36 weeks pregnant and husband seems unbothered

[Cornishmumma24560]

AIBU?
I am 36 weeks pregnant and have a 3yo Daughter.
my husband had a meeting this afternoon with a guy about becoming an assistant manager for a football team. Something he’s excited about and to be fair has been in our shared calendar for some time.
but it was also a casual meet, could happen any time and isn’t a paid position nor are there others in the pipeline to be offered it.
i took our 3 yo DD out for the morning so my husband could paint the nursery.
when i got back i took a turn. Id had some mild cramps earlier in the day and then I just suddenly felt really really exhausted.
he offered to take our DD with him but she had been out in the cold all morning and I didn’t think it was right to send her out again to watch a men’s football game whilst my husband had a meeting when it’s freezing today.
so my husband put a film on for her so i could sleep, left and said he would be an hour.
after the film i get up and play with our DD, make dinner etc etc.
he is 3 hours.
when he gets home im even more exhausted and too annoyed to say hello.
he hasn’t asked me how I’m feeling.
i went to bed early because i feel so rough. He hasn’t been in to check on me.
i then messaged him saying - I shouldn’t have to ask you to come in and check on me when I’ve told you I feel really bad today.
especially after you’ve spent all afternoon out.
he hasn’t responded and still hasn’t come in to see if I’m ok.
should I be the one to always make the first move?
shouldn’t I expect a bit more at this point in my pregnancy from my DH?

so we’ve both moved on now and I did apologise for how I responded.
but just to say the meeting wasn’t a massive deal. And yeah we talked about it this morning. But he could’ve done the same thing next week. It’s for a position which isn’t even open yet and is for next season and there’s no one else in the running for it. The guy who wants to offer it to him hasn’t been offered it yet.
im totally supportive of him and his football management. I take our kid most weekends to support the team he manages now and I go to the socials when I can. I’ve never stopped him persuing his hobby and passion. I openly encourage it.
I just think sometimes you have to miss things you enjoy to be there for your loved ones when they need you and yesterday I did feel like I needed him.
I had been excited all week took about an evening out for his sisters birthday which I had to cancel due to being unwell.
i get my response in the end was unreasonable but I do hate the insinuation that I’m just being unsupportive of his hobbies and creating drama for no reason.

I know life doesn’t stop for pregnancy. If you’d read my responses and my post you’d see that I was worried my symptoms were pre term labour. Thankfully they weren’t. But that’s why I was overly emotional and needing help yesterday, because not only was I having cramps and extreme fatigue I was then really worrying about the baby.
Why is it always just common place to assume a woman is being over dramatic when it comes to feeling unwell. He’s my husband and father to our children and I needed him to put me and our babies first. I said no to his offer because it wasn’t the right thing for our DD to do that afternoon. She’s under the weather, we had been out all morning in the cold and if he was going for a meeting it would’ve been very hard for him to concentrate on the meeting with a miserable toddler with him. I thought he only needed an hour so I wasn’t thinking he’d be gone all afternoon and she would be happier watching a film in the warm. Yes I now agree I handled it wrong, and in the end I was unreasonable because of my response, but I’m not asking him to pause his life or hobbies or goals for me as a general rule, just one day, for a couple of hours I wanted him to be there for me, because I was scared for our unborn child.
He understands that, I understand why yesterday he was the way he was, we’ve talked and now we’re moving on