you would enjoy the power trip of saying no.

Youd also be the one dealing with the pain, screaming and heartache and literal shit sometimes from my DS if his medication was held back from him. But hey as long as you can feel important fuck the children you look after right? Thank Christ my son’s school is more understanding!

But hey if advocating for my son to be medicated properly is being a “nightmare parent” then so what - I can cope with that label

Well my child and her child aren't the only kids in the class and I'm fairly sure not all of them are on Movicol. I never said I was worried about my child drinking it. But apparently it's a very alien concept to be concerned about other children.

Depends what conditions that child has and how much of the medicated fluid they drink. Sounds like you have healthy children. What would you say to my friend with a 5 year old type 1 diabetic child, recently diagnosed whose sugars are still up and down? I know in my children’s primary school there was a child with a feeding tube, a child with epilepsy and a child who has cancer and has a chemotherapy/ steroid routine. They didn’t have constant supervision.
Be a grown up yourself and start thinking of others less fortunate. The teacher isn’t going to be keeping an eye on the bottle. It isn’t their job.

Again I am a disabled adult and have experience in the area- i’m not bullying anyone but giving my insight.

I simply said to expect more patronising sneers (her words not mine, I said polite chuckle or something to the effect first) because her attitude towards school staff is appalling. It was pretty lighthearted, apologies if my tone didn’t come across over text :)