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To liquidate everything when I get to 60 and live in luxury hotels until the cash runs out

505 replies

Everythingisnumbersnow · 08/02/2025 10:09

Just thinking who wants to be old anyway plus I really resent the idea of all my money going to dodgy offshore small business owners (aka care home owners).

We'll see how it goes but I'm pretty excited about this.

OP posts:
MassiveOvaryaction · 08/02/2025 11:48

Bit young at 60 maybe. I know someone who in her 70s would go on a cruise for at least 6 months of the year though because it was cheaper than having carers.

godmum56 · 08/02/2025 11:49

You had better be sure the money will last!!

VickyEadieofThigh · 08/02/2025 11:49

PurpleFlower1983 · 08/02/2025 11:42

I’ve met a couple who do this on cruises. Averaged £1800 a week for them but less than a decent local care home for 2.

But the point is that people only go into a care home when they have care needs that cannot be met in their homes. I've been on a lot of cruises and can assure everyone that whilst they provide your food and service your room for you, they do not provide the sort of support you go into a care home for.

C152 · 08/02/2025 11:50

I've been thinking along similar lines, OP. It does seem a very exciting prospect!

Trolleysaregoodforemployment · 08/02/2025 11:51

SinkToTheBottomWithYou · 08/02/2025 11:37

Yes - but for the sake of the argument: what’s the difference? In both cases you choose to spend your money despite knowing you will need the state to pay for you later on.

<<Side steps the rabbit hole>>

Swonderful · 08/02/2025 11:51

@privatenonamegiven Her life expectancy won't be 81. It's actually 87 if you're woman in your 40s. And probably higher if you are wealthier than average.

Fetchthevet · 08/02/2025 11:52

You will eventually get to a stage where you need personal care. Hotel staff will not change you when you are unable to walk to the toilet, obviously. So you will end up in a care home like most of us.

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 08/02/2025 11:53

We sort of plan to do this.

Rent out/sell our main home, and busk around wherever's cheap. People don't realise how cheap travel is when you can go whenever you want. Certainly more cost effective to spend January in some AI hotel on the cheap.

We will keep a small studio flat though, or possibly even a holiday lodge. They're a scam if you want to profit off them, but as a back up home, they're sound enough.

Jaxhog · 08/02/2025 11:56

I'm blowing my savings on big holidays now that I'm 70!

And yes, 60 is too young.

eggnchip · 08/02/2025 11:56

I wonder if my Grandfather is in one of the homes you worked for ? Bandits is a great description of the new shareholders . Thieving ,Morally bankrupt ,Dishonest,Inpossible to contact when they overcharge,poor food quality because food bill hasn’t been paid,stressed staff who are overheard discussing their late underpaid wages and home looking very scruffy!
Really pissed off that £1800 per week of his hard earned money handed over to the extremely dodgy owners who reside in their villa in a different country. They are untouchable and they know it !
Would rather pay that money back into NHS where quality of care is carefully monitored,not always but more likely.
So yes ,off you go and enjoy spending your money on yourself and not lining the pockets of the people already mentioned above!

Verlaine · 08/02/2025 11:57

£30k is a small pension. It would give you £82 a day if you had NO other outgoings like food, socialising. That wouldn’t be enough to live in a hotel.

luxury hotels are about £200 a night minimum so you’d need £73k a year just for accommodation.

You’d be better off buying a little flat as a base and then staying in nice hotels a lot

Fupoffyagrasshole · 08/02/2025 11:57

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 08/02/2025 11:53

We sort of plan to do this.

Rent out/sell our main home, and busk around wherever's cheap. People don't realise how cheap travel is when you can go whenever you want. Certainly more cost effective to spend January in some AI hotel on the cheap.

We will keep a small studio flat though, or possibly even a holiday lodge. They're a scam if you want to profit off them, but as a back up home, they're sound enough.

Yes exactly! We put our house on air bnb and took the kids (babies no school yet) off to Thailand in September for a month and we got fairly cheap flights and we got beautiful accommodation (sometimes free upgrades to rooms with private pools and the likes) as it was so quiet! We loved so cheaply and our mortgage was covered while we were gone

had we tried to have a month in the uk it would have cost us a fortune

XWKD · 08/02/2025 11:59

To live in luxury hotels you'd need 200k per year. I'd prefer to get an apartment somewhere nice and live in luxury there. If hotels are your thing, then do it.

ObelixtheGaul · 08/02/2025 11:59

Forgive me if I've misunderstood, but there's a good chance you'll end up being somebody else's 'Dave and Suzy' at some point if you run out of money and need care. Only the difference between you and them might be that the Dave and Suzy you talk of didn't piss their money up the wall, were a diligent, hardworking couple throughout their lives, but just didn't make as much as you/had to spend their hard earned to help their children, etc.

If you're relying on euthanasia if/when you have run out of cash, it's all very well being blase about it now. Might be a different proposition when actually faced with that stark choice. I wonder about that a lot. At my age, (50), it's easy to say, 'oh, I'll just end it all', but I have no idea how I will really feel. To try to avoid not becoming your 'Dave and Suzy', I will be working as long as I can and keeping my home as my asset. I have good savings, etc. But I don't know what's round the corner. I don't mind if I do end up paying for Dave and Suzy, because I don't know Dave and Suzy's story, and however careful I am, I can see a thousand ways that could still be me.

AquaPeer · 08/02/2025 11:59

Gymmum82 · 08/02/2025 11:30

Well once it’s gone there is no getting it back. Could have been lost on a scam either way you’ll still be entitled to the same as anyone who has never paid in.
Yes what you get won’t be a lot. But you’ll have lived enjoying it while you can. Which is the most important part

You were talking about giving your children their inheritance, so when the time comes the local authority will get the money back from your children.

Afterrain · 08/02/2025 12:02

Having just read the asteroid thread it seems like a good plan 😃

Gymmum82 · 08/02/2025 12:02

AquaPeer · 08/02/2025 11:59

You were talking about giving your children their inheritance, so when the time comes the local authority will get the money back from your children.

Depends how many years before you die though. If you gave it to them when you were 55 and lived until 90 there would be zero chance of getting it back. It would be long spent

GCAcademic · 08/02/2025 12:04

Trolleysaregoodforemployment · 08/02/2025 11:14

Two wrongs...

What's the difference between their moral compass and yours? Curious as you are so disgusted with their immoral behaviour.

Edited

The difference is that the OP doesn't want to go into a home. She would happily accept euthanasia instead. But the British state doesn't afford her that option. Whereas the care home owners are very happy with the system that they are creaming off vast profits from. Someone on another thread posted recently about one who was on £900k a year.

I don't see anything wrong with the OP's moral compass. I would also rather be euthanised that enter the kinds of establishments that both my parents in-law ended up in.

westisbest1982 · 08/02/2025 12:06

AquaPeer · 08/02/2025 11:59

You were talking about giving your children their inheritance, so when the time comes the local authority will get the money back from your children.

It depends on if you were expecting to have care in the future;

www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/care/paying-for-care/paying-for-a-care-home/deprivation-of-assets/

Vergus · 08/02/2025 12:07

The problem is the local authority can look as far back as they like to decide whether you have deliberately deprived yourself of assets. So the answer is to give away most of your assets and keep enough by to draw down your expenditure from whilst fulfilling your goals.

If you give everything away at once, within, say a 10yr period then it looks suspicious. Logistically you need enough also to keep you away from needing to claim benefits - which by the way, would not be a responsible approach. You have to be able to sustain yourself for the plan to work.

GCAcademic · 08/02/2025 12:08

ObelixtheGaul · 08/02/2025 11:59

Forgive me if I've misunderstood, but there's a good chance you'll end up being somebody else's 'Dave and Suzy' at some point if you run out of money and need care. Only the difference between you and them might be that the Dave and Suzy you talk of didn't piss their money up the wall, were a diligent, hardworking couple throughout their lives, but just didn't make as much as you/had to spend their hard earned to help their children, etc.

If you're relying on euthanasia if/when you have run out of cash, it's all very well being blase about it now. Might be a different proposition when actually faced with that stark choice. I wonder about that a lot. At my age, (50), it's easy to say, 'oh, I'll just end it all', but I have no idea how I will really feel. To try to avoid not becoming your 'Dave and Suzy', I will be working as long as I can and keeping my home as my asset. I have good savings, etc. But I don't know what's round the corner. I don't mind if I do end up paying for Dave and Suzy, because I don't know Dave and Suzy's story, and however careful I am, I can see a thousand ways that could still be me.

I think Dave and Suzy are the offshore profit-mongers (in the BVI), not fellow care home residents.

Vergus · 08/02/2025 12:08

The other important point to make is that we shouldn’t always assume people need care. Many do, but many don’t. But it’s good to have a future plan for your needs.

Threewheeler1 · 08/02/2025 12:10

Doggymummar · 08/02/2025 10:14

I used to work at the Brighton Metropole and the top floor was 'residents' they used to come down for breakfast in dressing gowns and curlers. At £300 a night they could do as they liked!

Oh my god, I can visualise this! Like a bygone era 😀

CountryCob · 08/02/2025 12:11

I think the issue is as many have said running out of money, especially starting at 60. Seems extremely unrealistic given the figures. Although children don't always help being childless might mean there is no one to assist you so ignoring the inheritance angle - many won't get this anyway - who is helping you arrange the euthunasia? It would only be legal here possibly with a terminal diagnosis. State care is not as nice as private care. Seems a bit irresponsible and entitled not to exect provide for your future care needs.

KimberleyClark · 08/02/2025 12:12

Threewheeler1 · 08/02/2025 12:10

Oh my god, I can visualise this! Like a bygone era 😀

I remember from watchimg Fawlty Towers there were a few permanent residents there - a batty retired colonel and two sweet old dears.