What do you need more of in your life?

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For me it's people.
Other than partner and kids , I have 2 family members, Mum and sister, and we live so far apart we rarely speak or meet up. We have nothing in common.
I have 3 friends I see every month or so.
I'm envious of people that come from big loving families.
I can go for days without speaking to anyone outside of my household. I used to be quite a sociable person. Now I have no confidence.
Loneliness sucks.

Warm weather. It's been sub 10 degrees here for months.

Money.
Friends

New experiences - new places, activities, people... Anything new inspires me and I should make more effort to find new things. I find it's too easy to get stuck in a rut.

I'd like more afternoon daylight in winter. I am old enough to remember year round BST when I was young (four years?) and would like it to return.

The ability to relax. I have had a frenetic life, and being recently retired it is a bit odd to have free time

You can never have enough cheese!

Sleep
Pedicures
Sex

Edited to add I'm not aiming to be a foot girl on only fans. The pedicure and sex are completely separate but both needed.🤣

It's really tough isn't it. I feel some days im verging on crazy with such little contact and conversation with others. The isolation is truly awful.

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It’s very tough. I really want to do something about it but not sure where to start. I joined a group called Meet up but haven’t been able to bring myself to go to anything yet. I’m only in my 40s as well. I don’t think life should be like this. I feel so isolated.

Energy
Sleep
Motivation
Time with my parents
Help with the housework

I'm 40s too. I don't even think I'd have the confidence to join a group. I just think people would find me uninteresting and no one would want to spend time with me anyway.

I'm sorry to read that. When people talk about the benefits of WFH, I think of all the friends, my husband, acquaintances etc I met through work. It's not easy to make friends elsewhere. I hope things get better for you.

Snap x

Maybe we both need to work on our self esteem 🙂

Energy

The day to day is just so hard right now I'm finding it difficult to do anything else.
My get up and go has got up and went!

If you like the outdoors and are reasonably fit, I recommend joining Ramblers and going walking. It's a great way to meet people without too much pressure to chat if you don't want to, and being active and outdoors is really good for your mind and body.

Time
Money
Energy
Staff (chef, cleaner, housekeeper, PA to deal with general admin, gardener...)
Books
Self control/will power

Peace of mind
money - I’m not greedy I’d just like enough to replace all the broken appliances , car parts mattress thats 20 years old and pay for tutoring and therapy for my sen kids

I think that loneliness is really hard. It’s all well and good me saying go to meet up groups classes volunteering etc. Because if you have low self esteem then you’ll struggle with that.

I’m not sure what the answer is, but sending love to the lonely people on this thread

Money
Job satisfaction
Laughs
Metabolism
Bedding

A minute of the day without people asking me to do things for them.

There isn't a minute in my waking day when someone doesn't want something from me of one sort or another. Money, time, attention.

My daughter (she's a teen so it goes with the territory)
My bosses and direct reports and the endless admin of work, much of which is pointless
The bank: endless forms to fill in relating to my remortgage
HMRC
People trying to sell me things (TV channels, a holiday, a pension, a garden makeover, a subscription to a newspaper)
My daughter's school: endless demands for money for trips, signatures for consent forms, requests for volunteering, GCSE and D of E related stuff
The council: obscure dictates relating to waste management
My ex: requests for me to manage meetings with our daughter and do all the admin around it
Even friends (albeit in a benign way): seeking confirmation for invitations, WhatsApp threads etc.
My partner texting me when he knows I'm working to ask what's in the fridge

On and on it goes...

I'm the kind of person who likes being busy so much of this is of my own making and I wouldn't want to be doing nothing but its just relentless at the moment. I just crave a ten minute period without someone saying: "can you just..." There's no "just" about it. It's another demand on my time.

Sex and some friends would be nice.

Sleep

Motivation - to eat sensibly, drink moderately, and exercise more...well at all, not just the slow dog amble

Money

And a bit like you op, a good friend who wants to spend time with me not say that we will meet up once a month for coffee and not even be able to do that

See, I don’t think that is true. I think that people would find you really lovely to spend time with. I might encourage you to join something and see how it goes. I wish you well.