Was your 30’s better than your 20’s

[LastHope30Something]

If not what has been your best decade? What made each decade good/bad

30s were awful.

40s better

50s best yet

I loved my 20s and I think it's the time of life I was happiest. But I did do most things through my 20s that most people would do in their 30s (have a bunch of kids, for example). I don't think it will ever get better than that.

20s were fun but never had much money climbing career ladder.
30s I met my partner, our careers were good and we had a lot of disposable income before kids came along and had great times, luxury holidays and so much freedom to do and buy what we wanted.
40s I’m finding hard so far. Tired from young kids. Career has nose dived. Weight gain and general peri symptoms not fun. Would love to wind back clock for a while and be early 30s again.

20s were way better. I had money even on crappy pay!

Neither. I had DD1 at 24 and DD2 at 30. Wish I’d had them closer together so I could have actually enjoyed myself at some point…bring on my 40s!

@Tweensandterribletwos not that I'm the most maternal of beings, I had PND with both of mine...but are you really writing off 2 decades because you had kids? Did you not enjoy it at all?

My 20s were full of excitement - uni, travel, climbing the career ladder, dating, socialising, etc. I looked and felt the best I ever have.

My 30s were all about settling down - bought my first property, got married and had kids. My career went down the pan and I gained weight and aged massively!

I've just turned 40 and am now worrying about my aging parents health and what lies ahead for my DC.

I think I've had my heyday!

They were just very different really. I got married shortly before I was 30 and had our first DC 11 months later, so that set the scene for my 30s!

20s were a lot of fun, 30s still had quite a lot of fun and some amazing moments. There were a couple of pretty rough years in my 30s and fewer in my 20s, so I guess in that sense my 20s were probably slightly better.

My 30s and early 40s were my best years. They were my child rearing years, and my grandmothers were both still alive. Life was great.

My 30s was my best decade. The best balance of young and maturity. My career and marriage were going well, my 2 younger DC were born. I was happy and living my best life. Then my 40s hit and what a shitstorm that's been. Easily the worst decade of my life full of illness, crap life events and stress. And now I feel about 100 years older. Anyone in your 30s, make the most of it.

Loved life before getting pregnant in my 20s. I had bad PND after DD1 (suicidal etc) but to be fair once I got over that the rest of my 20s was alright - we still travelled etc. Covid and DD2 have destroyed my 30s though. Really haven’t enjoyed it second time around!

@Tweensandterribletwos ah I'm really sorry to hear that, I had mine at 22 and 25, PND with both but life got progressively easier the older they got, especially when youngest started school. How old is your youngest?

Mine were so different that it's hard to compare.

20s - living in London, sharing a flat with friends, working hard, earning well, going out a lot, travelling with my bf (now DH)

30s - married DH when I was 29, had 3 DC in 4 years, moved out of London, took a career break and was a SAHM for a few years

Both good in very different ways!

She starts school in September, but she’s just a much more difficult child than her sister. Clingy, would never be put down as a baby, very rarely happy as a baby. And as a toddler just does the opposite of everything she’s asked. I’ve visibly aged more in the past 3 years than I did in the previous 15!! 😂 DD1 had her moments but was an infinitely easier baby and toddler. She’s more difficult now as a pre-teen than she ever was when she was little (which doesn’t bode well for the next 5 years either!!)

My thirties have been by far my best decade. I am approaching 40 and really excited to see where I go from here.

@Tweensandterribletwos ah I'm sorry, it's just so hard to predict isn't it. My youngest is AuADHD so that has thrown us some curve balls. I really hope things calm down for you, if not, here's to your 40s!

I had both my kids in my 20s but in my 30s I left my toxic relationship and ended up meeting and marrying my now DH so both decades were filled with some big life moments for me. In my 40s now and this is the decade I finally graduated from uni so I'm doing well in each decade I guess LOL. I've got a few years left before working out what to do for my 50s.

20s contained the worst times of my life, work stress, controlling relationship and was seriously ill, almost died.

30s much much better so far. Changed to dream career, met lovely partner and bought house :)

That must be tough! hopefully you’ve got plenty of support and can get some respite when you need it.
thank you! I’m hoping things will get better when she starts school, and if not I can hopefully increase my days at work to get some more time to myself!!

Very happy to hear this!

There is hope!

I loved my 20s. My kids were small.life was busy, but it was fun. Now I'm really loving my 50s. Kids are grown, and I'm a Grandma, which is the best thing ever. Mortgage is paid off, and I've taken early retirement to care for my Mil. Hopefully, in a few years, Dh can retire, and we can do the traveling we couldn't afford to do when we were younger.

Yes my 30s are better than my 20s.

I think they’ve all been good for different reasons, so far I haven’t found on I haven’t liked 😁

20s was amazing. Travel, love, freedom, qualifications, lots of craziness

Early 30s were similar but now its mid/late 30s its the usual adulty stuff! Happy to have my kids though ;)

Yours 20s describes my 30s!

Don't plan to give any of that up just yet haha.