Not comfortable holding friends baby ?

[Shaumau]

I can see my friend gets a bit dissapointed when her baby doesn’t get that attention from me but get from her other friends. I don’t ignore the baby because thats a bit rude to me. But most of my focus is on my friend. Her baby just turned 1, so very mobile and active baby. She asked me why i didn’t want to hold her baby while we walked. For me it seems pointless walking with a baby on my arms, also im a but clumsy walker so i be afraid of dropping her baby or falling and hurting the baby if, thats what i told her not the pointless but only that im afraid of dropping.idk why some people need others to hold and cho em babies? Im not very good with them until they are older and can talk and you can have a Conversation with them. Babies aren’t my thing, im mostly awkward around em. And i don’t enjoy holding them either, and often they start crying to so... And if i have my own baby one time i would definitely not just try to force my baby on others unless they ask and want to. Sometimes even if not needed she just ask me to hold her but i give her back when we start walking because i don’t like that. We often hang all togheter with our boyfriends.

You're not a mum but you care about your friend right? Her coming out also means she is working hard taking care of the baby.

You don't know if she can leave the baby. Perhaps the baby is clingy. Perhaps she just wants a friend along, on one day of the adventure of parenting!

Being a parent to a young baby means putting yourself last all the time.

You don't HAVE to help her no. You don't HAVE to do anything. But it makes you sound like a baby yourself, "I dont need to do it to prove a point blah blah.." You're putting your own wants ahead of her in the queue, rather than setting aside your awkwardness and giving her a much needed bit of support. It really would not hurt you, and would make all the difference to her. Sucks to be your friend.

fortunately most of MN is obsessed with people wanting to hold their babies (but they don’t want them to, for various reasons) so at least this isn’t that…

I’m with you OP. I’ve got kids but I’d never expect anything in particular from my friends WRT my kids. Some take more of an interest that others, that’s cool.