To cancel my account

[ThisFluentBiscuit]

I've been here off and on for a while. I find many of the threads very negative and depressing, but that's not the real issue. The real issue is that no matter what you say, no matter how innocuous or harmless, there's always a nasty comment or a troll or someone twisting your words or being humourless or just being awkward for the sake of it. And there are always multiple people who blame the poster, no matter how bad a time they're having. There was a thread the other day from someone who'd suffered a painful dog bite needing a number of stitches, and people upset the victim enough to cause her to withdraw her thread.

There's virtually no humour here and precious few laughs. I don't know what MN can really do about so many posters who are determined to bring others down. Either way, I feel I'm better served doing almost anything else rather than hanging out on MN. It's too caustic to be a good use of time.

I'd hope to have some laughs here, but the only truly funny thread in about a year of lurking was the one a few months ago about the alluring face.

OK, I'm off to read something worthwhile/bake/clean/resurrect my piano-playing, basically anything more positive and productive than being on MN, which is almost everything!

If the choice of how I spend my time is between being on mumsnet or 'cleaning', it's no contest I'm afraid 😅

Thanks for such a perfect example of what OP is talking about

Gransnet is much better. It is like MN in the early 2000s ( don't tell anyone as we want to keep it chill)

I am thinking of deleting my account too.

I think @Horatioed summed it up very well.
Facebook is dire as well, apart from rarely seeing friend's posts, the comments on any news article are vicious, any problem in the world is caused by people on benefits, single mums and immigrants.

This is not a departure lounge. Silently leaving would be ok.

I wonder what the final count of original and hilarious comments about "airports and departures" will be by the end of this thread? 🤔

Bye bye

If Mumsnet has taught me anything, it's how nasty women can be.

What sort of life must you have lived to have not known that already ?

Im 40 and also prefer Gransnet 🤣

I have deleted my MN account a few times but I always end up coming back! I don’t know many wise people IRL but I do find many threads on here quite bonkers. I try to ignore those!

You're definitely not wrong about the nastiness and the one's determined to not understand the ops posts when it's clear to the rest of us.
But that is offset by the pp giving advice and support.

No idea how or why I've quoted that post unless it's to show an example of an arsehole post.

You're absolutely right OP but you'll attract the bullies who will say something like "Flouncer's Corner is that way!" - which just shows themselves for the nasty people they are!

A break always does you good I think.

People find hiding AIBU makes their Mumsnet visit nicer as well. There's something about that board that brings out the worst in people. Especially when they brought in the voting buttons.

It always does well to remember that there are people who come here to deliberately troll Mumsnet. Whether to post threads or to upset one or to upset one that's been posted. It's deliberate.

Dogbite lady was way OTT though, both on the thread and in having it pulled. But leave by all means, you don't need to justify it. Although isn't there a Flouncers' Corner for such things?

Life sort of took me away from here but then I drifted back after my old haunt - Yahoo answers - was taken down.

I sort of suspected it would be like this so not truly shocked. Still a bit surprised that there is often an immediate distrust about men's motives which I find disappointing. I love my son so find it odd when posters generalise negative behaviour in men when they must also surely be raising boys and be living with men.

I find it interesting to watch the voting on AIBUs to see which ones the percentage holds steady and which start to reverse. I'd like to see someone do a study of that.

When posters quote my response and try and critique it, I would once have wanted to respond again but these days, what's the point? Why argue with random internet mums? It's pointless..

Ah well, worse things happen at sea..

I always think people emulate a poster a few years back known for tough talking - AF and copying her straight talk with lots of swearing but somehow using it all the time and making it nastier.
However you also get a lot of OPs who post and don't listen to anyone so that's also quite annoying

I’ve deleted several times and always come back, Aibu is the worst of mumsnet but there are so many supportive posters in the various health boards, fun and interesting conversations in the various hobby/tv/pet type boards, the feminist boards are a treasure trove, I think there’s lots of incredibly supportive areas of mumsnet and it’s what always draws me back.

I think just stay away from this board specifically. Hide it.

There are lots of other boards you can post on that don't do the pile on, this board is ripe for it. Don't just go on active conversations, look up boards instead.

It seems to be a well worn phrase on here, like 'putting your ducks in a row',
I have read that quite a few times on here too...does anyone actually speak like that in real life?🙄
To ThisFluentBiscuit
There are other smaller forums out there where there is not so much nastiness.
It depends on what you like. If you have strong views and like to post about them, it's inevitable some will disagree, and that's par for the course.
If you prefer a gentler way of online posting, join the less controversial threads, and if the keyboard warriors or trolls invade, just exit that thread and leave them talking to themselves.
There is nothing a troll loathes more than being ignored.

Look out for the names of poster you enjoy posting with, alternatively avoid the known trouble causers, and try not to take it all to heart. 😀

Well yeah, if you mean inventing nastiness when it's not there and having a pop at everyone not fawning over you, sure.

So you’re saying there’s no nastiness on MN and OP is making it up because she just wants everyone to fawn over her? 🤔

No, I didn't at all say that. A huge issue with MN is people, like you, not reading properly and making stuff up. Just talk to yourself, cut out the middle man 🤷‍♀️

You did say that. I quoted you. If you mean something different then can you explain?

You seem to be the type of poster the OP is talking about. If you don’t like it, don’t do it 🤷🏼‍♀️

You did quote me, but failed to understand my point, and assumed something entirely wrong. Which is extremely common here.

The OP is whining that we aren't nice enough, or funny enough, or entertaining enough. You may feel.your purpose is to amuse and flatter pp, I do not. You, like she, is free to look elsewhere for your amusement.

I always thought if an online forum wasn’t for me, the accepted protocol was to just stop reading and contributing.

I had no idea, after all this time, that one was expected to put an exit note out there for everyone to read!!
How wonderfully weird!!!

Unless the OP is a founding member or something?
Are we supposed to actually recognise who they are??
Will the very fabric of this website change in ways none of us can yet imagine???