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Housing association saying I’m unreasonable I don’t think I am !!!

416 replies

HAunreasonable · 24/01/2025 08:23

The HA need to do planned repair/upgrade work. The appt slots are 830-1230 or 130-530.
I asked them to book mine around school runs but twice they’ve turned up when I’m out ? Now saying that if they are ‘refused entry’ a third time it will lead to further action???

Surely they have to be fair about this and come at a time that works for everyone

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Linzi2377 · 24/01/2025 10:00

the further action is forced entry..i was threatened with this also after them repeatedly turning up at 9.05 am whilst i was on school run

FoxInTheForest · 24/01/2025 10:00

Cosyblankets · 24/01/2025 09:53

And that's fine if it's something that can be isolated.

Even if a job isn't able to wait and knocks appointments back by an hour or so with a normal contractor there is the option to reschedule if that means you'll no longer be available. I've never had a time slot like 8am-2pm given for anything other than deliveries.

ImNotAsThinkAsYouDrunkIAm · 24/01/2025 10:01

Cherry8809 · 24/01/2025 09:55

My friend had something similar with her council property. They wanted to come and do a boiler and gas check, but she was out both times they came. They wrote to her saying if she wasn’t there to let them in the next time, they would get an emergency locksmith to gain entry to the property, and she would be fully liable for the charges.

Would be a bit silly for them to do this when the OPs offered to leave them a key though, wouldn't it? Can't see that one standing up in court!

FoxInTheForest · 24/01/2025 10:01

Linzi2377 · 24/01/2025 10:00

the further action is forced entry..i was threatened with this also after them repeatedly turning up at 9.05 am whilst i was on school run

That would be ideal for OP to be honest, she's happy for them to do it when she's not there and she'd likely be back by the time the locksmith got it open anyway.

ImNotAsThinkAsYouDrunkIAm · 24/01/2025 10:02

Linzi2377 · 24/01/2025 10:00

the further action is forced entry..i was threatened with this also after them repeatedly turning up at 9.05 am whilst i was on school run

Which is pretty daft when the OP has offered to leave them a key.

saraclara · 24/01/2025 10:08

BOREDOMBOREDOM · 24/01/2025 09:29

Does the school have a breakfast club? Then you can get back in time for the morning slot maybe

What are so many people asking questions that OP has already answered and made clear that breakfast club/elderly neighbour/child carer aren't options?

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 24/01/2025 10:08

The OP says she doesn't need this work doing.

I work alongside HA and Councils, I’m assuming as it’s planned work , the work required will be of a compliance nature.

Therefore its irrelevant if the OP doesn’t “need” the work done, if the work is compliance related, then as per the OP tenancy agreement which is a legally binding contract, the OP is legally required to give access, at the times stipulated.

If the HA is unable to offer different times , then the OP will have to find a way to allow access , if not she faces court action for breaching her tenancy agreement and therefore facing a fine (one HA court paperwork fee is £495) which the OP will be responsible for.

SillyMaker · 24/01/2025 10:09

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MadCatHag · 24/01/2025 10:12

I know people who'd give their right arm for a housing association place so if I were you I'd suck it up and count your blessings.

ImNotAsThinkAsYouDrunkIAm · 24/01/2025 10:13

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 24/01/2025 10:08

The OP says she doesn't need this work doing.

I work alongside HA and Councils, I’m assuming as it’s planned work , the work required will be of a compliance nature.

Therefore its irrelevant if the OP doesn’t “need” the work done, if the work is compliance related, then as per the OP tenancy agreement which is a legally binding contract, the OP is legally required to give access, at the times stipulated.

If the HA is unable to offer different times , then the OP will have to find a way to allow access , if not she faces court action for breaching her tenancy agreement and therefore facing a fine (one HA court paperwork fee is £495) which the OP will be responsible for.

The OP has found plenty of ways to allow access, they've just refused them all. They could wait 10 mins, use the key she's offered them, come during half term week...

Discodance1988 · 24/01/2025 10:15

You are being unreasonable I'm afraid, I live in HA house as well and they are the time slots we are given too. Either make sure someone can pick up/drop off your DC or keep them off school for that day if it's a massive issue for you.

Further action will be forced entry on which you will be charged for the locksmith and the new locks, plus a fine on top of that. It could (rarely) go as far as eviction. So even though you say these works aren't necessary they will be compulsory for the HA so your just going to have to find a way to sort it out I'm afraid.

Createausername1970 · 24/01/2025 10:16

Housebuy1 · 24/01/2025 09:52

if the latest slot starts at half one then why can’t you let them in at half one and nip out when they’re there to go and collect your children? Do you have to be there for the whole time?

That assumes they will be there at 1.30. They can turn up any time in that slot. So they could turn up just after she has left to get them from school.

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 24/01/2025 10:16

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The HA need to do planned repair/upgrade work

OP said this in her 1st post, the way she is speaking makes me believe it’s the EIRC, as that is planned and repairs where required.

Hopefully tho the HA will reply with a solution that both parties will be happy with.

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 24/01/2025 10:17

DaisyChain505 · 24/01/2025 08:41

You’re having something repaired in your home for free.

people who have mortgages and have to pay for their own repairs will be given times slots just like this too and have to deal with it.

you don’t deserve special treatment over anyone else.

And you took time from your busy day to write this helpful post. Bless.

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Oldermum84 · 24/01/2025 10:20

Ask for the afternoon slot. Tell the school your kid has a dental appointment and pick them up from school at lunchtime.

Gettingbysomehow · 24/01/2025 10:20

You can't expect them to turn up to suit clients, it isn't practical. You wouldn't expect hospital appointments to be booked around the school run would you?
Those of us who own our houses have to take days off for this kind of thing and use our annual leave and organise collections for children.
You are being very unreasonable.

Cattery · 24/01/2025 10:20

DaisyChain505 · 24/01/2025 08:41

You’re having something repaired in your home for free.

people who have mortgages and have to pay for their own repairs will be given times slots just like this too and have to deal with it.

you don’t deserve special treatment over anyone else.

Here we go yet again. Repairs aren’t “free”. They are paid for by the tenant as rent. The landlord has a duty to do an annual boiler safety check. HTH

DazzlingCuckoos · 24/01/2025 10:21

HAunreasonable · 24/01/2025 09:16

i think people think that everyone in HA property is getting it for free ? I work and I pay rent I do get UC but because I work evening and weekend and my mum does my childcare I’m not even claiming childcare costs . It’s not like I’m ungrateful for my home and for UC I just have to try and fit things around school. I won’t lie I don’t really want the dc off school it’s the only break I get !!

This is where being in a HA property is actually a downside compared to a private rented property.

My DH has a property that he lets out and if there's any repair work to be done, they'll try and arrange it so that the tenants are there, but if they aren't in, the agents can arrange for it to be an unattended visit. If the tenant doesn't want it to be unattended, the agents arrange a visit around their timeframe.

I totally understand why the HA want someone to be there (ultimately they probably did do unattended visits in the past, but there is probably a history of accusations of theft, etc), but the inflexibility must be infuriating.

Do you have a housing officer you can speak/write to?

I'd respond their threat of "further action" with an email or letter saying:

"As you are aware, I live alone with my DC, one of whom has special educational needs [make sure you add this bit in as it will hopefully trigger something]. Furthermore I have no local family or friends that are able to be in the house while I take my DC to school. I have, therefore, no option but to take and collect my children from school myself, even on the days where your engineers are booked to call.

I have repeatedly told you this, yet the engineers continue to come when I'm not in and you won't allow me to leave a key somewhere for them to get in and start work before I return.

I have considered every possible option for being able to be at home within the time frames booked, but it is impossible for the reasons mentioned above.

Please do not continue to send engineers when I have told you I am not at home."

beAsensible1 · 24/01/2025 10:24

you might have to keep DC off school for a half day then, just make up a dentist appointment

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 24/01/2025 10:24

ImNotAsThinkAsYouDrunkIAm · 24/01/2025 10:13

The OP has found plenty of ways to allow access, they've just refused them all. They could wait 10 mins, use the key she's offered them, come during half term week...

Compliance work is time lined , if not done within a certain period then it goes out of compliance!

So in all cases , the work cannot wait several months as then HA is complaint with the regulator!

There is a strict policies and procedures in place to meet the timelines, this includes when legal action will start and court action applied.

As the OP has missed/refused access twice, she will be breaching her tenancy agreement, in most cases the first appointment to court application is 3 months , 4 month for a court date.

DazzlingCuckoos · 24/01/2025 10:25

Oldermum84 · 24/01/2025 10:20

Ask for the afternoon slot. Tell the school your kid has a dental appointment and pick them up from school at lunchtime.

I think this is probably your best option @HAunreasonable to be honest. Unless, of course, your school needs proof of the appointment!

Either that or an illness that only requires one day off (i.e. not D&V).

saraclara · 24/01/2025 10:26

MadCatHag · 24/01/2025 10:12

I know people who'd give their right arm for a housing association place so if I were you I'd suck it up and count your blessings.

Suck it up how? She's tried twice to be there in their slot, but they've turned up when she's on the school run (that she warned them about). She's now getting threatening correspondence, which a private rent or home opener wouldn't get, as tradespeople would be more patient (they're not on a contract so don't want to waste their time turning up when the householder isn't there).

It's appalling that the only thing that is available to her is to keep her child off school. At which point the same council that had made that the only option, would be on her back about his absence.

Yes, getting an HA place is fortunate, but it also means that unlike those of us who own our homes, she gets no control over this kind of situation. It's swings and roundabouts.

biscuitsandbooks · 24/01/2025 10:26

@Cattery they're free in the sense that you don't pay for them on top of your rent.

willowbrookmanor · 24/01/2025 10:27

Book the slot, if you need to leave, put a note on the door asking them to call you. You can tell them where a key is and/or how long you will be before you are home. They can enter your property or sit in the van.