Aibu to kick off?

[MrsMummy00]

So this is going to sound a bit wierd. I’ve been with hubby 12 years. He’s got history of talking to women etc. we’re trying to get past it. So nothing has happened recently as far as im aware. Lately though, he’s been with this boy at work he’s quite a bit younger than him, he’s single and is on the look out for a girl. There both on TikTok, as am I and I was scrolling through lives and his mate was on live and my husband was in the chat and this mate saw I joined and said ‘oh is this your wife joined’ and my husband said yes and then this mate said oh you better be good then. I left as I was sorting the kids out but my minds racing, I’ve asked him and he’s basically said it’s just boy banter. Do you think he’s being truthful or do you think he’s up to something?

to be fair I signed in on my daughters profile and u went on it there, and I could see just general chit chat about work and stuff so I know nothing got said then but I’m thinking has he spoke to girls before on there with him is that why he’s saying it?

Aibu to kick off or take it just as banter?

Definitely banter. I would of rolled my eyes, logged off, not wanting to hear their rubbish 😂. My hubby does stuff like this all the time. You could walk into a room and he will go shhhh, she's back etc. It is definitely something him and his mates would do. I've accidentally walked in on convos he's having with his best mate and he will go oh no mate she's spying on you now. Best not say anything to get you in trouble. Men think it's funny 😂😂😂. It's tedious at times and eye rolling unfunny but it's just them. Sounds like you can't let the incidents go and you're going to make yourself miserable over the slightest words. I would look at your own self esteem and build it up because you don't deserve to be so worked up and miserable over a throw away comment.

Why is it you that needs to work on it? Is your husband working on earning your trust again after having given you multiple reasons not to trust him - including when you were pregnant FFS?

It may be something it may be nothing. But with his previous i wouldn't trust him either.

How are things otherwise?

Unfortunately if he has previous with talking to women etc and probably stuff you don’t know then you are never really ever going to trust him again, once trust is broken unfixable and in my experience once a cheater always a cheater