To be upset my promotion wasn't announced

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I have been promoted to management at work, I found out it was happening in a meeting with my bosses and then a few days later my email signature changed without warning. It's not a huge change in responsibilities as I was already effectively managing before but without the title, although I've had a pay rise.

When others have been promoted it's been announced in meetings and people have been taken out for drinks after work, etc.

It's been two weeks now and there's been no announcement for me. People have noticed but not a single person has said well done or congratulations at work and I'm sad about it, but also wondering if there's a reason - it's sent me into a negative spiral of thoughts like am I actually shite and they've just given me this title so I'll stay, or does everyone just dislike me!

They also haven't changed my title on the company website yet so I've not felt able to tell anyone other than DP. DP bought me a well done card and I just burst into tears because it's been such a mountain for me and it feels like what should have been a huge achievement has turned into a huge blow to my confidence.

Am I being a bit pathetic? I haven't said anything at work as don't want to sound ungrateful or needy. It is bothering me though.

I’d mention it, just say I notice no announcement has been made and the website hasn’t changed so am I ok to keep telling people or should I await these changes?

You are an adult professional manager, it’s not needy, just use your usual work professionalism

Sometimes it’s just that the person who always takes care of that side of things is AWOL. Who is that person? Ask them?

YANBU, I think it's very human to feel taken for granted - but you do run the risk of seeming petty if you raise it.

Are you happy there otherwise?

I would not raise it, but I understand why you feel like that. Sorry.

Maybe because you have been pretty much managing already, people have not really noticed anything different or don't see it as such a big deal because in their eyes you were already a manager? hope I am making sense lol.

Don't take it personally at all. Congratulations! be proud of yourself.

Are you well liked at work?

Is there an underlying reason they might now want to announce it? Redundancies within the company? Personally I would not bring this up unless it was impacting my role

I like to think so, I don't clash with anyone. There's a clique of women that I'm not part of, but everyone is friendly with me

I wouldn't care but I don't like attention. I took about a year to update my LinkedIn after being promoted and did it so that it wouldn't be announced in everyone's feed. My job doesn't define me and don't care what others do or where they are on the ladder. However I appreciate some people need validation.

Reasonably yes. I'll just sit on this then I think, you're right it might be perceived as petty!

Ask HR… the bare minimum is getting your title changed. Maybe people think you’re just acting in the role.

I don't think it's worth crying over or the catastrophising you've been getting into.

Most likely explanation is they've just been disorganised or forgetful.

One of my (very well regarded) colleagues was accidentally deleted from our website. Someone else had the wrong job title on there. Someone else was missed by the photographer. It's just admin, not worth angst.

You've been promoted, you're doing the role, your signature has been updated. That's what matters.

You're in charge of your own thoughts, so if your own negative though spiral has dented your confidence then you're the one who can fix that. It's in your power to frame this positively and focus on what matters.

If I were HR and this was brought to me, I would be slightly bemused that someone took the time to go and check the company site to see if their job title had changed.

Is there a change who you're officially managing? If people's line manager has changed then there does need to be an announcement imo.

I wouldn’t say anything except that the website needs updating, some companies take ages to do this though
It does sound odd that they didn’t announce it but do they announce all promotions or only really high up ones, they may have forgotten

Why, it’s something most people would do, there is no point updating your LinkedIn profile if the company website says you are in a different role….what do you find bemusing about it?

So you were already doing the role just without formal title and pay?

How could your signature change automatically? When I've done that I've always gone in manually to do it

Congratulations on your promotion! I think perhaps because you've been doing the job already people aren't seeing it as a big change, but it's still a huge achievement to be formally promoted , I would check with managers if there will be a formal announcement- I'm guessing not as your signature has already been updated - and then start to tell people yourself.

I do understand how you feel, I was in a similar position, went for promotion during a restructure, was appointed but no announcement was made, my current manager was also appointed during restructure and her promotion was announced at team meeting a huge fuss and lots of congratulations followed, when my promotion was confirmed the following week nothing...so it was slightly deflating and tbh I felt a bit of an imposter.
Anyway I told people myself and people congratulated me but tbf surprise was also expressed-there was a more obvious candidate but I did better at interview.I soon settled into new role and people quickly move on.

We can't change our own email signatures, my boss would have asked HR to ask IT to change it

Basically yes, maybe that's why nobody's bothered 😅

Just ask HR, say “my promotion hasn’t been officially announced as others usually are, is there something I should be aware of regarding this?”. It’s probably just a mistake. Mention it ASAP, don’t let it drag on and feel bitter. It’s absolutely not petty at all, it’s professional workplace communication.

Probably, but it should still be changed on the website, wait another few weeks and if it’s not changed by then, ask them nicely why, say you want to update your LinkedIn profile and you want them to tie up

Wow, really? You can normally do this yourself in Outlook.

But anyway. I completely get why you’re upset and I would be too.