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To implement a new rule for lost property at primary?

205 replies

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 08:05

In that, if it's uniform with no name on - goes to the PTA second hand uniform sale.

Bottles/bags/coats/anything else - all taken to charity shop every Friday.

If it has your name in, we will if course hold on to it...but only until half term. Then it's fair game.

I am in the office and have had enough of "have you seen Johnny's jumper?" And when asked if labelled it's 99% "no". Yes, love I've seen his jumper, it's so very different to the 450 others...

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HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 12:50

IncaDove · 06/02/2025 12:46

Op, just a heads up. Your post makes you quite identifiable to someone who knows you. I think I might be a TA in the school you work in.

I don't think you are tbh.

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HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 12:50

NotMeNoNo · 06/02/2025 12:34

Getting changed for PE seems to be the worst point for everything getting mixed up. A kid only has to obliviously put on someone elses jumper. You have to label clothes clearly enough the child can recognise their own in the crowded changing room. Smudged initials on the wash label might not be enough.

I still remember finding another child's named shoe that had somehow come back to our house and got buried in the shoe trunk for months Blush

The stickers seem to be best for speed and staying power.

Our school avoids this by the kids wearing PE kit on pe days 👍👍👍

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Itisbetter · 06/02/2025 13:03

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 12:50

Our school avoids this by the kids wearing PE kit on pe days 👍👍👍

Edited

Thus ensuring the children never have to learn to change for PE or keep track of their things? As a parent I preferred sending them in in PE kit (though a bit stinky in later primary/secondary) because double bags was always a pain and n the butt. It seems the “lazy” option is sometimes preferable.

IncaDove · 06/02/2025 13:06

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 12:50

I don't think you are tbh.

I genuinely think I am.

It does happen on MN that people recognise another poster based on the information contained in their posts, by the style or writing or by the posters use of language. I was recognised years ago by the mum of my dc’s friend. It's the reason I name change every month as people can piece things together from the OP’s other posts.

Itisbetter · 06/02/2025 13:07

KIlliePieMyOhMy · 06/02/2025 12:29

If only there was an adult at the place the child lived who could do this with them on a weekend.

If only they could access something to label their item with and just write it on? It’s almost like there could be a pen to do it.

Nchanged89 · 06/02/2025 13:08

IncaDove · 06/02/2025 13:06

I genuinely think I am.

It does happen on MN that people recognise another poster based on the information contained in their posts, by the style or writing or by the posters use of language. I was recognised years ago by the mum of my dc’s friend. It's the reason I name change every month as people can piece things together from the OP’s other posts.

Does a Sam Waffles attend your school too??

IncaDove · 06/02/2025 13:14

Nchanged89 · 06/02/2025 13:08

Does a Sam Waffles attend your school too??

Several. That’s why they keep getting their jumpers muddled up.

steppemum · 06/02/2025 13:27

NormaleKartoffeln · 06/02/2025 08:16

Absolutely not.
Are you aware that some people struggle to buy these supplies, and that school age children often forget or lose things not to irritate you but rather because they are children?

then name them.

one black sharpie is all you need.
You can name everything.

I remember helping out in dd's school on a warm day. Every single jumper/cardigan had been taken off and they were in a pile.
I started to hand them out to kids as they were getting bags because it was home time.

30 identical school jumpers and cardigans.
1 with readable name
1 with sewn in name tab
1 with barely readable initials
27 with no name at all.

I did laugh about it the next morning with parents on the playground. They couldn't understand the problem.
One told me very seriously that the name was written inside the sleeve of the jumper. How the F%%$ is the teacher supposed to know that!!
Another said that they didn't want to spoil it by writing in it.

In all our years at school (3 kids, youngest is now in sixth form) we never lost anything at school, because when they dropped it, mislaid it, left it in the lunch room/at pe/ on the playground etc etc, it always made its way back because it had a name on it.

Fizbosshoes · 06/02/2025 13:40

JanglingJack · 06/02/2025 12:26

Absolutely. Brand new 'proper' jumper with badge goes missing. Label ripped out and replaced with felt tip name.
Kids come home in different trousers after PE. You end up with the supermarket pair, whilst the pair you have bought from Next (due to a wider waist specifically) trots in newly labelled on Asda kids legs.

I have to say I am a bit lazy about naming DS stuff, he's 15, there are sticky labels which he puts in his own clothes.

However we got a class email from his form tutor last year saying a boy in the form had lost a pair of school trousers after a PE lesson....and my first thought was that it was slightly amusing, my next thought was oh God, it's probably DS....and it turns out it was! He ended up with a superior pair of trousers than the slim fit ones from M and S that he started with!

Despite name labels hes managed to come back with different jumper/shoes, a few times, usually much too big. In primary I would always ask on the class whatsapp, mainly because DS was one of the smallest in the class and I thought it would be really frustrating for other parents if their kid came home with trainers 2 sizes too small!

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 15:42

IncaDove · 06/02/2025 13:06

I genuinely think I am.

It does happen on MN that people recognise another poster based on the information contained in their posts, by the style or writing or by the posters use of language. I was recognised years ago by the mum of my dc’s friend. It's the reason I name change every month as people can piece things together from the OP’s other posts.

OK. Initials of the school? Ours starts with B.

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HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 15:46

Itisbetter · 06/02/2025 13:03

Thus ensuring the children never have to learn to change for PE or keep track of their things? As a parent I preferred sending them in in PE kit (though a bit stinky in later primary/secondary) because double bags was always a pain and n the butt. It seems the “lazy” option is sometimes preferable.

It's to do with a few things. Time , organisation, costs etc.

Saves time each end of PE.
No need for parents/kids to bring in kit
No need to buy second pair of trainers. (They wear trainers every day, that need to be suitable for running around in)
No PE kit left behind to end up in lost property.
No need to help kids get changed (some kids can't get themselves dressed)
Fewer items lost generally.

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JimHalpertsWife · 06/02/2025 15:51

Itisbetter · 06/02/2025 13:03

Thus ensuring the children never have to learn to change for PE or keep track of their things? As a parent I preferred sending them in in PE kit (though a bit stinky in later primary/secondary) because double bags was always a pain and n the butt. It seems the “lazy” option is sometimes preferable.

They'll pick it up quickly at secondary. It's fine for kids to learn some stuff at 12 instead of 7

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 15:53

JimHalpertsWife · 06/02/2025 15:51

They'll pick it up quickly at secondary. It's fine for kids to learn some stuff at 12 instead of 7

Plus kids regularly get changed for swimming/gymnastics/netball/scouts/dance/martial arts etc all perfectly well

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IncaDove · 06/02/2025 15:57

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 15:42

OK. Initials of the school? Ours starts with B.

It would be very unprofessional of me to give any information on a public forum that increases the chances of you, me or the school being identified. I would be concerned that a parent might identify you.

JimHalpertsWife · 06/02/2025 15:58

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 15:53

Plus kids regularly get changed for swimming/gymnastics/netball/scouts/dance/martial arts etc all perfectly well

Plus the fact that parents should be teaching them this anyways!

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 15:58

IncaDove · 06/02/2025 15:57

It would be very unprofessional of me to give any information on a public forum that increases the chances of you, me or the school being identified. I would be concerned that a parent might identify you.

They won't. And if they did. So what?
How could they prove it was me?
What have I said that would bring me or the school into disrepute?

What are they going to say "we think a member of staff might have maybe put a post about lost property in a public forum... We have no way of proving who, what school it is, they not did they say anything of disrepute... please deal with it..."

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JimHalpertsWife · 06/02/2025 15:59

The OP has given out zero identifiable facts.

IncaDove · 06/02/2025 16:01

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 15:58

They won't. And if they did. So what?
How could they prove it was me?
What have I said that would bring me or the school into disrepute?

What are they going to say "we think a member of staff might have maybe put a post about lost property in a public forum... We have no way of proving who, what school it is, they not did they say anything of disrepute... please deal with it..."

Edited

You publicly called parents at the school in which you work "lazy and irresponsible"

Nchanged89 · 06/02/2025 16:02

JimHalpertsWife · 06/02/2025 15:59

The OP has given out zero identifiable facts.

No she's said that the kids are always losing stuff, parents don't label the clothes with names, this is all very identifying and outing and exclusive to this school only.
And don't forget little Sam Waffles.

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 16:03

IncaDove · 06/02/2025 16:01

You publicly called parents at the school in which you work "lazy and irresponsible"

Ok.

They can't prove who it is, or what school it is ... There's literally NOTHING to identify the school...
Apart from perhaps one of the initials is possibly a B.

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HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 16:03

Nchanged89 · 06/02/2025 16:02

No she's said that the kids are always losing stuff, parents don't label the clothes with names, this is all very identifying and outing and exclusive to this school only.
And don't forget little Sam Waffles.

Sam Waffles is great, names on everything!

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IncaDove · 06/02/2025 16:04

Nchanged89 · 06/02/2025 16:02

No she's said that the kids are always losing stuff, parents don't label the clothes with names, this is all very identifying and outing and exclusive to this school only.
And don't forget little Sam Waffles.

She has given out enough information when coupled with what she has said in school and on other threads.

JimHalpertsWife · 06/02/2025 16:04

Nchanged89 · 06/02/2025 16:02

No she's said that the kids are always losing stuff, parents don't label the clothes with names, this is all very identifying and outing and exclusive to this school only.
And don't forget little Sam Waffles.

Literally none of this is identifiable so either your kids school is similar (in which case 100 schools are) or you've done a search on the OPs other threads and lulled together info on them which makes you certain.

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 16:05

IncaDove · 06/02/2025 16:04

She has given out enough information when coupled with what she has said in school and on other threads.

😂

Go on then ,PM me and tell me where I work.

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IncaDove · 06/02/2025 16:06

HamandCheeseSandwich · 06/02/2025 16:03

Ok.

They can't prove who it is, or what school it is ... There's literally NOTHING to identify the school...
Apart from perhaps one of the initials is possibly a B.

OK. I had hoped you would realise how unwise this thread is and stop posting so it didn't have to be addressed at work.