To be upset that DP doesn't want to come on family trip

[Pinkdreams]

My family are all getting together next month, we have a big family from england, Ireland and wales. We have rented some caravans at haven. My DD is 10 months and will be her first time away, I asked my partner to come but he is unable to take annual leave during this time, there's only two shifts he would miss out on it would be possible to find cover if he asked but he is saying he doesn't want to. It's one of them, if he wanted to, he would. I feel rather sad as it's our DD first time away and I feel like family time is important, aibu to be upset by this?

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my grandma who has had health issues is coming and I haven't seen her since DD was born and like you say it's actually a break having everyone entertain DD , what used to sound like hell to me actually now sounds like heaven
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Like heaven, but Haven. 😂

And the fact that only one person is on your side out of about 20 is a pretty clear indicator that you’re being unreasonable.

he is not unreasonable to not want to take annual leave to stay in a caravan with in laws on a trip that he had no say in before it was booked

It might not be about the family or the location.
I agree with some of the previous posters, it's short notice, and it can be really awkward/difficult to get someone to cover (or swap) his shift at work.

My fil did the same to us a few years ago, also a haven park.

Just booked without any discussion at all snd then emotional guilt tripping about "family time" being important. It was a Sun Holidays thing so dates were limited.

I stupidly let myself get emotionally blackmailed and I'm going to be honest, I should have stood my ground and insisted dh and dd go off and have fun. I get on well with them all but we just like different thing, they love loud clubhouses and get hammered every night, I do t drink and knew I'd have them all trying to get me to babysit every evening, their kids had different rules to dd, every single day I'd be told I should let her have a can of coke, I should let run around the cafe, I should let her climb on seats.

I've been on many caravan holidays and depending on location and who with, they're very nice but I'll never do holidays with dhs extended family again. Never. Dh won't go with them alone either after the caravan park experience.

I’d let my DP go on this trip alone. A baby in a caravan is t going to be fun - add in the other half’s extended family 😬