To expect DH to do nursery drop offs and pick ups?

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I work in an office three days a week. On those days I’m out of the house early and back late, sometimes have to stay overnight. For two days I usually WFH.

DH works three days a week. His workplace is right by the kids’ nursery so he does drop offs and pick ups. He’s said he thinks I should start doing some. AIBU to think it’s pointless leaving the house when I’m WFH to go to the same place DH practically has to drive past on his way to work?

You’re meant to be a team. He has to work and nursery isn’t open early enough and you’re working from home. Do the nursery run.
Why do you think your joint child is all his job?

And you’re not answering the question about whether or not you help get the kid ready and breakfasted in the morning.

Fair point …. My previous roles before teaching ( got into teaching in my late 30s) which were retail/ office based never needed an early start / out of hours work . When you clocked on you started but if I clocked on teaching with nothing prepared it was would be chaos

If roles were reversed, you'd be getting told to LTB in true Mumsnet fashion!

Yes, YABU.

As a teacher getting in that late puts a significant pressure on him. I used to do this and the mornings were incredibly stressful. You should do some of these mornings.

I'd do two, either one day or both mornings

So do you work 5 days and he works 3, but on his 2 days off he has the kids at home?

I should have read the updates before I voted! Based on this, I think that YABU. Let him go in early a couple of times a week, it's only fair if he's facilitating you staying away for work imo

Yabu. If you both CAN do drop offs / pick offs, you should share it. When I went PT, I started to do most of them and told dh it was shit for me and he needed to do some. We now split it totally equally - he does all drop offs and I do pick ups. Most people benefit from some flexibility in the week and having to fit in with nursery / school times every day ends up dominating the work week.