If you were faced with this question, what would you do?

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If you were faced with the choice between saving your partner or a stranger's baby, what would you do?

I hate these questions. Both.

Partner. Obviously.

Awful to think about but I think most people would think themselves and theirs first, irrespective of whatever the 'greater good' would be, in most situations.

Is there an option to kill myself so I don't have to make such an awful decision 🤔

Then 3 people die!

Not necessarily if it was a gun one bullet

3678194b · Today 22:34

Awful to think about but I think most people would think themselves and theirs first, irrespective of whatever the 'greater good' would be, in most situations.

You’re right. I think humans like to forget that we are, after all, just animals like any other. Instinct is hard to overcome.

My goodness, what a dilemma. I would obviously try to save both but if it was only possible to save one - and assuming I was capable of doing whatever was necessary - I'd save my partner.

I think this is the part that has me uhhming and ahhing the most though. Like on the one hand (not to get maudlin) I've seen DH nearly die. I was useless. But I've also run into oncoming traffic to snatch a friend's toddler out of the way of danger.

It's so strange. To be fair, I couldn't have done much for DH given the circumstances (freak accident), but I froze. Whereas with the toddler I just acted. But making a choice? God, I don't know! I do think it would be DH, but I find myself extremely sensitive to kids in pain/danger since I've had my own.

I think it would really depend on scenario and which part of my brain kicked in?

I think instinctively in a side by side situation it would be a baby. Don't forgot it would go viral on SM and on top of survivors guilt the nation would vilify you.

In times of danger/famine/disaster, people will always put the children first. Yet looks like most posters are choosing their partner to survive before the baby.

This is the problem with many humans, they don't understand the intrinsic value of a person, but ascribe value to other humans depending on how useful the person is to them.

...This is why we have slavery and exploitation of other humans

Selfishly or is it, I would pick my partner especially if they are your kids dad because you have to think of their pain too but then what if the mum was begging you to save her baby as the husband had already had a life and the baby hadn't. Very hard decision. I couldn't look the mum in the eyes at the same time if I picked partner. I've really gone deep into this. Imagine you had the baby and their life was in someone elses hand and you were begging them to save your baby over their partner and they picked their partner, the devastation. What a question 😅

Because I wouldn’t leave my own children without a dad to save a stranger, baby or otherwise 🤷🏼‍♀️

Baby.

It would emotionally kill me, but I'd save the baby.

I think it's easy to say online though. So while I lean towards DH in this hypothetical scenario, in reality? A tiny baby looking at me or a grown man? I honestly think it'd be far more difficult, which is why I find this thread interesting. I've been chatting to DH about it tonight too, and we both keep swinging back and forth.

On the one hand, I'm in love with DH and the pain I'd feel, the loss of a good man, and the father of my children, and how that would impact them. On the other...an innocent baby.

It's easy to mull over if you're not there. I genuinely don't know what I would do. From the comfort of my home with DH giving me a foot rub, him. But the reality? Probably not so clear cut.

Mine would too. But I’d want him to save me 😂

I often think of a lifeboat situation, I think it's meant to be those who need assistance and children first, to get them sorted as of course there should be enough space for all.

But when we've had disasters, I can think of situations where people have thought of themselves, even staff and the captain getting in lifeboats, not helping passengers and forgetting anyone else. And people pushing others out of the way.

Also given fear in such a situation may make people think irrationally but in some situations it's clear that people think only of themselves. Of course there are always stories of heroism and selflesness in other situations too.

He wouldn’t allow me to save him he’d absolutely insist I saved the baby.

I can't vote as using the app, but as someone whose husband is currently in hospital with advanced cancer, if I could I know that I would save him over any other person in the world (we don't have kids)

It would have to be the baby for me.But making the choice would drive me to suicide anyway.

I’d save my husband

The question is who do you save, not who do you kill!

Definitely saving my DP. I'd massively struggle to bring up our kids without him and my kids are more important to me than a random baby.

Also my DP has saved many lives in his job, including various babies/kids, so I feel he's earned being saved in return.