AIBU to get a bit tearful because no-one brought me any flowers/balloons at the hospital?

[Seashell71]

Ok I accept my hormones are all over the place but last week had my lovely baby-boy and of course quite a few people came to visit at the hospital... my pil brought a "baby boy" card and, er, that's it.
My dh and my other friends came and noone brought a flower/balloon/card/pressie.
It was an elective c-section, so everyone knew the day baby was coming.
I know that what matters is that baby and I are well (we are), but I can't help getting earful when I think of it.
All other new mums near me had balloons,flowers and cards on their bedside table.
I'd never go to visit someone who's had a baby and not bring at least a card and a small present.
AIBU?

And anyway, I seem to remember I spent the third and fourth day after my first was born crying. Over nothing really. Was OK with my DD until my dad came to see us one afternoon with a poem he'd written for her.

So regardless of the reason, yanbu to cry.

when i had ds3 dh went to the hospital shop to buy balloon to watch a v selfish man buy ALL the balloons male/female/getwell soon/congratultions etc etc - he walked up to the ward with a balloon on a stick and 2 v forlorn new brothers who had wanted to choose the ballooon ..........dh walks in and announces loudly what hes just seen all the nurses say how awful nd selfish etc etc suddenly the curtains open onthe bed opposite and there is a bed bedecked in balloons and 2 v red faced people who start offering balloons to us all

Congratulations on having your beautiful baby.

I think you are being a wee bit unreasonable if I am totally brutally honest, or maybe just a bit too sensitive. You may find that presents and cards arrive over the next few weeks. When my visitors came to hospital I was more interested in whether they had been to Marks and Spencers and bought me something decent to eat.

Don't worry about it it doesn't mean they don't care, or that they don't love you both.

YANBU, I didn't get presents in hospital with DS2, but MiL&PiL bought flowers and pressies round when I came home.

Congratulations

I didnt get any flowers with DS but that was because I was having an elective section on Valentines Day! So told DH not to bring flowers until the next day when prices back to normal!!! Got some small gifts though! I think it is lovely for you to get something when you are in hosp - maybe they didnt think. I hope you got something when you got home.

I didnt get any flowers with DS but that was because I was having an elective section on Valentines Day! So told DH not to bring flowers until the next day when prices back to normal!!! Got some small gifts though! I think it is lovely for you to get something when you are in hosp - maybe they didnt think. I hope you got something when you got home.

Congrats on your new arrival!

I don't think you are being at all unreasonable. I had nothing either. Admittedly I'd gotten the hell out of the post-natal ward before there were any visitors, but when my parents came by 15 mins after we got home mum was clutching a small plant hastily purchased at the supermarket, clearly the hospital pressie. I hate balloons, but that was the one time I wish people had forgotten that...

Dh brought me cereal bars and a carton of smoothie. Think he realised this may have been a bit poor so presented me with sapphire and diamond earings a few weeks later!

i would never dream of going to visit someone with a new baby without having bought something

ditto amytheearwaxbanisher
just ba manners imo

bad manners

Congratulations!
V rude, YANBU

I gave DH specific instructions to get me a balloon when I was in hotpital with DS2. I think I may even have had it written into the birth plan Of course I didn't get one.

It is horrid when everybody else has balloons and flowers and you don't.

Congratulations on your new arrival .

The first time round lots of women on my ward had flowers and balloons. I think, if I recall, my non spontaneous dh asked if I wanted any and I didn't. Dh more usefully washed my nighties and gross underwear, bought books, magazines, even food and scoured shops for whatever mw sent him out to get.

2nd time round nobody on the ward had any flowers, which made me think hospital had banned them due to infection control.

My nbs, however, got lots of gifts over the first few months and they were really useful.

Tell dh that in lieu of flowers you'll accept an diamond encrusted eternity ring traditionally given at this time

Thank you all for your comments, I've stopped crying over this, I'm far too busy with baby !
My dh gave me a lame excuse for the lack of flowers on his part: he said he did go out to buy me some, but they were not nice enough , which has got to be the most pathetic excuse ever!

At my hospital, they slightly tut at flowers - say it's extra work for the finding vases/ sweeping up leaves - and many mums don't stay that long these days. My ward midwife loudly commented that flowers are better for home - which is a fair point.

My DH brought me a balloon and stuff.

But the thing that meant the most to me was the fact that my Dad brought me Irises Like theseHe cut them from his garden at the last minute and then he and Mum flew from Dublin, with Dad holding on to them for grim death.

Why ??

Because when I was born (a week later all those years earlier) he had done the same for my Mum.

And to quote him, the baby had had a baby and it was only logical.

God I have gone all teary writing that.

How odd - I can't remember what DH bought me when I had any of ours . . . perhaps it was flowers.

But I still know exactly who didn't bother to send cards for the latest baby, and feel differently about them.

A friend of mine got terribly upset because no one had bought her second baby a balloon - her first had had loads. In the end her mum got him one to stop her crying.

Actually my latest baby was the only one ever to get a balloon, which I was delighted by - 'twas the only one ever to escape my savagery (see nickname) and be allowed to go down in its own time and be kept.

Seashell YANBU at all. Congratulations and enjoy your new baby.