To think this is unacceptable

[moaningagain]

So following the split from husband 8 months ago. He has agreed to have the children one night per week. He has met somebody else and they are currently on holiday. He has not contacted the kids via phone or anything since Monday. I don’t understand how he can go all the time without hearing from them. He also texted me this morning to say that his sister will be picking the kids up in the morning.

4 and 7. Yes I do understand that but I still don’t think it is right.

Eh? Strange reply to OP.

It’s his children we’re talking about here not the family dog! You’d think he’d be more arsed about seeing them…

Not sure what you're asking?

Do your kids normally expect a phone call from him and how often?

When they go their dads on a Sunday I will still ring them in evening to say good night, talk to them and see how their day has been etc.

I just find it bizarre that he can happily go a week without knowing how they are or what they have been upto.

And then tells me his sister is picking them up!

He sounds very detached from his children. Is this a new thing? Could it be his girlfriend's influence?

Yes, that does sound odd but I would wait , he maybe been ill or something. See what he says and don't just jump to conclusions.

He is currently distracted by the needs of his dick. The fact this distracts him from his children is disappointing to you, understandably.

No. When my daughter was born he left me with a 6 week old baby as he couldn’t handle everything. I really don’t think he is cut out for family life but ironically his new girlfriend has a child.

Stop being such an arsehole.

Well, sounds like he's an arse, sorry.

So rude.
You probably should have just not replied to this thread.

Whilst I agree not calling them for a week is strange I feel you calling them on their one night with their dad is intrusive.

Leave them to enjoy their little time together.

You’re their main person though. How often does he usually call them throughout the week?

I don’t think a 5 minute phone call is intrusive

I really don’t think he is cut out for family life but ironically his new girlfriend has a child

You are probably correct about him not being cut out for family life, but there is nothing you can do about it. He's in the "honeymoon phase" with his new girlfriend and sadly he is prioritizing his sex life over his responsibilities as a father.

Don't drive yourself crazy trying to analyze his behaviour. Frankly, he isn't your problem anymore. As long as the kids are safe and being cared for when he has them then you'll just have to accept that he's simply not the father you'd hoped he would be. Be grateful he's your "ex".

Do you feel better now? 🙄

Does he normally ring them during the week?

To be honest, my ex spent a year calling the kids every night and it stopped them from growing used to the new situation and moving on a bit.
I am quite happy to not speak to my kids for a week. They know I love them.

The man is obviously an arse for other reasons but it sounds quite normal to me. He knows they are with someone who loves them and they are safe.

What an odd thing to say. She's simply struggling to understand how a father can not want to know how his little children are getting on.

It's not intrusive if it's what the children want.

People seem to forget that contact with their parents is meant to be for the child's benefit, not the parent's.

It sounds like he's the sort of parent who wouldn't put much effort into ensuring their wellbeing so contact with a responsive parent will provide them with reassurance and security.

My DSS’ mum goes away for a fortnight plus and doesn’t ring to speak to her DC.

What a strange reply. It’s not as if the op is talking about liking different food or going to bed at a different time. It’s his children; would you be happy with not speaking to your young children for a week?