Would you hire a morbidly obese Nanny?

[whompingwillo]

I would like to hire someone we’ve met for my 9 month old baby. She’s fab, great with kids, lovely, I have no concerns.

I would estimate her BMI is 50-60 and my husband noticed that it is a struggle for her to get up and down off the floor and he is worried that if baby was in danger she may struggle.

So what would you do? Do you think that weight could impact a job like this? I’m sure people of this weight have their own children and are safe to look after them?

YABU - morbid obesity could impact her ability to do this job

YANBU - she’ll be fine

Agreed

Some people with healthy body weights do have medical problems yes. It is well documented that morbidly obese people are sadly at much higher risk of every illness going.

I have that BMI and I have two kids. I can get down on the floor and play just fine. Surely it's better your child has a nice person looking after them than their weight. People are so fat phobic it's crazy!!

Did you weigh her?

For anyone who has discriminated against hiring fat or big bodied women in this thread:
🪄I hope you choose a thin, athletic looking person, who to your eyes and on paper looks capable and able, but who proves to be a complete and utter unreliable, unkind, shallow nightmare for you. ⚡️ 🪄

That will learn you.

Gosh I better hand my three children over to a thin person to look after - who knows how they’ve managed to survive so far as I’m obese and shock horror they are healthy and active.

She told me. I didn't ask.

It is about employing someone who is morbidly obese to do a very active job, not whether overweight people should have kids.

@MumChp sure she did!

You.What are your qualifications?

Her. I'm Scandinavian and 25kg overweight

Let's all gather round and re-read the most relevant part of the opening post:

my husband noticed that it is a struggle for her to get up and down off the floor

Many of the posters on this thread would also not be a good choice for nanny, because their reading comprehension is so poor.

No. What I am saying is being hugely morbidly obese will make people less effective and indeed less safe in SOME jobs. It’s really not that difficult to understand that people’s physical limitations, limit their ability to do certain jobs. I wouldn’t hire someone in a wheelchair, crutch’s, amputations or uncontrolled medical conditions to look after my children either. Like wise I wouldn’t expect to be hired as a bricklayer as I don’t have the strength! That’s not to say obese people can’t be productive members of society in appropriate jobs. Running after an energetic toddler all day every day isn’t one of them.

Aye sure she did.
Nannies routinely volunteer their weight at interviews. And when they do they offer a wide margin of 3 stone.

She did tell us a bit more than tbh.

A no from me

Of course I lie. I forced her on the weight at the interview.
She was of course happy to do so and accepted the job.

Did she tell you she spoke ‘Scandinavian’? 😂 I’m only teasing.

We had the job interview in Scandinavian, yes.
It's quite common if you want a nanny or an aupair to communicate with your child in the language.

You obviously don't have the childrens best interest at heart, do you? 🙄

My takeaway from this thread is that some people who are unfit due to excess weight are really defensive about the ways their impaired health limits the lives of the children they care for.

Ok for a tiny baby but it will be harder for her to keep up with an active toddler.

Indeed. Leaping forward to say you are that BMI and don't struggle is irrelevant. This nanny struggles. Therefore I won't hire her.

🪄💥🏃🏻‍♀️

To be fair it seems as if op didn't ask her what the trouble was, so may not have been due to her BMI.

@MumChp Do you mean Swedish or Norwegian, etc, or is Scandinavian classed as a language itself?