We got married about 3 years ago.
The house is under my husband’s name and he owns it solo.
During arguments, sometimes my husband will tell me to get out/leave out of his house. Sometimes, he will even start packing my things in the heat of moment.
In some cases, when he’s really angry, he demand I leave immediately and take ALL of belongings straight away. I agree that I’ll leave straight away but it’s impossible for me to take EVERYTHING straight away. He’ll say he doesn’t care and wants everything gone now. Sometimes he will even take the house keys off me.
Then he will do the cycle of “I said it in the heat of moment”. And reassures me this is my home too and he loves me etc.
and continue cycle. Tbh he doesn’t do this every argument. Maybe around 10% of the time. I have told him I understand he is angry during arguments, but I don’t like the telling me to leave. He reassures me he won’t do it. But it still happens.
Few weeks ago, I just expressed to my husband how I felt invalidated by him. I was trying to communicate my feelings and I was really calm. However, he just reacted badly to it. He told me to leave and that he is checked out and for me to find another husband. He also told me to leave the bedroom. So I went and slept on the sofa.
I did not react. I wasn’t upset or hurt this time. In the morning, I noticed he took his wedding ring off and placed it near me so I would see. He left for work.
Whilst he was at work, I packed as much of my things and left. I moved temporarily into my parents.
My husband has rang me. He told me he loved me a lot and misses me. He also told me he would not pack my things. Since then he has been really civil to me and is making effort. He is also respecting my space whilst I’m still at my parents. Thing is I don’t even feel upset or hurt. I don’t even miss him.
However, I have decided I have no intention of ever moving back into his house. I will look to buy somewhere for myself and live there. AIBU here for doing this despite him making so much effort over the past few weeks?