New neighbours issue.

[ToddCat66]

This is a little embarrassing, but please hear me out

The house that backs onto mine was recently sold to an older couple. You can see their garden clearly from the back bedroom which is my ds's (they are 4 and 7) bedroom.

They have this week installed a hot-tub in the garden. Today my youngest son comes running to me shouting that the lady has her b00bies out.

They are both sat naked in the hot-tub and you can clearly see everything It isn't a pretty sight and something I don't want my son's to have to see every time they look outside. Wibu to put a note through the letterbox asking them to cover up whilst they are outside or in the hot-tub? I'm too embarrassed to go round and talk to them.

@ToddCat66
You're being ageist. And it's absolutely OK to say "boobies" (if you must) without the doubly coy 0s.

I would let the neighbours know that they can be seen by small children but if they are ok with that, then leave them to it and just explain, as said above, that it's just bodies.

I hate my neighbours so maybe I'll invest in a hot tub and get my wrinkly baps out!

They are not strutting, they are sitting in a hot tub.
Of course they should be a bit more circumspect if overlooked but you make it sound like they are dancing around the garden naked.

I think you may have to put a barrier up in your own garden rather than them doing it, as anyone who is happily naked in an overlooked garden is unlikely to take anyone else into consideration. I wouldn't be happy with it if it was a regular thing.

Op didn’t mention genitalia, she said that the ladies breasts were visible.

Tell him to shut the blinds if it bothers him.

They aren't being naked at you. How often does anyone spend staring out if that window.

You aren't powerless, you can absolutely avoid seeing them and IMO you'd be helping your kids to minimise it by saying that we all have bodies and they have every right to be naked in the hot tub and if we don't like it then we don't look.

Words like boobies and saying that it isn't a pretty sight is immature and unhealthy. It's just a body.

And your post has serious "won't somebody please think of the children" vibes. The world doesn't revolve around our children.

This.

I can't believe how prurient the OP is.

I'd pop round and let them know. Not for myself or my kids, nudity isn't a problem for me, but so they are aware that their private space isn't very private. They deserve to know that one of your windows overlooks their garden.

Trellis at bottom of garden

Plus film on the window

I have to say that nudity wouldn't bother me and I would explain to them some people choose to be nude

I would put a note through the door make it jokey. Say your children have said they've seen "your boobies". I'm sure you're unaware that they could see. Just to save you further embarrassment :). Welcome to the neighborhood ;)

Why would someone who sits naked in their hot tub, surrounded by houses be embarrassed that neighbours can see her breasts?

They're just breasts in a hot tub. It's not like the man is openly masturbating

Would you be so offended if someone was breastfeeding in public?

I'd not make a big deal out of it with DS and agree with others saying it's just boobs BUT I would stick a note through and let them know that they can be seen. They might not have realised and will want to put a screen up for their own privacy.

In your position I would be telling the kids that people are allowed to show boobies in their own gardens and that they shouldn't be staring into people's gardens from their bedroom windows anyway, because it's rude.

Seriously, they were sitting in a hot tub, not having a wank. It's fine.

Tell your kid it's rude to stare into someone's back garden.

We don't need to sexualise the human body.

But I would have a chat with DC about the difference between someone deliberately showing their genitals (in which case always tell mummy) or people swimming.

Don't get the council involved. They may well have no clue anyone can see them.
Definitely write them a note. Try and do it quite light-hearted. It doesn't need to make you fall out with them.
Certainly don't mention you find their bodies unattractive. That is unnecessary and cruel.
I guess if they totally refuse you might need to put something up on your side? Or would your kids still be able to see in?

Just put up some trellis on your side. When you next see them just say, "I hope you don't mind we're putting up a bit of trellis, don't worry we're fine with the hot tub, but we have two little boys and you know what they can be like".

Hopefully then they'll get the hint they can be seen.

Really? So many posters would be fine with this? I don't want to see my neighbour's boobs when looking out of the window. I do like being able to look out and see sky, trees, plants, birds so blinds or obscuring the window wouldn't be ideal either.

I think I would push a note through - welcome to the neighbourhood, are you aware how overlooked the gardens are, hot tub looks fab, have you considered adding some screening around it.

Either they'll wear swimwear, put up some screening or continue as they are. If they continue as they are, I'd then look to put some trellis in my garden to screen my view.

If they are 'old' they are probably well past giving a fuck. I had hippy parents and was 'exposed' to many naked bodies as a child. It just taught me there are different bodies and nothing really wrong with any of them. Nothing sexual about it at all.

So weird that people think this okay aand that people should put up with it, i like my neighbours, but I don't want to see them naked! In fact I don't really want to see anyone apart from immediate family in the buff. It's not appropriate.

I am perfectly fine and accepting about bodies, often naked at home, and not inhibited, but social norms are a thing and full on nudity outside the home/in public in the UK, except for certain designated places/situations isn't socially the norm. I seriously doubt all the "get over it" lot on here would be delighted by naked neighbours in their sight line on the regular.

Gardens are not private spaces unless you really make them so. We are overlooked on three sides and overlook at least three gardens.

They're just breasts 🤷‍♂️

The OP didn't bother coming back to explain how she can apparently see 'everything' when they're in the hot tub.

Oh leave them be. Nothing wrong with nudity.