Wrong to tell Dd her leg could fall off

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Dd has had spots on her body for a while, the Dr can’t find the cause and they are fading…if she just leaves them alone.
She picks at them and makes them bleed terribly. I was tired of telling her not to do it, the Dr also told her not to do it. In a moment of frustration and worry today at seeing another awful, bleeding sore, I told her she had to stop or it would get infected and go green and they’ll chop her leg off. Obviously I quickly said that won’t happen with her.
When Dh came home she asked him if it would happen and he got angry at me.
It’s very unlike me, but seeing such sores everywhere is worrying me

Was I being that unreasonable to just try to shock her in the moment (I’ve tried everything else)

Dd2 was born without her arm. Still say things like that to her/ her siblings, often with comments about having spare hands (prosthetics) but no legs.

One time in A&E there was a little lad who had cut one of his fingers badly, and him and his dad were having a right good giggle about chopping his finger off. They even drew a line where he thought it would go, and they drew round his hand and wrote "goodbye finger". The little lad must have been about 4yo and thought it was hilarious...
Until he was called for by the nurse and turned into screams of "don't cut my finger off".
Poor dad was standing there all red faced, but when the nurse was told why she was struggling to keep a straight face.

Eventually he calmed down and they went to have it dressed.
As he left, all smiles again, he announced to the waiting room "next time I'm going to have two fingers cut off".

Have you taken your DD to the GP? My DS had something similar sounding and it needed antibiotics.

Yes just gave antihistamines

Surprised at the comments here. Don't think more than a few weeks went by as a child without being told "sure, they probably won't be able to save it" if I ever said anything was achy.

I survived just fine and have no medical phobias nor trust issues with either parent. I'm also early 30s, this is not some bygone era of awful parenting

This reminds me of when I was the same age and my grandmother told me if I carried on chewing my hair it would wrap around my heart and I would die.

I mean, it stopped me doing it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Exactly, it’s similar to things we were told as kids like ….if you make faces and the wind changes your face will stay like that

I told my nephew 5 who was complaining about a minuscule scratch on his leg that the only solution for it would be to chop off his leg, then I made motions like I was sawing off his leg

This depends entirely on the kind of character your daughter has.

Mine would have laughed, but taken the point that it's not a good idea. But, she was used to that kind of thing because of the way we were with her generally.

You know your daughter best. If you think it was a problem, apologise to her. If you don't then carry on.

When things are done to us, we normalise it. Then some people grow up and say 'it never did me any harm' even if it did.

It wasn't the right thing to say, but also it was just this time. Don't do it again and it'll fade.

I have compulsive skin picking issues and the only thing that stops me is covering any wounds with hydrocolloid dressings until the scab has gone smooth (2 to 3 days) so it doesn't give me anything dry/rough to pick.

You can get them from Tesco/boots etc but I find it cheaper to buy boxes of borderless ones from amazon in large sheets (eg 10cm x 20cm) and then cut them to size.

My parents and other adults frequently tried to scare me into stopping and it didn't work and just made me feel really ashamed instead. I remember one of Mum's friends telling me that I'd end up in hospital and would have my hand cut off (the scab was on my hand) and I just remember feeling really guilth and embarrassed. But it didn't stop me picking which I now know is because it's a compulsive issue for me. Perhaps it works for people who aren't so driven to do it.

I hate that my body is scarred all over from it but it is what it is. I keep it a very private secret and only one person knows about it. I've never told anyone else (aside from mental health professionals although no help was forthcoming so I've given up)

Hopefully you can find a solution that helps, I think there are a variety of resources online. :)

Wouldn't even cross my mind that she would take you seriously. This country has a serious sense of humor failure.

It's a moment of frustration you said something amusing to lighten the mood and de-stress a situation.

Unless she has zero sense of humor most kids at that age can tell you are having a joke? Maybe not, maybe that are all to sensitive?

I know for sure growing up similar things were said to me and at some point most of my friends. We most likely laughed at our batshit parents and got on with being 6.

Is it Molloscum Contagiosa? If so both my kids had it and it can take some time to go on its own. They spread with scratching them too.

If it is this I found Thuja really worked to get rid of it. He was covered in the spots and they were gone in 2 weeks after starting this.

I need to add I was told that my belly button was like a screw and if I stick my fingers in it and twisted them my bum would fall off!!

I'm to scared to try 🤣

I’m a teacher and hardly a day goes by without dramatically sending for the ‘big scissors’ to cut off the arm of a child with a tiny scratch on their finger.

You’re a bloody nutter.

6 year olds pick at things.

Exactly,parents just look for problems that don’t exist!

My daughter has a habit of just picking skin on her toes to thw point they get red raw. I've told her time and time again. I've also told her about how germs can get into broken skin and cause and infection and her foot could fall off. So no. I dont think you're BU when you're at thw end of your tether with it.