Do I have an easy life?

[Afirethatdoesntstopburning]

Because it feels bloody hard to me.

Dh thinks I do, because I work part time.

I stay with my Dc during the day, who has additional needs, this includes behavioural issues and aggression some days, it’s very difficult. I do all the food shop and meals and general washing and daily tidying/cleaning. I have a cleaner who comes once a fortnight to do a big clean.
Three evenings per week, I go out to work when Dh gets home.
I do all bills, bank things, hospital & Drs appointments, all other sorting and planning etc.
At weekends, I generally do the same as during the week, make all the dinners etc, Dh will sometimes take Dc out alone, if I arrange it.
I don’t really have any time for exercise, washing my hair seems a special occasion at times.
I have no family nearby, I see mum friends sometimes, with my Dc.
Dh thinks I have it ft NJ heasier as he works Mon-Fri 9-5.
After a long day with Dc and then going to work, I feel exhausted and like I have the worst of both worlds. Dh sees it that i’m at home and relaxing

Feel so trapped

Easy life? I think not! But I think we know who does.
You need a break and an understanding, supportive DH.

You have two jobs, he has one. Tell him when he takes on a part time evening job 3 days a week on top of his full time role he can complain.

I'd threaten to leave unless he takes a week's annual leave and you go away on holiday for the week. Then he can let you know at the end of the week if he's ready to take back what he said and change himself for the better.

Right now he is neither a good husband nor father. How dare he. No one in a good marriage or partnership gets into these sorts of competitive comparisons of who has the harder time or who's more tired. You're meant to be a team.

I'd give him one chance and it would hinge on this.

This

Look into swapping roles like others have suggested so he knows what you're going through

Perhaps not as straightforward as that, you're right, I posted in haste. But, in the long run, for me, the resentment of this attitude would really metastasise into something that would lead to separation.

If he thinks it's easy then swop.

You go work full time and he does your pattern