Abusive Partner did this!!!

[OneBrightAzureBiscuit]

hi all, I’m in shock. I recently posted on here several times about my now ex partner- he was showing signs of abuse, control and aggression. Anyways long story short, I think this is the final straw.
we went out to bingo tonight and he’s been in a foul mood for days. Anyways he kicked off yet again because he’s desperate for money and didn’t win- I did. We got the bus back to his road. When I got off the bus- he was behind me as I got off first. He also started walking really close behind me and I said normally to him “you can walk in front I don’t like people walking behind me it makes me feel threatened”. He then kicked off and started shouting and fuming “WHATEVER I CANT EVEN HOLD YOUR EFFING HAND” then he started storming off. I called after him but he didn’t stop walking I stopped expecting him to turn back but he didn’t. I’m a young woman with a handbag walking down a really dodgy road with dodgy people and alleyways. He stormed off far ahead and didn’t care. So I turned to another road like the strong woman I am deep down, made sure I was safe and stopped at a small main road by a church and I called a taxi home. Even though I had £0.00 on my card and have now gone overdrawn by nearly a tenner, because it’s my safety and I am done with this abusive POS. It’s not right what he’s done is it?
I know deep down I did the right thing and put myself first. He’s abusive and I’m so shocked this happened tonight. He is Jekyll and Hyde. I’ve locked all my doors up, drawn the curtains.
he has been texting twice and called twice but I’m not answering. I came on here because everyone on here has great advice and I don’t know where else to turn or who to talk to.
thank you , I’m proud of myself :)

Well thankfully he is an x boyfriend.

You know you can block his texts etc. You don't owe him anything.

Could he have been pissed off coz you won money and he didn't?

Sounds like you're better off without him.

I’m glad you’ve put some distance between you now, however my main question is why on earth are you still spending time with this guy? It sounds to me you’re playing with fire - I personally wouldn’t touch an abusive ex with a barge pole.

Please get help from friends / family and remember you are worth more than this. Please build up yourself and love yourself so you don’t feel like you need to spend a second with a ‘man’ like this. Yes you are right to keep yourself safe, but you are wrong to ignore the flags and your own gut instinct and keep company with this sort of man.

Wishing you all the best x

I've not read your other threads, but if you feel he's abusive why were you still with him for this to be the final straw. Just walk away.
But in this example, if someone told me they felt threatened by me walking behind them I'd probably walk away from them too.

How much did you win on the bingo?

I'm proud of you too op! Him shouting at you like that is abusive, and then walking off without a care about your safety is completely selfish. He doesn't care about anyone but himself and you deserve better for sure.

I'm so glad you were able to access your inner strong woman and look after yourself.

You can't put a price on your safety.

You can block him and close down your social media. If he has anything at yours bag it up and post it to him, signed delivery.

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Well done for not putting up with it any longer!!
Block him and go no contact. Don’t even explain it to him, cuts out the ping pong of messages of him trying to justify that behaviour.
No man should be leaving a woman alone. I won’t even drive away after I drop friends or family off until they shut their door!! Man or woman! Crazy fool, leave him to it.

You've done the right thing, but going forward always, always keep an emergency £20 in your bank.

If you haven't got an emergency £20, stay home. It's safer.

Well done OP, he sounds very unpleasant & threatening. I hope you can take some time to gather yourself together.

He doesn't sound great but I do feel some of this has been exaggerated.

If you had 0.00 money, where did the bingo money go and why are you going out when you have 0 in your account?

Pay for the taxi with your bingo money ? Or have you used it to get drunk ?

@OneBrightAzureBiscuit

OP Well done 👏🏼 I am proud of you & I don’t even know you. Your safety comes first! Pls don’t communicate any further, just think of it as him having walked off the face of the earth & you never need to spk to him again. One text ‘We are finished’ will suffice & block. Any man that can walk away from the person they are supposed to care about in the middle of the night is not your person. Pls block him & send any belongings to him. You are worthy of more & deserve a partner who will always protect you. 2025 will be absolutely fabulous for you as you no longer have a deadweight around your neck!

I don’t know who your talking about, your boyfriend was an amazing man who you wanted to have children a few weeks ago and it was your family that was abusive??

Why am I not surprised

I don't understand the whole "you can walk infront, people walking behind makes me feel threatened" comment.
Why didn't you just walk next to him?
If someone told me to walk ahead and went on about feeling threatened because of walking behind I'd just walk ahead and avoid the drama.

Oh, dear Still, OP, if you're still seeing this bloke I think you're right to stop seeing him and to block him on everything. He and his family sound problematic to say the least, and you've got enough other crap going on. Carrying on with him will only add to your troubles.

But would you act like an arsehole about it like the ex did?

I don't think he acted like a arsehole.

If this sort of thing was a regular issue I might make a snappy comment back.
She made the choice to stop walking after telling him to walk infront, Id guess he didn't want to then stop and deal with an inevitable argument.
There's obviously more that happened prior considering she was saying not to walk with her but ahead.
Regardless its a dysfunctional relationship and good it's over.

Your posts are interesting OP

In one you say your partner is fantastic and your trying for Children

In another

You say Your partner was abused as a child, depressed and tried to take his life

Then in another

You were depressed, abused as a child and tried to take your own life

Which story are we talking about tonight OP ?

He probably got fed up with not even being allowed to walk.

I’m a young woman with a handbag ....the strong woman I am deep down

Bit of fantasy first novel writing going on?

This reads like THE poorest form of chat gtp.