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to be absolutely heartbroken that ds has lost his blue mouse

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bluemousemummy · 07/05/2008 21:25

I know I am being pathetic but this comes on the back of a lot of other stuff.

Today in town ds (16 months) dropped his blue mouse - which he has had since birth - and it looks like he is gone for good. I think he dropped him either inside or jsut outside Debenhams. Went all round the store, asked all the street cleaners, have rung lost property at the police station, nothing. It's made by Petit Bateau and has been discontinued so we can't get another one.

Ds cried and cried at bedtime and only went to sleep because he was so exhausted. I'm dreading him waking up in the night and dreading tomorrow in general. He is too little to understand where he's gone or to tell us where he dropped him.

I know this all sounds ridiculous because I know a lot of you have far more serious problems than this but I feel so heartbroken about it and I can't stop crying. We've been through a lot lately as a family - had a mc at 10 weeks last month, plus we're upping sticks and moving away in a couple of weeks and trying desperately to sell our house at about the worst time in years and I've been holding it all together really well but just feel like this is the final straw.

Sorry this is so rambling. Just needed to let off steam.

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snice · 07/05/2008 21:32

I'm sorry this has happened when you've got such a lot on your plate. If its any consolation I was heartbroken when we temporarily lost DS's fave toy.
My advice would be to try e-bay:I managed to find a replacement to act as a spare and you may strike lucky too. I know it doesn't help in the shortterm though.

mum2sons · 07/05/2008 21:37

YANBU
Sending hugs. And I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage
MY DS1 lost his blue bear and it gutted me (12 years ago). I too couldn't find another one.I had been going through a tough time and was a single mum. It was like part of his babyhood was lost if that makes sense? I think it taps into other losses. For you,maybe your miscarriage?

With DS2 and DS3, I am almost OCD about their comfort teddies. I have 4 of the same for DS2!

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bluemousemummy · 07/05/2008 21:37

Hi, yes we did have a look at ebay but no joy. Dh rang a stockist of Petit BAteau in London and they are going to see if there are any left in the warehouse in France,but they stopped making them a year ago so it seems very unlikely.

I just can't bear it. Ds was looking around and saying its name like he was calling for it and couldn't understand where he was.

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bluemousemummy · 07/05/2008 21:41

thanks guys. it is like a part of his babyhood, you're right. It's like other things change - sometimes he sleeps in teh car or at his granny's house or wherever, sometimes I put him to bed, sometimes it's dh and occcasionally one of his grandparents, but the one constant was his blue mouse. I know that sounds meldodramatic but it's true!!

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BigBadMouse · 07/05/2008 21:45

YANBU - it's upsetting enough to see your DS upset at losing his toy without everything else on top.

If Petit Bateau have any anywhere try and get two. DD has two pink rabbits just in case (we were lucky that it became her comforter while they still sold them).

A couple of things I know have worked for other people who have been in the same situation with lost comforters..

Post a 'Want it Now' on eBay - it's full of posts for replacement toys

Put an advert in your local paper and a lost noitce or two near where you lost it. Someone put an advert in our local paper to find a lost toy with a big photo included and the paper didn't charge them. She got it back.

My DD's rabbit has been lost several times - don't give up hope, it is amazing how many times we have got it back when I though all was lost.

Good luck

snice · 07/05/2008 21:47

Have you tried the toys reunited topic on here?

snice · 07/05/2008 21:48

Sorry-have just seen that you have

BigBadMouse · 07/05/2008 21:50

Did you ask at Debenhams. We searched Morrisons for an hour and a half for rabbit but didn't find her. That night the shelf stackers found her as someone had seen her on the floor, picked her up and put her on the wine shelf near the top! I was checking the floor - would never have seen her there.

minniedot · 07/05/2008 21:51

Oh you poor thing. I really understand how upset you are, it's part of your little boys childhood and he was attached to it.

Have you tried Blooming Marvellous, they have a section for lost and found toys, it might be worth giving them a ring.

Hugs to you xx

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bluemousemummy · 07/05/2008 21:52

Hi snice, yes I have but don't hold out much hope!

Thanks bigbadmouse. I will try want it now on ebay, that's a good suggestion.

I don't think anyone would have handed it in tbh - it was really grubby as it was, cos i could rarely prise it off ds to wash it! I think perhaps another child may have picked it up and their mummy may have took it off them and chucked it in the bin thinking it had been on the floor for ages! If I had dropped it anywhere but the centre of bloody Manchester I would have more hope but it's a big place... chances are it's been swept up or just ended up in a bin somewhere. Might try posters though, it's worth a try!!!

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bluemousemummy · 07/05/2008 21:54

Yes we did ask at Debenhams and have given security our phone number in case the cleaners find it or something, but tbh I think he may have been dropped outside.

Thanks for all your sympathy guys, I really appreciate it.

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frecklyspeckly · 07/05/2008 21:58

This may sound odd but have you thought about putting a story/appeal in local free paper - this worked up here - was a follow up reunited story following week - I know this will be nuts if you live somewhere like central London where a lot of stuff happens though as they tend to have more big stories to fill it ... my heart goes out to you but I think you will at least get a duplicate if you leave no stone unturned. I reacon there are loads of stockists who have stock sitting in the shops for over a year e.g little boutique type places. Keep positive - you have a lot on your plate. X

frecklyspeckly · 07/05/2008 22:00

Sorry since I was doing last post I now see you are in central Manchester... if any consolation lost toys however grubby are cared for and entered into lost property in my shop XX

BigBadMouse · 07/05/2008 22:09

Have you got a photo or web-link so we can see what it looks like?

DD1s rabbit is always filthy (despite having two so one can be in the wash while the other is on duty) IME that makes people realise how cherished the toy is - anyone who has been a parent should know the favourites are always grubby

bubblerock · 07/05/2008 22:11

Just checked Ebay France and can't find one there either - just a white one Like this

bubblerock · 07/05/2008 22:24

Is it this one? Auction is finished but just so we know what you are lookinf for

barbamama · 07/05/2008 22:29

YANBU my it is heartbreaking, poor little guy. Massive long shot I know but you never know:

www.bloomingmarvellous.co.uk/itoys-reunited/lost/i-lost-toys-25.aspx

cheesesarnie · 07/05/2008 22:32

yanbu bluemousemummy - i cannot imagine what would happen if ds2 lost his sleepy cow hope hope hope you can find another!

DisplacementActivity · 07/05/2008 22:43

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MummyPenguin · 08/05/2008 10:08

I've only read the op and it struck a chord with me as my eldest DS (9) has a blue mouse (called Dave) which I bought for his first Christmas. He was about 7 weeks old at the time. We've had many an eviction of soft toys over the years, but not Dave. DS would be very upset at losing him too. I remember buying Dave, I bought him in M&S and he's got a little tartan bow tie on. He's a dark blue, cute little fella.

Your poor DS.

minouminou · 08/05/2008 10:14

any updates?
DP and i were wondering if there was a special service somewhere which could make replicas of beloved soft toys to order
DS has a jellycat bat he adores, and, like your mouse, it's discontinued, and we'd be gutted if he went missing
we often trawl through ebay to see if there are any going, just in case
really hope you find him - it's worth calling the shops again, as any parent would know a grubby/smelly favourite toy when they see it and would do something sensible with it

minouminou · 08/05/2008 10:15

grubby and smelly, i meant

duchesse · 08/05/2008 10:16

I know, I know. < strokes bluemousemummy's hair >

Things will start to look up soon. They can only get so bad before they make an upturn, can't they? On a more positive note, your son will not remember blue mouse, but I can completely understand why you are upset about it. Perhaps one will come up on Ebay? Or maybe if you put signs up the real one would reappear? People tend to put obviously lost soft toys on walls or posts near where they find them.

duchesse · 08/05/2008 10:17

Forgot to say, was gutted when my son lost his lovely green ty frog given to him as a 1st birthday present, when my second child chucked it unbeknownst to me out of the pram.

cestlavie · 08/05/2008 10:48

How terrible for you. Have you tried searching through Petit Bateau stockists nationally? Had a quick look on Google and there are some which might be worth trying like here. Alternatively, given that Petit Bateau is a French brand, searching in French seems to pull up better results. Ditto, you might have more luck on French ebay which seems to have a few Petit Bateau toys like here. If you're struggling with the French at all, let me know.

(DD currently has 9 identical replicas of the same bedtime companion, of which 8 sit unused in the wardrobe in case of emergency. Should I get help?)